Cunning writing and admonition make the language more powerful

Cunning words and admonitions make words more powerful

In the journey of life, don’t forget to leave a little warmth of praise for the world. This little spark will ignite friendship. of flame. A person who can speak is always the one with the broadest mind and vision. Only a person with a broad mind can be kind in his words, and only a person with a broad vision can be fair in his words. Only those who are tolerant of both can neither be humble nor arrogant, and can "speak to the heart" with true feelings!

1. The third force of strength

There is only one way in the world to promote People can use guns to force others to do anything, and they can use "fire" to threaten employees to obey them until you are no longer around. You can also use corporal punishment or intimidation to make your child obey you. But these crude methods can only bring about an extremely negative reaction.

Some dishes need to be stir-fried over high heat, some need to be simmered slowly, some words need to be straight to the point, and some words need to be clear to the point.

001, Late

Yuan Ping and I are good friends and we often go shopping together. In the past, she was always late for appointments with me, which made her lose her temper. You were always late and delayed. Procrastination, what happened? I'm going to be late again today, so I don't want him to be anxious, so I don't want to do what I did last time. As soon as I get through, I say, "I'm sorry, I'm going to be a little late today." What I get is that she immediately gets angry.

I changed my approach and said: "Yuan Ping! I will be there at a quarter past eight. There is a traffic jam on the road, so I will be ten minutes late."

When she heard this, she immediately said happily : "It doesn't matter, don't panic. Safety comes first. We are not in a hurry.

This is the point of speaking. In order to reduce the "impact", it has to be said later. For sensitive results, it is best not to go straight to the point, but to set a bottom line first so that even the worst results are not that bad. Through "contrast", the results that originally sounded very abrupt will appear less harsh.

002, Maintenance

The famous German poet Heine was a Jewish businessman and was often ridiculed by his fellow German businessmen.

One day, Heine went to the island to play with a writer who was a businessman. "Hey! This island is really not simple." The German businessman deliberately undermined Heine, "There are no Jews and donkeys."

Heine smiled: "Great! Now we have them." "

Sometimes it is more valuable to use passive hostility and evasion to attack the other party than to use strong language skills to protect your own rights and interests.

2. Bad Record Law

Embarrassing scenes require humor, rigid scenes require jokes, deadlocked scenes require transition, and resolution of hatred requires forgiveness.

001, Know the Current Affairs

I read a story in a book about Chinatown. One day the jester made a mistake, and the emperor pushed him into the pond in the imperial garden, and then pushed him into the pool. He pulled me up and asked, "How is it?" Have you seen Qu Yuan in the water? If he didn't see it, he would push you down again. "I have seen Qu Yuan," the jester said. The emperor laughed and asked, "What did Qu Yuan tell you?" He said, "He did not meet a good master." So I threw myself into the water. Why should I throw myself into the water when I have such a wise emperor? "The emperor smiled crookedly and immediately spared the jester.

"The mantis stalks the cicada, but the oriole follows behind", the snipe and the clam fight, and the fisherman gets the benefit." Where did these stories come from?

They are all made up by smart people who can speak in front of "tiger"!

002, face back later

Monk Foyin used his strength , made a humorous "counterattack" to Su Dongpo. Su Dongpo and Foyin drank together.

"It's strange!" Su Dongpo said, "I don't know why the word 'bird' is always used in ancient poems to refer to 'monk'. For example, "bird stays in the tree by the pond," "monk knocks on the door under the moon", "when If you hear a woodpecker, you suspect that there is a knocking monk. "Excuse me, do monks have a particularly close relationship with birds?"

Foyin smiled and said, "You seem to be right, but today, old monk, I am facing you. Are you a bird? "

Insist on safeguarding your own rights and say your own wishes instead of giving in. Sarcastic jokes are so varied, and they pay more attention to the severity of the attack. Click until the other party hears it as a joke, and it can be deeply rooted in people's hearts.

3. Negative decision-making method

The so-called negative judgment method is to criticize or deny one's own words and deeds so as to retain the initiative and not be led by the other party.

001, harming oneself and harming others

I have watched Li Yanqiu on Zhang Xiaoyan's show. As soon as the show started, Li Yanqiu smiled and said:

Today I finally saw someone older and shorter than me.

But for Zhang Xiaoyan, she has already achieved recognized achievements. Now she is getting older and stronger, and she is proud of it. In addition, Li Yanqiu abuses herself and hurts others. She only sees humor and no harm.

002,. Mellow without any knife marks

The famous speaker Xiao Ao is the best at this. For example, he gave a speech:

When I was in prison, they I was not allowed to read any books, so I asked, can I read "The Complete Works of Chiang Kai-shek"? They thought about it and said, "Okay!" and moved the whole set to me. So I am probably the only person in the world who has read "The Complete Works of Chiang Kai-shek" without missing a word. Then, I asked the audience, have you seen it? Of course not! It’s like you haven’t eaten shit.

Even though he is humorous, he is also very harmful to others, and the damage is so brilliant! The most important thing is that he abuses himself, hurts himself, and hurts others, so he is harmonious and does not see any knife marks.

Only by being strong and confidently accepting your own "negative" things can you use words to maintain your strength and self-esteem

This is the principle of "crafty writing and admonishment"!

As a wise person, can you not learn this kind of speaking technique?