My husband always speaks ill of me in front of relatives and friends? Why? I'm sorry,

First of all, I understand how you feel. This situation may make you feel disrespected and hurt. However, it should be noted that everyone has different ways and habits in dealing with interpersonal relationships and expressing emotions.

Here are some reasons why your husband may speak ill of you in front of friends and family:

1. He may not know how to maintain your image in public. This may be related to his family background, cultural habits or interpersonal skills. He may not realize that such remarks will hurt you, or he may not realize that he should maintain his own and others' images in public.

He may have an inferiority complex. He may feel that he doesn't have enough confidence and status in front of these relatives and friends, so he needs to improve his confidence and status by criticizing you. This kind of behavior is unhealthy and needs timely intervention and adjustment.

He may have a grievance or complaint about you. He may think that you have done something that makes him dissatisfied, and hope that you can express your dissatisfaction in front of your relatives and friends, so as to change your behavior. In this case, you need to communicate with him, understand his specific dissatisfaction and expectations, and try to solve the problem.

In either case, I suggest you communicate with your husband sincerely and let him know your feelings and expectations. At the same time, you can also try to understand his thoughts and needs, find the basis of mutual understanding and solve problems together.