How can we become humorous?

Humor is an effective way of communication in interpersonal communication. If used well, it can play a very good role in promoting mutual feelings in social life. Like a lubricant, it can enrich your language and emotional expression, increase your personality charm and make you feel at home in daily interpersonal communication. If you don't use it well, it's like coating yourself with 520 glue. You can't move, and you can't communicate.

When you are dating or communicating with a girl, are you likely to fall silent, or are you likely to become nervous and embarrassed? There is no topic, or you don't know what to say or do after the topic is finished. It seems that nothing is appropriate and you don't know why, so your brain becomes blank. Because I don't know what to say and do, the scene is quiet and abnormal, and I feel very nervous, but I dare not show it. I pretended to be calm and afraid of making a fool of myself. There is nothing on my face, but my heart is nervous and flustered. My brain thinks hard and wants to find a suitable topic to say or do, so as to ease my embarrassment and resolve my inner anxiety. The more so, I find that the more so, it will even backfire. So how to deal with this situation? First of all, let's think about the purpose of blind date or girl interaction, which is to communicate and increase the sense of existence. Pull into each other's distance and get married? Or simply want to eliminate their anxiety and loneliness? First of all, communication is to better understand girls' careers, hobbies, family background, three views of cognition and judge whether they match us. This is a process. When dating a girl, you must first understand your career. At this time, what we need to do is to listen, understand first, then laugh, observe her personality, hobbies, what she is doing, make a simple understanding, and then take this as a starting point and make a modest joke. However, we should grasp the degree of jokes. Different people have different exposure to jokes, and we should learn to adjust the scope of jokes. If you really can't find it, you can combine yourself, make fun of yourself, or laugh at yourself, so as to get closer to each other. Then there are * * * emotions, cognitive * * * emotions, and three views of * * * emotions, but this is based on understanding and needs to be selected as appropriate to get to her point. If it has nothing to do with her, it is difficult to attract her attention and interest, unless it is for you, or to save face. Of course, if you have no jokes to tell, don't understand love, and have no topic to talk about, then put sincerity first. The jokes that are not funny are not the most terrible, but the ones that are most acceptable are those that have nothing to say and are hypocritical. Remember, sincerity is the best love and the most basic way to express your style.

Humorous communication can make people happy, relax, enliven the atmosphere and pull them into the relationship. In short, what should we do to satisfy the expectation and joy of people who listen to jokes? Accidents can bring joy. For example, when others are telling their own experiences or the scene is deserted, suddenly making a joke on the occasion can play a good role in activating the atmosphere, creating accidents or patiently paving the way, and improve the interest and attention of the audience, just like writing a mystery novel and then ending with a big burden, giving people surprises and surprises. Then make good use of reverse thinking, speak out directly, and finally make a big reversal, resulting in a sense of surprise.

You know, the ultimate goal of humor is to make people feel comfortable, bring joy to others, and then let others accept themselves. If possible, exaggerate your expression with some exaggerated expressions and surprise people in a surprise way. Don't be afraid of losing face. The more you are afraid of losing face, the more you will become stiff and nervous. Nowadays, the more people who are not afraid of losing face in society, the more they will be admired, and the more they are afraid of losing face, the more they will be looked down upon. The same is true at the dinner table. Expressing yourself boldly and sincerely and enlivening the atmosphere with well-meaning and intelligent jokes will often become the center of the dinner table and attract people's attention. Imitate more, but stop when you are ready.

During the Chinese New Year, when relatives walk around and congratulate each other on the New Year, it is inevitable to have some greetings and talk to each other. Whether you are going home for the New Year or wandering around the village, you will inevitably have a lively conversation. At this time, when you meet your elders, you often say hello first, then exchange a few pleasantries, and then tell each other about your experiences. After that, they will basically fall into a cold silence. They don't know what to say next. At this time, they often say hello and then choose to leave. This is a basic interactive process and a common way of communication in rural cities. This is true and there is no problem, but can it be done better? If some appropriate humorous elements are added to it, will the neighborhood relationship be closer and will it play a good role in the subsequent New Year's party or the image building in the coming year? A joke with unexpected burdens, full of wisdom and goodwill, can not only make people feel comfortable and surprised, but also quickly narrow the sense of distance and intimacy, so that they can maintain a positive image in the next year. Why not? At the banquet, we should first keep a low profile, because there are elders, so let them speak first. When the whole atmosphere is stimulated to be active, it is most important to speak sincerely. On the premise of being good at and sincere, add some humorous elements appropriately.

The same is true at company parties or annual meetings on the wine table. You can choose to be silent, or you can choose to express yourself by speaking, but the most important premise is sincerity and respect, respect for your leadership, not being the first person, letting people with special status in the company or people who are focused on take the lead, or speaking first and then speaking freely. When you speak freely, you can choose to be silent or open your mouth, but when you open your mouth, you should express enough sincerity and respect so as not to offend others. You know, the main job of the company's wine table party is to enhance feelings and comfort subordinates, so as to make persistent efforts. If you act in a high-profile manner on the wine table, be unknown in actual work, or just act as a soldier, then those who usually perform better than you, or have a higher level than you, will have a problem, because they have no performance, and if you are more active than them, they will have a problem, because the leaders are watching. As the saying goes, do your job well in your own position, know your position, when to do what, what to do and how to do it, and choose according to your position, so as not to offend people. Of course, if you are a soldier and insignificant at ordinary times, you need to keep a low profile at parties or wine tables, and at least one sentence should not attract attention, so that you can live longer and cause less trouble. If you want to make progress, show it in your ordinary work. After all, the company is for profit, and if you have the ability to make a profit for it, people will naturally take a fancy to it and reuse it. In short, the company party will be the same as usual. In short, talk, talk, talk and talk in a sincere, friendly and humorous way. Courage is very important, be thick-skinned.

At ordinary times, we should take work as the center, talk whenever we can, walk around more at ordinary times, ask questions at will, be sincere and learn more, and make jokes appropriately after understanding to enliven the atmosphere.

In daily life, the main thing to communicate with your family is to relax, because you are familiar with your family and they know your personality. No matter how you disguise yourself and make yourself look friendly and sincere, your family will see it at a glance and will not give you face. Because you are familiar with it, you will turn back mercilessly, which will not only hinder your communication, but also make your response quite embarrassing. How can I communicate well with my family? As long as there is no real influence, you can do it, that is, how to get what you want, choose the right one first, and explore slowly, because families can try and explore slowly within a certain range until they find a boundary line that is suitable for both sides, and communicate on this basis. Of course, you can also add some humorous jokes with unexpected burdens and wisdom.

Humor casting method: 1. If you write a novel, pave the way for the future, introduce attention and expectation, and satisfy the sense of expectation. 2. Speak flatly, demonstrate seriously, reduce the sense of expectation, and suddenly tell amazing jokes to surprise people. 3. Reverse the ending with reverse thinking.

Dating a girl to go shopping, when you leave, you will walk side by side, look around, divert your attention, and reduce the anxiety and tension caused by inner dating. At this time, if there is no topic, you will feel uncomfortable because there are strange companions next to you. This was supposed to increase your relationship, but now you are lonely and have nothing to say. After a long time, you will be extremely embarrassed and uncomfortable, and you will have an impulse to escape. Only the present situation is because we care too much about the present situation, too much about our own purpose and too much about each other's views. If you don't think about how to speak, how to leave a good impression on others, how to be conscious, regard each other's likes and dislikes as everything, put yourself first in humility, and don't care about your feelings. We always think about what impression others will leave on us. What can I do to make a good impression? If we always think too much, be suspicious and be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, then dating is likely to be passive, and we will unconsciously fall into an uneasy situation and put ourselves in a very low position. You should know that emotions are contagious. If you are nervous and anxious, your emotions will be transmitted unconsciously and affect others. No one will like this stiff atmosphere. Both of them are in this situation, and the date will naturally feel uncomfortable and want to escape. This will go to a certain extent, and naturally it will be abolished. The first point, that is, consciousness, no matter how she is, should be placed at the same height first, and then after careful observation and preliminary judgment, after sincerely asking about her career, hobbies, or three views, she will explain her experience in the discussion. If there is no topic, keep asking, of course, not endlessly. When you ask more than three questions, you can't find the same topic, and the other person doesn't understand you at the same time, then focus on your own business. Experience, or stories, jokes, etc. How to have a good time is to have a good time. It is also fun to get to know each other, but always be sincere and don't exaggerate. Just be yourself, but whether you are introverted or extroverted, honest or smart, come as you should, and don't hide it. It's easy to make people think that you are inferior and have no opinion, which will make people look down on you. Don't be afraid of losing face, don't be thin-skinned, say what you should and do what you should, as long as you are sincere enough, don't pretend.

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? Think about it, when communicating with people, first make a general image preset of career, hobbies, three views and personality, so as to rummage through everything, enliven the atmosphere and narrow the distance.

How to create a joke? On the premise of sincerity, combined with hobbies, it is pleasant to make jokes unexpectedly, which can pave the way for the future, step by step, give people a sense of expectation, and finally meet expectations and surprises, just like writing a novel. It can be to lower expectations, reduce the listener's sense of expectation, tell some plain things, and finally create surprises to make bloggers laugh. Or use reverse thinking, the case result is reverse, which makes people shine. All this has a * * * feature, which is an accident, just like receiving a birthday present. When unpacking the box, you will feel full of expectation, and when you see the gift, you will feel satisfied and surprised, so that the listener's unexpected joke will have a surprise purpose and the effect will be full. * * * Three Views of Emotion, Emotion * * *

You can also use more exaggerated techniques, such as exaggerating when eating cards, exaggerating when discussing card skills or discussing a dish, but don't overdo it, enough is enough, and take it when it is good, but let people know that you are performing, such as "If you play this card like this, you will win." Or "this dish tastes like a five-star hotel." Wait a minute. Exaggerate appropriately, but with good intentions. Or you can use a little analogy, such as "Your head is Jay Chou." "You look like Daniel Wu." Wait a minute.

Well, if you see this, you still think it's not good, saying that when I enter the chat scene, especially when dating, my mind will be blank, and my heart will be extremely nervous, unable to speak, and I don't know what to say or do. People who feel inferior like us will be swayed by considerations of gain and loss and cannot be ourselves. Well, in that case, put aside everything above, improvise and follow your feelings. First of all, we must have courage, have the courage to speak, don't be afraid of losing face, and be thick-skinned.

After I do, I will formalize my feelings, ask whatever I want, say whatever I want, and don't be too high-profile. For example, I am an honest man, and I am afraid that others will see me. It's easy to make me timid, nervous, feel inferior, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and doubt myself. Don't set up people, don't set up people, don't set up people, the important thing is to say it three times. To set up a person is to put chains on yourself, so that you can speak carefully and look forward and backward. Besides, even an honest man can't do it or do it, and it's unnecessary, and then he will understand the inquiry with curiosity.

After you get to the point, combine your own experience with others' experience, and express your feelings appropriately, so as to achieve the purpose of * * * love. At this stage, we need to find the same point.

You can praise it after you do it. It's not how good someone's performance is, but a little humorous element, such as: "The PE teacher died early, which made your performance so good." Come if you like.

Another point is that according to the situation, different paragraphs should be combined with different scenes. Different paragraphs in different scenes will not make people feel uncomfortable, let others naturally accept digestion and have the effect you want.

In order to prevent the ice, we should leave a way out for ourselves, and we can prepare some jokes in a targeted way in case of emergency.