Concealed gift giving in the office

Hidden gift-giving in the office

Hidden gift-giving in the office. We all encounter such things in our lives, that is, we need to give gifts to leaders, but we don’t know how to give them. The knowledge here There are many, don’t worry, I will teach you how to achieve the purpose of concealed gift giving in the office.

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1. Correct the concept

If you do not have a psychological barrier to giving gifts, you can ignore this article!

However, many newbies in the workplace dare not give gifts. They are embarrassed to give gifts. They think giving gifts is vulgar and think that they have to rely on their ability. You should wake up, young man!

We are social beings. We must dare to admit that we are vulgar. We are all ordinary people. If we do not live in the world, we are not suitable to stay in society. It is more suitable to cultivate immortality.

Friends give gifts to each other. Why give gifts? You will say that it is feelings, you like him. That's right, you put him at ease. Similarly, when you give gifts to your boss, it also shows that you trust your boss. Only if you trust your leader first, will he be able to trust you, remember your affairs, and care about your growth. Of course, giving gifts is just one of thousands of ways to prove that you trust him, and it's the simplest.

2. When to give gifts

It is better to burn more incense as a last resort. It is better to give small gifts in small quantities and often than to give big gifts when something happens. You usually don't give gifts, but this time you suddenly get a big gift, and others don't dare to accept it, unless you are the kind of leader who doesn't refuse anyone who comes. This means that you have to work hard on normal times. Except for holidays, there are seasonal fruits and local specialties.

Tall buildings rise from the ground. People and their feelings need to be managed, and they are cultivated bit by bit. The same goes for leaders. If you manage with care, observe with care, care about his feelings, give him something he "just needs" from time to time, have a few "timely rains", or bring some small gifts when you go out to play, all of these will put your leader at ease. performance. You may feel that your leaders don’t lack anything, but you just haven’t observed carefully. For example, some leaders have mysophobia and stay in hotels on business trips, and the toilet seats are covered with paper towels. Then you can buy a disposable toilet seat for them and bring a small pack or two with them when traveling on business. This is what I have personally experienced. From then on, the boss would take it with him on business trips and recommend it to other mysophobic patients like him. In this way, when the leader uses this thing in the future, he will think of you!

3. What gift to give

There is no final answer as to what gift to give. I have always emphasized that gift-giving is a master if it can be delivered to the heart and be a timely gift. Let’s talk about a general situation here for your reference. First, when giving gifts in daily life, pay attention to observe. If the leader is missing something, or if there is anything new and convenient that can be used, you can check Douyin’s recommendations for good things, which will give you ideas. Second, when you come back from traveling, you can bring some local food, wine and tea, silk scarves, cosmetics, small handbags and so on. Thirdly, every year and festival, usually the Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, Spring Festival and so on, have fixed patterns. Taking the Mid-Autumn Festival as an example, you can go to Xianyu to check out the mooncakes in star-rated hotels. From packaging to content, they are a few blocks away and the price is the best. You can also find them at a discount of less than 50%. If you want to match it with other specialties and dry goods (if you want to send it to your home, you need to match it with other things, but you don’t need to match it with the office). After this is cooked, you can send it to your home and chat with it, or send it by express delivery. Fourth, consider multiple parties when choosing a gift, and lead your family to consider it all.

4. How to give gifts

Newcomers in the workplace who give gifts for the first time often feel guilty (this is normal), but this is not necessary. Just like giving gifts to elders or friends, be generous and generous, but of course you have to pay attention to the eyes staring at you. I remember that my secretary friend once said that she gave tea to the counselor when she was a sophomore. She was polite at the door, but someone might have seen it. A few days later, the school forum posted: XXX, is the tea delicious? Later... It took a lot of effort to deal with this matter.

Therefore, the gift-giving skills must be mastered.

1. Don’t give too expensive gifts for the first time.

According to normal people’s thinking, giving something too expensive makes people feel too purposeful and psychologically burdensome. Start with small things first, such as a small box of tea (don’t over-package the things you drink), a small box of facial mask, a silk scarf, a lighter, an ashtray, and one or two bottles of special old wine (don’t just put it all in) Maotai).

2. Think of a good excuse when giving gifts

When giving gifts to leaders, don’t just say it’s special. Leaders don’t lack this. Although we have good intentions, we can’t let them. They receive it with a burden, as if they owe us. Even if the Star Master gives a gift that he bought himself, he never says that he bought it specially. For example, I changed the gift of ginseng several times, saying that I happened to have a double portion at home, or that my family didn't need it, I didn't spend money, and I didn't buy it specially. The boss often worked overtime and could use some to refresh myself. There are also gifts of fruits, loquats in season. I just said that a friend sent several boxes. There are few people in the family and it is a pity to waste them because we can’t eat them. I will bring you two boxes to try them together. Leaders are all smart people. If you give him this, it will feel like a normal exchange of favors (you have to create this feeling, but don’t take it seriously. The leader is a leader after all, so there is no exchange of favors with you). It’s nothing for him to accept. Under pressure, I also think that young men and young women are good. They all remind me of me. Leaders like to be praised and cared about. Who do you think doesn't?

3. Pay attention to the place and occasion when giving gifts

Normally, these small things are easy to bring to the office. When no one is around, put them in large envelopes, just like those who go to the leadership office to report work. It looks like there's no one in the leader's office, so just give it to him. For example, when sending tea, instead of wrapping it in a big box with multiple layers inside and outside, we just use a set of envelopes. In principle, when giving gifts, they should be easy to carry. This is what I learned from my boss. There is another way. If the gift is a little big, you can use the unit's briefcase and briefcase to carry it. After you finish your excuses, just put the briefcase directly in the leader's hand. This is why I follow the leader to Beijing to report work to my superiors. I learned it from time to time.

4. How much does a gift cost at one time?

(1) If you usually give something, don’t worry about the price. If you happen to give something that a leader needs, it will be priceless. of. This requires you to be a thoughtful person in life and "follow" the leader as a "pursuit object". You will naturally find out what he or she needs.

(2) When giving gifts after traveling, I think it is more reasonable to give something between 200-500. First, it depends on personal finances, and second, how close it is to the leader.

(3) For holidays, more than 500. I personally think that especially at a time like the Spring Festival, it is better to get a gift worth a thousand yuan.

(4) For important personal matters, about 10,000 yuan (the situation here is more complicated, and sometimes you have to consider whether to send it or not). Hidden gift-giving in the office 2

1. The stage of building a relationship: less courtesy and more affection, eliminate worries

Many employees are busy inquiring about news about their leaders when they first join a new company. There is no doubt about the appearance of a person.

If your intentions are obvious, the boss will think that you are too deliberate. At first glance, you are a flatterer and not doing practical things.

At this time, your impression score is already very low, let alone promotion and reuse in the future.

Therefore, when we are not very familiar with the leader, our first step is to establish feelings and eliminate defensiveness.

There is no need to deliberately inquire about the leader's preferences. We need to show it naturally and show concern for the leader inadvertently.

Here are some common ways to teach you:

For example, you can buy breakfast for your leader and find a reason: "Boss, you haven't had breakfast yet since you came so early. I bought an extra breakfast. You can eat some. I heard that you have been complaining about stomachache recently. Drinking some soy milk can also warm your stomach.

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It is important to express concern for the leader. It is important to downplay your intention of giving gifts and establish feelings.

If you feel that it is too deliberate to send gifts to the leader alone, we can give them gifts when you are giving them. Bring a colleague along.

For example: “Boss, my friend’s hometown grows a lot of oranges. I bought a few boxes to help everyone and wanted to share them with everyone. My colleagues all took a few. This box. Just for you and your family, oranges are very sweet and teeth-rubbing fruits are also good. ”

It shows that I didn’t give it to you specially. Everyone has a leadership role and will not refuse. Instead, they will feel that you care.

Therefore, when establishing a relationship with the leader, In the early stage, don't think about giving expensive items, slowly let him notice you, and your goal will be achieved.

2. Advanced stage: Give him what he likes and send it to his heart

This stage is based on the fact that you know the leader better and can understand his certain preferences.

Then at this time, we should not give you something that you think is valuable or something just to show your face. Giving cash directly is too tacky for the leader, so it’s worth your money.

We often say that etiquette is less important than affection. Seize the opportunity and learn to do what you like, and the gifts you give will be the best. The best results will be achieved.

Here are two suggestions:

1. Older leaders should focus on health care.

Most of the leaders pay great attention to their health. The best gift is to give health products.

For example, after the Chinese New Year, you can give some honey or wolfberry. Pay attention to your words. It is very suitable for leaders to explain the functions of food clearly.

In this way, the leaders will not think that this is a big gift or a bribe. Instead, they will think that the subordinates are thoughtful and care about the leader, and they will naturally understand your wishes. Accept it.

If you accept your gift, you will naturally remember your kindness, and the leader will be the first to think of you if something good happens in the future.

2. He is familiar with special hobbies and likes them.

The boss of our company is a tea drinker, and my colleagues are also very good at getting along with the boss when they encounter good tea. Bring some to the boss.

He wouldn’t say it was specially for the boss, but said that he bought some tea to put in the office to refresh himself. Seeing that the boss usually likes tea, he gave some to the boss to try. Taste.

By the way, you can also discuss the tea ceremony with the leader. This is simply killing two birds with one stone.

Only if you like it, the leader will think that you are a thoughtful person and have the same topic. The distance between leaders will also be much closer.

Therefore, pay more attention to the preferences of leaders and send your thoughts under certain special conditions. The leaders will be happier when they receive it. Let’s talk about the request next. It will go much smoother.

3. Mature stage: Sharing benefits, trust and sincerity

When we are already familiar with the leader, we must show our sincerity when giving gifts.

My friend is a good person. After the leader gave him a special opportunity to successfully complete his performance, my friend gave part of the commission to the leader to thank him for cultivating him.

The purpose of this is so that if we need help in the future, we can continue to ask the leader for help. If we share our interests and let the leader see your sincerity, the leader will be more willing to give you the opportunity to cultivate you.

No one can have too much money. The point is that you are too deliberate in giving a gift directly, and you should be a little thoughtful after helping. The boss will think that you are a good employee, and they can then give you some cigarettes, wine, tea, etc. to solidify your relationship.