How do parents respond when their baby makes unreasonable demands?

#parent-child education# Introduction As children grow up, they will often make requests of one kind or another to their parents. Under normal circumstances, parents will agree to their children's requests if they think they are reasonable; if they think their children's requests are unreasonable, parents will not agree to their children's requests.

Because the baby is still young, it is difficult to reason or communicate with words. Hitting, scolding or ignoring him will make him cry more and more fiercely. The little guy seems to refuse to give up until he achieves his goal. He has a very stubborn temper and diverts attention. None of them work, which gives parents a headache. How should parents deal with it?

Children of this age do not judge things based on cause and effect, so it will be ineffective to use adult logic to reason. Threats or beatings or scoldings will only have some immediate effects, but they will not last long. For young children, they use their feelings more to understand and judge. Therefore, the mother needs to awaken the image and feeling related to the baby's emotions. For example, my younger son must drink Coke instead of water. I asked my older son to tell him an experimental joke popular in school, which is to put a coin in the In a Coke cup, it will melt away the next day. Therefore, the younger son can understand vividly whether the food eaten in the stomach will also dissolve in the stomach? This is to use a way of visual thinking to turn the big and small truths in the mother's mouth into stories or scenes that the children can understand. Generally speaking, when children don't listen to adults, it's basically the adults' fault, because the adults don't let the children understand the little bit of truth they want to say. Children were originally angels, and it was we who transformed them into what they are today.

When parents often feel helpless about their children’s crying, I would like to give you some suggestions:

Coping method 1: Parents should change their children’s crying habits and let them understand the crying habits It cannot produce any effect or effect. But telling the reason for crying can get help from the mother, and then deal with the reason for the child's crying seriously and patiently. You can't listen and not deal with it, and you can't be impatient. Then next time he won't be willing to tell the reason. By practicing this repeatedly, the child will gradually switch to using language to express.

Coping method 2: Change your reaction to your child’s crying. The more the child cries, the calmer the mother should be and not lose patience and immediately obey him. The mother can react coldly to the baby's crying and soothe the baby's emotions first; she can also accompany her baby and let her cry for a while to release her unhappy emotions. Many times when children find that their mother is paying attention, they will slowly stop. At this time, the mother must first listen to the child's request, even if it is unreasonable, she must pay attention and discuss it.

Coping method 3: When the baby is willing to tell his wishes without crying, the mother should immediately praise the baby and satisfy some of the baby's wishes as appropriate, so that the baby understands that crying is useless. , and use language to express your needs and learn to negotiate with your mother to have a chance to achieve your own goals.

In this battle of wits between mother and child, the most important thing is to stick to your position and not compromise with the crying baby; maintain a calm attitude and not lose patience easily. Then, as the baby grows, he will gradually understand the truth and no longer make troubles unreasonably.