Alone, okay?

A person is most powerful when he is alone, but not all his life.

After all, people are social animals. Family members need to stay warm together, friends need to make profits together, colleagues need to do things together, and relatives need to eat and drink together. ......

If you find no one around you, you will be disappointed, and you will also fall into the predicament of isolation.

In order to make a living, you have to bow your head and beg for mercy and integrate into a certain group, hoping to change the status quo through flattery and telling. This method won't work. After all, being wronged does not mean being fulfilled.

The correct way is that it doesn't matter whether you fit in or not. Do the following three things well and good luck will come.

02

Accept the fact and find the reason from yourself.

The painter Feng Zikai once said: "Since there is nowhere to escape, it is better to be happy. Since there is no pure land, it is better to be pure. Since I didn't get what I wanted, I would rather get rid of it. "

Interpersonal communication is an interactive process. If someone isolates you, it means you are half responsible. Blame others blindly, then you just don't realize your mistake.

You don't have to ask others why you are isolated. Quiet because of the alienation of adults.

During the Warring States Period, Lin Xiangru, the minister of Zhao, took Cui to Qin. He was not afraid of power and brought back Choi. Left the idiom "Return to Zhao in perfect condition".

Lian Po, the military commander of the State of Zhao, made great contributions to the defense of the country. But his contribution was gradually overshadowed by Lin Xiangru's fame. What bothers him most is that Lin Xiangru deliberately avoids him.

After a while, Lian Po suddenly understood that "when two tigers fight, there will be a wound". The two ministers are fighting with each other, which is a betrayal in the nest and will make outsiders take advantage of the joke.

So, Lian Po offered a humble apology to Lin Xiangru.

Men, the most important thing is to "see yourself clearly".

Why do others alienate you? Why do you want to find the reason from yourself? Most of them are like this: first, they didn't see the truth clearly and misunderstood things; Second, being too self-righteous and underestimating others; Third, caring too much about others leads to the close distance between people and frequent contradictions; Fourth, I overestimated my position in other people's minds.

With the courage of "blade inward", the isolated opportunity will make you really mature.

03

Enlarge the pattern and embrace everything in life.

People, the heart is big, big things become small things; When the heart is small, small things become big things.

Compare the heart to a container, and things are just a drop of water. When the heart is very small, a drop of water is full. This is really a tragedy.

If you are isolated, don't worry. As the saying goes, "A leaf can't see Mount Tai." How can it be blocked by a leaf?

You know, people's eyes have hundreds of millions of pixels, but they can't see a grain of dust. But a dust falling into your eyes will make you cry. At a certain moment, you can't see anything clearly.

If your pattern is big, everything in your eyes will become insignificant. I won't be sad because I am isolated.

In the Northern Song Dynasty, Prime Minister Wang Anshi advocated political reform, while Minister Sima Guang opposed it. Sima Guang said: "For Wang Anshi, the minister is like an impenetrable ice-carbon device, if the cold and summer are different."

The two men hold their own words, and the ice and fire are two days, all for the world.

When Wang Anshi reformed, Sima Guang was frustrated and marginalized.

Later, Wang Anshi was twice dismissed as prime minister. He has also entered a state of marginalization. Thankfully, instead of falling down, he has made more achievements in literature.

"Thousands of households always change new peaches for old ones", and everything will be introduced. There will always be spring in Wang Anshi's heart

Many ministers were in a good mood when Wang Anshi died. Sima Guang was very worried and suggested sealing Wang Anshi.

It is not difficult to find that Wang Anshi and Sima Guang are both people with big patterns. Their hearts are not just themselves, but the overall situation. So it's not a big contradiction to be isolated from each other, it's just "different Tao".

Everyone has his own place, and life is unique. People around you isolate you, which means that you insist on being yourself, which is not necessarily a bad thing. Zoom in on the pattern and everything will be relieved.

04

Strengthen yourself and attract like-minded people.

When others don't play with you, it doesn't mean that others don't play, but that others play in another circle.

Rich people have distant relatives in the mountains. If you really become strong and live anywhere, people will come to curry favor with you.

When you become excellent, there will naturally be excellent circles to accept you. If you can't find a circle, open a high-level circle yourself.

After Wang Yangming, a thinker in the Ming Dynasty, was relegated to Longchang, Guizhou, his life fell into a trough, and people in the officialdom gradually ignored him.

Although the days were difficult, he was not pessimistic. Instead, he studied and worked with the local people, and wrote "There are waves in Wan Li on a quiet night, and the moon flies to tin and the world is full of wind".

After careful understanding in my spare time, I left the allusion of "Realizing Tao in Longchang".

As the saying goes, "If you don't leave me here, you have to leave me here."

Being isolated by people around you means that the current circle is not suitable for you and needs to find another way.

If you spend your "isolated time" studying, working and thinking, you will soon rise. At that time, people who isolated you opposed your scratching your head; Those who flatter you will follow you.