What do you think about gossip among colleagues?

I got off work a full hour later than usual today. A male colleague also waited for me for an hour, and then we took a car back home together. Because we live close to each other and take the same bus to and from get off work, we usually take the bus together when we get off work. In fact, it’s nothing. Everyone has nothing to do after get off work. When I get off work together, I can still have company on the way home. I never thought there was anything wrong with this, but maybe because he waited for me for a long time tonight, some colleagues started to make fun of me.

Why did he come to ask me to go home with him again? He also asked him to help me with some work things when he has nothing to do in the future. Don’t always let me be so busy alone. I don’t have to wait so hard, and the two of us can go home early or something. When I heard this, I actually knew it was just a joke between colleagues, but I still felt uncomfortable in my heart. Later, it was because of this colleague that he took the initiative, and then two or three more colleagues joined in. Everyone talked to each other, just like playing a double act. It is said that three women make a drama, and the girls in the company thought they had done enough foreplay for us. It seems that there is really some ambiguous relationship between me and him. Seeing this scene, my first reaction was to take the best option, so I made an excuse to go to the bathroom. Just before they were about to go out, a female colleague who had seemed relatively quiet before joined them in talking about us.

She asked me to hurry up and finish the work at hand, and not to keep the male colleague waiting. If I go back early, I can still do something else. After hearing what she said, I really felt bad. I didn’t believe that such words could come from the mouth of such a quiet girl, and because of this, all my previous good impressions of her were broken. I have a straightforward personality, so just before closing the door, I said they were talking too venomously and that was not good. Later, the colleague said that he was joking and should not take it seriously. Although I know in my heart that this is just a boring thing that colleagues like to do when they are bored, I still feel that it is so uncomfortable for this kind of thing to happen to me.

Actually, I have encountered similar things before, but it didn't happen to me at that time. When I saw my colleagues making noise there, I thought it was nothing. I knew in my heart that they were just bored at work and wanted to find something to entertain themselves. But I didn't participate in it, I just watched it as a spectator. What happened was that for some time, this male colleague, I, and another female colleague always went downstairs to eat together. But for a while, my laziness kicked in, so I started ordering takeout and didn’t want to go out to eat with them. As a result, what was originally a dinner party for three people became just two of them, and inevitably some colleagues would make fun of them.

That girl has a carefree personality, so she doesn’t pay much attention to this kind of thing. Occasionally when we get off work, the boy comes over, and they will ask if they are going to the girl's house for dinner tonight or something. In fact, it is just a joke between the two of them, and there is no malice. But sometimes I always feel that these people have bad intentions. The pure friendship between two colleagues is always maliciously speculated, and even treated as a topic of conversation after dinner, which is really meaningless. In fact, the three of us are relatively good colleagues, so occasionally when we hear their intentional or unintentional gossip, we feel sorry for that girl. After all, that girl actually has a boyfriend. Just imagine if the girl's boyfriend heard such words, he would have to slap his nose in his face, roll up his sleeves and slap each of them in the face. To be honest, I occasionally fantasize about such a scene, which feels a bit satisfying and makes me feel happy for a long time.

Originally, it was normal for colleagues to chat and laugh with each other after they had eaten and had nothing to do. In my spare time, I also like to get together with everyone and chat about the dramas I watched recently. However, the quite pure friendship between colleagues often turns sour after everyone's few words, and the friendship between colleagues becomes more and more awkward. A friend once told me that there was a pretty good-looking female colleague who came to their company, and people in the company wanted to get that girl to be with him. In fact, at that time, my friend had broken up with his ex for a few months, and it was also a window period. I thought it would be a good thing to be matched up.

My friend told me that the girl was quite beautiful. That was true when I first saw her, and I felt quite fond of her.

But later on, colleagues would always match up intentionally or unintentionally, and would often make fun of them. As for the girl, she is a thin-skinned type. In order to avoid the gossip of her colleagues, she gradually started to avoid my friends. Because of this, the intersection between them became less and less, and the feelings they had at the beginning also disappeared with the passage of time. Just imagine if there weren't so many colleagues who had good intentions and did bad things and always liked to gossip. Maybe the two of them had been getting along day and night and had developed a good impression of each other and got together, and they wouldn't have ended up like this. To be honest, my friends did complain to me later about the colleagues who tried to bring them together, but after thinking about it later, I realized that they actually had good intentions. The final result was the opposite, which they had never expected, so they no longer blamed them.

To be honest, if this thing doesn't really happen to you, you may at best think of it as watching someone else's joke. Only after experiencing it yourself will you realize that this kind of gossip is actually quite lethal. Two colleagues of the opposite sex who were originally very good friends, but their relationship was really just a pure friendship, may have become more and more distant because of these gossips. I was afraid that getting too close would cause unnecessary gossip, so I began to avoid them intentionally or unintentionally. Eventually, I no longer had too many interactions, and the relationship became weaker and weaker.

I feel from the bottom of my heart that it is better to talk less about gossip. You really don’t need to worry about whether they are together or not. Isn’t it good to mind your own business? If you really feel too idle, you might as well find some learning materials to improve your skills, which is better than just talking.

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