How to use a ball game to tell your children: "Don't be arrogant when you win, and don't be discouraged when you lose"?

Scenes of parent-child communication can be everywhere. For example, watching a football game with your children can be a close and relaxed parent-child interaction, and it can also play an educational role. The process is very enjoyable and does not feel like preaching at all.

June is really a "luxury feast" for sports fans. The quadrennial World Cup is being staged, and after Portuguese general Cristiano Ronaldo performed a "hat trick" in the last game, last night he was In the first 4 minutes, he scored the goal of Morocco with a header, scoring 1 point for the Portuguese team, and maintained the lead until the final whistle sounded, successfully retaining the chance to qualify from the group.

How could such an exciting scene be without my little football fans? After witnessing the Moroccan team's frequent attacks but always in vain, with 5 minutes left in the game, she predicted: "Win, the Portuguese team will definitely win!" I glanced at her and uttered a sentence : "Not necessarily, remember? Until the moment the game ends, you will never know what the final result will be." "Oh, oh, yes!" She nodded vigorously, "Just like Chen Xingtong played against the Japanese teenager. It’s the same in every game, leading 3-0 but being overturned in the end.”

Yes, she was referring to the women’s singles semifinals of the Japan Table Tennis Open that just ended. The match between Chen Xingtong and Japanese teenager Mima Ito. Chen Xingtong is 21 years old and has won the Asian Championship mixed doubles championship and the World Cup team championship. Mima Ito is 17 years old and is a genius girl in Japanese women's table tennis. She has won a team bronze medal in Rio and won the women's singles championship in the German Open. .

Judging from the resume, Chen Xingtong is higher than Mima Ito in terms of age, qualifications and honors. In the first three games of the game, Chen Xingtong lived up to expectations and led by a big score of 3-0. In the fourth game, Mima Ito The game was still losing points continuously at the beginning. Even after falling behind 4-8, they continued to chase a few points. They became more and more courageous with every setback, and finally tied the score at 3-3. In the decisive game, Mima Ito defeated Chen Xingtong 11-7, and finally succeeded in coming back with a big score of 4-3.

After the game, the fan’s dad beat his chest and said: “We lost in such a great situation! What?!” The little fan shouted: “How could this happen?! How could the Chinese team lose?! Huh! I don't accept it!" "Dad, didn't you say that Chen Xingtong is very powerful? You also said that Mima Ito has never defeated her. Why did she lose to Mima Ito today?" The father and daughter performed exactly the same, until I heard this sentence, I felt that it was my turn to take action. Maybe, this is not just a ball game, but probably a vivid education lesson.

"When Chen Xingtong was leading 3-0 and leading 8-4 in the fourth game, did you two think that Chen Xingtong was sure to win?" I asked the fans, big and small. The little fan was the first to answer: "Yes, there is only 3 points left, she can definitely win!"

"Yes, any Chinese who watches this game will be secretly happy: Chen Xingtong will win soon." We must win! However, because the game did not really end at this time, the big score of 3-0 was not the final result. The situation of the next game did not develop in the direction expected, but Mima Ito's final 4-0 3 won the game. Baby, this is the first thing your mother wants to tell you after this game:

The little fan nodded after hearing this

"Let's guess again. Let’s take a look at Chen Xingtong’s psychological evolution. Maybe at that moment, she herself, like the vast majority of Chinese people, believed that victory was in sight, and she was somewhat complacent. She accidentally relaxed her vigilance, and her skills may have He discounted his position and was taken advantage of by his opponent, and he was out of control. This is the second sentence your mother wants to tell you:

"Similarly, let's observe Mima Ito's psychology when the big score is 0 to 3 and behind 4 to 8 in the fourth game. , as long as she loses by 3 points, she will lose the whole game. If it were you, what would you think?" I lowered my head and asked the little fan leaning in my arms. She thought for a while and said: "I will definitely be sad, thinking that I will lose the game soon, and I will definitely not be in the mood." "Haha, if you are Mima Ito, you will definitely lose this game. It’s not over yet, but you have given yourself a retreat. It’s strange that you can still come back.” I laughed at her, “But Mima Ito did not give up on defeat, so she didn’t lose, she won.

This is the third sentence your mother wants to tell you:

At this time, the fan’s father became excited and joined the discussion: "Baby, didn’t you ask why Ito won Xiaotong today? Except for my mother In addition to the reasons analyzed, there is another important factor for Mima Ito to win the game today. "Do you want to know?" Wei Daolai: "Every athlete must have a task after each game to summarize the game. Review the game scene, watch the game video constantly, and find out the scoring of each ball, for example, how did I score this ball? What style of play and tactics were used to score? Why did the opponent lose points? What tactics should I use next time to avoid losing points? What are the characteristics of my opponent and what methods should I use to deal with it? ? Wait, etc., in short, we must learn from the good experience in the game and continue to carry it forward, clearly understand the reasons for the mistakes, find solutions, and ensure that we will not lose points in the same place next time.”

Feeling that the little fan was going to be confused, I quickly added: "Yes, Dad analyzed it very well. This is the same as Teacher Mao asking you to use the wrong question book well. It doesn't matter if you did the wrong question this time, as long as you analyze it carefully , find the correct way to do the questions, correct them, take notes, and practice more often, and you will definitely get it right next time."

"Oh, so? Teacher Mao did not allow us to copy the answers directly. She asked us to know how the answers were calculated. I understand, I will definitely use the wrong question book. "The little fan is so happy.

The discussion is over and the process was very pleasant. The key points I wanted to convey to her were also packaged and sent out. Watching football games is not just a fan behavior, it can become a form of more intimate and relaxed parent-child interaction. , doesn’t look like preaching at all, does it? You can try it too.

I am Yan Yan, a DISC Behavioral Style Certified Lecturer, a National Level 2 Human Resources Manager, a Breastfeeding Instructor, and a mother with 10 years of working experience. I am willing to communicate with you and your child. Question, thanks for reading, thank you!