In a husband-wife relationship, during which three moments does a man need his wife the most?

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Marriage is like a strong city wall that can withstand many intrusions. On the contrary, it is a very small and inconspicuous ant hole, but it makes this city wall more powerful. Many cracks are slowly beginning to collapse.

There are many turning points in a man's life. As his wife, if a woman does not encourage or support him at these turning points, many "ant holes" will appear in a man's heart, destroying him. Walls of love.

If a woman ignores the needs of a man in marriage, it will be difficult for a woman to establish a mutually supportive relationship.

After Zhou Mei and Gao Yang got married, Gao Yang doted on her very much. She always felt that she was married for love, and the two of them lived a happy life.

Originally, her husband’s job was stable. However, due to the subsequent economic downturn, it became increasingly difficult to work in various industries, and Gao Yang’s career and income were also affected.

He is extremely busy soliciting customers from everywhere every day, just to improve the current predicament. With low income, the pressure of life becomes even heavier. Gao Yang's career has been at a low point, but Zhou Mei can't see her husband's anxiety. She only remembers that her husband once promised her to buy her a car she likes on her 30th birthday.

Excluding living expenses, there is no extra money left to buy a car for my wife. And because of work reasons, Gao Yang was busy working overtime on his wife's birthday.

It was already eleven o'clock in the evening when she got home, and Zhou Mei looked unhappy. Whether it was Gao Yang buying a skirt for her with the money he saved from living expenses, or Gao Yang deliberately telling jokes and teasing her. happy.

Zhou Mei still said with an angry look: "You are just a dishonest and useless man. You can't even afford a car, and you said you want to give me a better life. I They are all lies to deceive me. ?

The wife pushed Gao Yang out of the door and said that he could not sleep in the bedroom tonight. After Gao Yang called the door several times, his wife did not respond. Gao Yang, lying on the sofa, couldn't sleep for a long time.

Because of his wife's incomprehension and complaints, Gao Yang thought of resigning and wanted to learn to do business on his own. In order to start a business, Gao Yang invested all his family's savings and prepared to work hard.

Later, with Gao Yang’s efforts, several business orders were finally made. However, the mother at home suddenly became seriously ill and had terminal cancer. Gao Yang needs to be busy with his career and hopes that his wife can help take care of his mother.

However, the relationship between Zhou Mei and her mother-in-law is not good, and she is not willing to take care of her at the bedside. I dislike the smell of the old man's body, the hospital is too noisy, and he can't rest well.

Gao Yang had to take care of his mother while busy with his business. After being treated in the hospital for half a month, my mother-in-law could not resist the erosion of the disease and passed away.

At that time, Gao Yang was still in grief, but his wife seemed to be relieved, and called her best friend and said: "Fortunately, no one is losing money and life, and I don't have to fight with her anymore." Staring, looking at the nose is not the nose, and looking at the face is not the face

Gao Yang heard all these words and felt that his wife was too cold. After all, even if he did not get along with his mother-in-law, After all, she was her husband's mother, and she felt a little alienated from her wife.

Later, Gao Yang's business also encountered a crisis. Not only did he not make any money, he also had to pay a sum of money in compensation. Not only did Gao Yang lose the money he earned, but he also lost all the savings he had worked so hard to save.

For a while, Gao Yang felt that he was not good at doing business, and he was full of denial and frustration towards himself. As a wife, Zhou Mei didn't care about her husband's inner feelings and could only complain.

Zhou Mei put all the pressure and responsibility on Gao Yang. In the end, Gao Yang could no longer feel cared for and understood. His wife only ignored and complained about him in the marriage, and Gao Yang was heartbroken. He couldn't help but filed for divorce from his wife.

In marriage, men, like women, actually need more care and concern.

If a woman ignores the needs of a man in marriage, then the neglect in marriage is like a corrosive, which will slowly drain away love and make the marriage fragile.

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Many women ignore the three moments when a man needs his wife, and the marriage breaks down.

When a man makes too little money and enters a low period in his career, the woman ignores his anxiety and instead blames and complains.

Although men give people a strong impression most of the time, even so, he still has a fragile side. There are times when he doubts himself and encounters his own difficulties.

Husbands and wives want honor, disgrace and love. Life is full of twists and turns, with highs and lows. When you are on high, I applaud you. But when you are at a low point, if you can, reach out your hand and let me hold you for a while.

The icing on the cake is never remembered. It's a timely help, even if you can only give him a hug or stand quietly beside him, he will remember you and your goodness for the rest of his life.

In life, it is often men who take care of women more. He will not be vulnerable forever. When he occasionally shows his weak side, women must take care of him just like men take care of themselves. This will make the relationship between the two people deeper.

When a man loses a loved one, the woman breathes a sigh of relief, ignores his sadness, and gives him a sense of indifference.

A woman and a man’s parents are not related by blood. If they get along later, they will not be able to get along very well. However, when a man's close relative dies, he is the person he cares about most. He should understand the man's mood, comfort him, and make him feel better.

There is this passage in "One Hundred Years of Solitude": "Parents are the curtain between us and death. There seems to be something between you and death, and you have no feelings." ? Your parents stand between you, and you will not face these things until your parents pass away. Otherwise, the death you see will be very abstract and you will not know it. ?

No matter who it is, the death of a parent will have a very strong impact on the children, making them truly experience life and death. This is a turning point in life. From then on, the person who was willing to give unconditionally for him in his life really left.

At this time, you will truly feel loneliness. It is a kind of loneliness that cannot be resolved in the soul.

You will feel that your heart is empty, and this feeling may last for a long time.

As a wife at this time, she must find ways to cheer her husband up, help him little by little, and fill his heart. If a woman is left with nothing but indifference, she feels relieved just because this person is gone and makes herself comfortable.

Then such a wife will become a stranger in the eyes of men, and he will no longer be interested in loving her.

No matter how bad the relationship with a man's close relatives is, he will definitely be sad when she passes away. A woman should give him care and need companionship.

When a man feels frustrated, a woman ignores his vulnerability and puts pressure on him.

Whether you are a man or a woman, when you are in a bad mood, you want someone to comfort you.

A woman is often pampered by a man. Why can’t women learn to comfort a man when he is fragile and needs comfort? It can only show that women have ignored love and ignored the needs of men.

A man will feel that a woman does not understand him, does not give him understanding and support, and a woman cannot give him spiritual comfort. He will unconsciously alienate this woman and stop loving her.

After two people have been together for a long time, they actually need to understand and communicate with each other. Sometimes you don't even need to say anything, just look at the other person's eyes and you will know what the other person needs.

This is called love. If a woman continues to accuse him when he is vulnerable, it only means that she does not love him enough. And men will stay away from women when they behave like this.

In fact, what men need more is understanding and support.

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To love someone, you must not only enjoy the fruits of his victory, but also stand up bravely and strongly when he needs you, even if your shoulders are not that solid. , but also tell him with your own attitude that I can also protect you from wind and rain.

Instead of blaming him or blaming him for not being able to do anything well or doing anything well. Everyone has that moment when they are at the bottom. Perhaps as long as there is one person who believes in him, he will stand up again and rush to a new starting point to climb again.

Good love supports and encourages each other, rather than just blaming and complaining.

In fact, there are not many tips for running a marriage. It is nothing more than caring more about each other, caring more about each other, meeting each other's needs, and being the most caring confidant.

Love also requires motivation. When a man can’t walk, when he encounters difficulties and adversity, only when a woman learns to tolerate and understand, and gives enough care can a man have more motivation to fight. .