How to deal with cold violence?

find out the cause

Everything happens for a reason. Look for reasons through various channels, of course, excluding illegal channels ~ ~ You have the right and must know the causes of cold violence, otherwise it will be a great hidden danger to your feelings.

Analyze the reasons

After finding the reason, it is necessary to prescribe the right medicine. Why did he treat you like this? Is it you or himself? If it is your own reason, you must correct it. If it's because of him, you need to communicate with him to improve your awkward relationship.

connect

Ask your partner why he did this to you. How can this situation be improved? These all need communication ~ ~ Of course, you must pay attention to your attitude when communicating, although he has ignored you for a long time. If you want to continue with him, you should talk it over.

Self-examination/introspection

After communication, reflect on whether you really have that kind of behavior. You may be surprised, but you didn't expect a small gesture to cause waves. Of course, you'd better let him reflect on what kind of harm his cold violence will do to you.

decision

It is time to make a decision. If your partner still doesn't care about you after your efforts, you need to consider whether to continue this relationship. It's your choice to go or stay. Don't regret. There is no regret medicine in the world.

How to face cold violence and solve problems easily?

The first move: manufacturing environment

If your family is prone to cold violence, don't choose to paint the walls in cold colors. We should choose warm colors such as orange and light yellow, abandon metallic glass and white lighting, and choose warm decoration style.

The second trick: timely humor

Usually collect more humorous jokes. During the cold war, the two sides can send humor, jokes, funny messages and emails to each other. Prepare a humorous cartoon of you or him at home, write a big period on it, and then draw a big cross. When the other person verbally insults, you can take it out to stop it.

The third measure: sensational bombing

During the cold war, you can use all the power you can to send cards, flowers and gifts. When sending text messages and emails, you can recall the sweet time and express your endless admiration for him.

The fourth measure: borrow external force.

No baby can have children. If you don't want to borrow children, you can borrow another parent. If the other parent is unreasonable, you can borrow the other friend. If the other friend is not a friend, you can borrow your own friend. In short, what to borrow.

The fifth measure: walking is the best policy.

If you encounter any kind of cold violence from him, you can pack your bags and wander freely, and all your contact information will be interrupted, so that he doesn't know where you are and what you are doing. In the process of thinking about you, I suddenly came back, as if nothing had happened. Give him the gift he wants most, hug him and kiss him, and add passion.

The sixth measure: cry.

Suddenly sobbing alone is like a disaster. You must show your true feelings. You can't cry because you can think of the worst movie you have ever seen or the worst experience you have experienced. Time must be long enough for him to bear. When he wants to comfort you, tell him that you can't help crying at the thought of him dying and leaving you alone. The effect is absolutely good!

Seventh measure: cultivate new interests

When a woman gets married, a man has a heart around his neck. But when this man gave you a cold domestic violence, your heart immediately fell into a cliff. People are not afraid to live without money and food and clothing, and they are afraid that your spirit will not be pinned and become a living dead. In fact, women can try to cultivate new interests and divert their attention after cold violence at home. In this way, perhaps the pain of family cold violence will be less and the happiness will be more.

Eighth measure: look down on the world

As the saying goes, "build a boat in ten years, build a bed in a hundred years", which is true. But when a woman encounters cold violence, whether she should stay or not depends on the clouds rolling in the sky and the flowers blooming in front of the court. Although husband and wife are destined to be together, when there is no fate, we should look down on the love between men and women. In fact, many words in Buddhist scriptures are correct, so don't insist on everything. A woman should not live her whole life for a man and a love, but should live a wonderful life for herself.

The ultimate move, the ninth move: decisive divorce.

If a woman who encounters cold domestic violence feels hopeless, she can only choose divorce to resolve it. A woman who suffers from domestic cold violence is like a concubine who was put into the cold palace by the emperor. She has no emotional hope and sustenance, and her warm family is no longer replaced by a prison like an ice house. Since there is no affection between husband and wife, it is better to divorce. Why should husband and wife become enemies or strangers? Get together and leave.

In the face of cold violence, we should patiently find out each other's real needs, face the crux of each other's personality and communication obstacles, and find that each other has psychological problems and needs timely psychological treatment.

The starting point of the cold war is often hurt but unable to express it. Couples should be vigilant, stay calm, analyze the reasons that may stimulate cold violence, feel that the other party is hurt, and resolve the cold war deadlock as soon as possible. Timely communication is the best way to resolve cold violence.