Afraid of those who are reasonable.

Just talked about by a friend, talked a lot. Because it's WeChat, it's not easy to reply, and it's annoying to reply. This reminds me, a reasonable person.

What person loses the ability to talk to him as soon as he opens his mouth?

First, everything is difficult if you speak negatively; Second, opening is truth. I'm afraid of both. Especially afraid of the latter. Because I was once a member of the country of truth.

How would you feel if you were the one asking the question? Do you still want to talk?

I used to be like this. When I was young, I liked to complain. When my friends are faced with extreme contradictions and choices, they also give a lot of seemingly reasonable things. It's ridiculous to think about it now. I don't ask his request, and I don't know the truth. Why should I give a reason? This is what Degang Guo said: "You should stay away from those who don't understand the situation and advise you to be generous." . Because when lightning strikes him, you will be involved. "

I was struck by lightning, too.

1, behind the "truth", I actually think that I am right and others think it is wrong;

I parted ways with a close friend of mine. I didn't say why we broke up. It takes two to make a sound, and each has its own reasons. I have also reflected, in this relationship, sometimes I am a little stronger. The "strong" side is sometimes not necessarily labeled as boastful and domineering, but it may also be mixed with some self-righteous truths and nagging reminders. Some people will say that a friend is not a friend if he can't even talk and kindly remind him. I used to think so, and I agree with it. But people are different after all. Not all friends like to listen to reason. Sometimes he just needs you to listen and you just agree. The reason is clear to him. It's not that he won't choose, but that if he can choose, he won't get into this dilemma. There are rules for making friends.

I thought I was politically correct and gave such an answer. Of course, there were fewer comments like this later. In fact, she is right, so am I, but my way is wrong. For some people, the insecurity brought by "mourning culture" will give her a sense of security, because she has been denied and not recognized for a long time. When she meets a person who has lost her culture, she will feel that there is a group like her, and the world is not only unfair to her. People who are most eager for recognition and proof of value are often them, not me who is "away from negative energy". She needs more support, communicate with her, and then tell her that you are fine and you can be better. Instead of turning this friendship upside down with a tough sentence. However, such a law of life, understood, is mostly lost to get.

2. "I did it for your own good" is robber logic.

List of common sentences: "I am doing this for your own good", "You are right to listen to me" and "Can I hurt you? I have been there before. " Of course, there is also a saying, "Look, people who didn't listen to me at first are like this now."

The idioms of elders and dignitaries are all for your own good (subtext: you know nothing). You heard me right (subtext: you know nothing). Can I hurt you? I've been there (subtext: people as smart as me have fallen, not to mention you)

It is not that we are ungrateful that so many elders like to teach us to be human with experience. It makes sense to be ignorant of your situation, to hold an old-fashioned view of the changes in the situation, and to educate the younger generation with so-called experience and a single "sample". Experience can be used for reference, and no one will avoid good truth. But the premise is to manage yourself first and understand that contemporary young people have their own sovereignty and don't be interveners!

A joke full of philosophical meaning is probably about a child eating ice cream, and an adult comes to him and says, "Son, you can't eat cold food, you will have diarrhea." The child asked the adult with a straight face: "My grandmother lived to be 102 years old. Do you know why? " The adult said, "Do you want to eat ice cream?" The child replied, "Because she never meddles."

Although it is a joke, it is all the wisdom summed up by people who study philosophy under the wheel.

Good truth can always be a good medicine for people to forge ahead. What's the difference between a good truth and a disgusting truth?

1, good reason, inspiring reflection; Bad hearts are just interfering in other people's lives;

2. The good truth is mutual respect; The bad truth is to consider yourself;

3. Be good at reasoning, analyze the present situation, predict the future, and put forward ideas; The bad truth is purely a personal sample case with little reference value;

Mencius said, "It is a good teacher to suffer from others."