Have you ever rejected your poor parents?

At the club's first dinner, the atmosphere was very harmonious. We talked about whether we met any handsome guys and beautiful women when we first arrived at the new school, how to choose our major, and how we felt about our male and female friends in high school. I don't know if I talked about it later. No topic. Suddenly, Zhang Lin asked, "Hey, what do your parents do?"

The disciples around the table looked different and embarrassed. Obviously, this is a very personal question, and colleagues who have just met rarely open their hearts. In particular, I also know that I have two younger brothers, and the family conditions are very bad. They not only apply for extension of tuition fees, but also do various part-time subsidies for living expenses.

Later, I told a story about Zhang Lin running for minister and made a joke. At this time, the cold atmosphere slowly began to ease.

I mentioned this to Zhang Lin after dinner, and he was puzzled. "When I heard that you changed the subject immediately, I realized your concern. Can humble and shabby parents have anything to do with our face at the moment? My father is a motorcycle driver and my mother is a shop assistant. This is a fact, and there is nothing to hide. Our parents' future concerns us. If they don't do well, we should be ashamed. "

Zhang Lin's words struck my past like a stick.

I remember when I was in primary school, my parents were laid off for several years, biting their teeth and selling vegetables for a living. I don't know how many former colleagues and friends ridiculed me. I'm ashamed, too. Every time I write a composition or my classmates ask about my parents' work, I will say that my parents are civil servants and leaders.

I also told them to pick me up when the school was almost over and it was close to six or seven. Parents will always say that their parents are not available, because I think their vicissitudes are abrupt in a pile of faces carved by rich life, and their cheap and inferior clothes can't be covered up even if they are washed white. Sometimes when I meet my classmates in the street, I can't even admit that it is my parents standing beside me.

In those years, my relationship with my parents was very tense, but they thought I was naive and never blamed me for being ignorant. Later, because of an accidental opportunity, my parents partnered with others to do business, and my family finally became rich.

I once deeply disliked my poor parents and complained about the injustice of fate. Now that I think about it, I feel ridiculous. I am like an adult, obviously naive, but pretending to be self-serious, constantly accusing my parents of being so disappointing.

I used to feel that my parents humiliated me, but now I understand that I should be ashamed, but not for my parents' poverty, but for myself: I am ashamed to see my parents running around, but I am far away; I am ashamed that I didn't help my parents set up food stalls like other sensible children.

At that time, I didn't understand: a window without glass, even if the curtains are closed, the whistling wind will still blow the curtains, and outsiders can always see the walls of the house clearly. What I should do is not to hide, but to repair windows and decorate my home with my own ability.

02

Once I called my cousin names angrily. He dares to pursue the person he likes, and is not afraid of rejection or jokes. He thought he was shooting an idol drama all day, but he couldn't help but admit that his parents were pitiful and help them manage the breakfast stall.

Some people are always so unfair to love and affection. It is not painful to be labeled as "spoony" by public opinion, but it is uncomfortable to be said that "poor children are in charge early". I wonder if this is a common problem of the younger generation.

"You outsiders will stand at the commanding heights of morality and accuse me of ignorance. Those are my parents! If others are poor and others live a humble life, I will not feel humiliated! " The exhaustion of my cousin's screams made me feel a little relieved. At least I could hear that he knew he had done something wrong, but his strong self-esteem made him afraid to help his parents in front of his classmates, because my uncle and aunt's breakfast stall was right at the intersection of his school.

"I am afraid that my classmates will point fingers, and I am even more afraid of the so-called pity that they say they want to help my business more. I'm scared, I can't stand it! "At that time, my cousin was already in high school, and a man of one meter eight was crying in front of me.

I suddenly realized that I used to think like this: because I was afraid, because I couldn't stand it.

"But when you enter the society, you will find that there are still many things that life can't stand. You won't put up with HR's worry that your education is low, colleagues think you are inefficient, others say your salary is low, and your girlfriend hates your car and house. But don't you just regard other people's eyes and other people's comments as the only standard of your life? It's pathetic.

Life has given you such a parent, such a family and such an experience, so don't be timid and be invulnerable. The future is still long, and there will be more embarrassment and embarrassment in the future life, which you can't cover up for fear of losing face.

No matter how humble your parents are, they are the only pure white that you plunge into the colorful society. Please don't use your disgusting eyes. Disgusting behavior embarrassed them. Have you ever thought that your parents have been unable to sleep at night because of your dislike? Have you ever thought that your parents have self-esteem and raising you is the only reason they are willing to bow to poverty? "

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I told my cousin a lot that day. I don't know whether I'm blaming him or telling myself. I was so impressed that I cried myself later.

03

A few years ago, I read a news: Xi 'an, a boy of 18 years old, was so poor that he beat and scolded his parents and was killed by his father and buried underground.

Poverty should be a family's joys and sorrows, but the family's affection and abundant water sometimes become the sadness that crushes people's psychological defense. Because of his poor family, this 18-year-old boy was looked down upon and bullied all day. He was very wronged and depressed, and finally put the blame on his parents, who were always abusive or beaten. Later, when interviewed by reporters, the villagers reported that "Wa is usually fine, only blaming his couple for being lazy, forcing Wa to do nothing" and "The couple planted 18 mu of land, but they just didn't care".

Such a tragedy is embarrassing. Teenagers may not dislike poor parents, but dislike their laziness. But there are reasons for poverty, but violence is the most useless solution. Since parents are not thrifty, why don't teenagers learn to manage their own fields?

On the issue of family, there are always too many people who take what their parents did as the only excuse. Have you ever thought that, in the final analysis, it's all because your ability is not enough to change the status quo, but you don't have the courage to face the reality of poverty Don't always care that your parents can't make you proud. Have you ever made your parents proud?

This society is cruel. You are incompetent and your family background is not hard enough. Realistic people will of course be cold and distant from you. If you are good enough, others will only admire and appreciate you even if they know that you were born in poverty.

Poverty and suffering are inherited from generation to generation, if you just complain and don't know how to change. You don't like your parents' poverty at the moment. If you just don't like it, you will become a bad parent who is not liked by your children one day.

Mi Meng once said that at least the world recognizes hard work. As long as we work hard, we can improve from this generation. You are not Wang Sicong, but you can be Ma Yun.

04

Tencent big chu network once made a group of special topics, "Parents are not shameful, but it is shameful not to like their parents".

Have you ever found that no matter how bad our grades are, how naughty and incompetent we are, our parents will only criticize us behind closed doors, but never allow outsiders to say that we are poor? They always have countless reasons to say that we are good, have potential and have countless filial piety.

In the eyes of parents, we will always be the best children. In fact, any parent who supports you, loves you and loves you can be called great.

I have always felt that the wedding vows also apply to the love between us and our parents: mutual possession, mutual support, no matter good or bad, no matter rich or poor, no matter sickness or health, we must love and cherish each other.

Everyone is different, everyone is the same: filial piety, respect for parents, not abandoning parents, not making parents sad and embarrassed, and never making mistakes.

Tomorrow is Father's Day. Are your gifts and filial piety ready? ?