Tell me a joke about a quarrel between my brother and sister-in-law

Quarrel has been a common occurrence since they got married. Maybe it's because I don't have enough life experience that I don't quite understand why two married people can quarrel every day.

However, things in life are reasonable if they exist, and we also need to accept things that we don't understand.

They quarreled again yesterday and said they wanted a divorce. My brother told me that they wanted a divorce, and my sister-in-law told my sister that they wanted a divorce, which was quite a headache.

My sister has something to do. Let me go and see what's going on and persuade her to call.

I don't want to go, not at all. I don't think I can handle such a thing well, even if I go, it won't help.

My sister told me that when you go, you should first explain that things are wrong with people, first say which one is wrong, and maintain a fair position.

As soon as I heard this, the whole person lost control, spoke faster, and his voice was twice as loud.

How can I judge right and wrong in their marriage? I am not qualified to be a judge. I'm just a sister, I don't have that right!

Besides, I think one of them is wrong, and they don't necessarily think they are wrong.

In addition, if they can recognize their mistakes, they don't need outside advice at all.

The situation now is that they all feel that they are not wrong. If I say he (she) is wrong, it's just adding fuel to the fire.

When I say that my brother is wrong, he will feel wronged and even his family will not help him.

If I say that my sister-in-law is wrong, she will think that it is even worse for our brother and sister to unite to bully her.

Marriage is like drinking water. Know yourself and yourself.

My brother is my relative, but I am just an outsider in their marriage. Only they know what the real situation is. I can't judge who is right or wrong, and I don't want to participate in their lives.

However, we can learn some lessons from their marriage.

First of all, present yourself truly in front of each other, and don't be an actor.

Before marriage, my brother was tough on my sister-in-law, and her sister-in-law showed gentleness and obedience to a great extent.

When I went to dinner, I said that my brother would eat whatever he ate. When I went to see my mother, I helped clean and cook. Two people quarreled, and she let my brother go.

I was a little nervous at the time. She is too good, too good to be true, beyond ordinary people.

But my brother said that your sister-in-law didn't mind our family's conditions and was willing to live a hard life with me. It was so rare that they got married.

After marriage, my sister-in-law's personality has changed greatly 180 degrees. To put it mildly, she changed from a slave to a slave owner.

The frequency of quarreling between two people has changed from once every five days to once every two days, and once every day, all for trivial matters.

My brother must have quarreled for a reason. There is no denying it.

But at first, my sister-in-law did too well, giving him too high expectations, which largely caused the contradiction between the two after marriage.

I suggest that everyone should be like before marriage, and don't hide their shortcomings and deficiencies, which is not good for both sides.

If a person can't accept your shortcomings and deficiencies, then whether to continue together becomes a matter worthy of careful consideration.

Secondly: marriage is a compromise between two people, as long as it is not a matter of principle, they can make appropriate concessions.

Every time they quarrel, they will try to prove that it is the other party's fault, that the other party is not doing well, and that the other party wants to change. They have been unable to change their personalities for so many years and refused to compromise at all.

But home has never been a reasonable place. Home is a place of love.

Don't always expect the other party to let you go, coax you, give blindly without expecting anything in return, and everyone will feel tired and unloved.

I used to quarrel with my husband, just waiting for him to coax me.

But later, I will slowly hold his hand to show that I am wrong, let him know my tolerance and understanding, and their feelings are getting better and better.

Finally, don't get pregnant before marriage, don't get pregnant before marriage, don't get pregnant before marriage, when you haven't decided yet.

I'm not saying not to have sex before marriage. I mean don't get pregnant before marriage, especially since you are not ready to spend your life with this man and become a mother.

Originally, love was just between the two of you, but joining a new life will break many of your plans and some things will get out of hand.

My brother and my sister-in-law got pregnant before marriage and then got married.

In fact, at that time, they had many contradictions and were not ready to get married, let alone have a child.

Later, everything came, so I had to deal with it in a hurry and exhausted.

In the final analysis, whether we are partners or relatives and friends, we should treat these closest people gently, instead of relying on their intimacy and hurting each other.

After all, getting married is their business, let them decide how to go!

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