The standard of a good man

Ten standards of a good man 1. When you meet a beggar, give him (her) some food, and when you meet a beggar, give him (her) some money. 2. When you get on the bus, you will encounter old, weak, sick and pregnant: don't make a fuss about giving up your seat. Stand up and block others with your body, leave room for those in need, and then pretend to get off and walk away. There are too many people to walk far. Smile when people thank you. You can't go home when it rains or snows, when it is cold or snows at night, when there is not much left to sell vegetables, fruits and newspapers. Buy everything you can, but not everything. Anyway, you have to eat everything and see everything. Buying it will make people go home early. If you meet lost children and old people, you can send them home. If you can't send them home, you can also send them to the car or the police station. If you have a phone, call an old man or a child and leave. Anyway, you are not short of those two phone bills. When you meet a lost person and ask for the address, and you happen to know it, just tell him. Don't be embarrassed, no one laughs at you. 6. Find the wallet and find the owner. If you are really short of money, leave the cash. Call the owner and tell him you found it in the toilet. Give back your credit card, ID card and driver's license, and people won't care about money. 7. Meet students who come out to work and work, especially middle school students and little girls. You can buy whatever she sells. If it is not from family difficulties, she needs the courage to go out to work. Encourage her. 8. If you meet a vendor at night, buy more if you can. Don't bargain. Nothing is expensive. Even if the family is better, who will set up a stall on a cold night? 9. If you have enough money, don't keep mistresses, but secretly keep a few students in poor mountainous areas. Don't let people know who you are, or the meeting will be awkward. But you will feel very comfortable in your heart, which is much better than making mistresses nervous. If you really want a package, you can also package one, and do good things and bad things together. People? It's complicated 10. If time is still plentiful and I happen to be pleasing to the eye, it's better to read my blog than those posts that I feel cheated. If you have enough time, please transfer these words a few more places. After all, we like more good people. Supplement: Don't do small things with kindness. . . Don't be petty! ! ! If you think you are a good person, do it according to your conscience. No matter what you do, there will always be people who will say that you are not a good person, depending on their standards. In fact, you want to be a really good person, which means you are a good person. What is a "good guy"? Many people say that it is difficult to be a "person": to cope with all kinds of thoughts, to wear many heavy masks, to guard against obvious and hidden traps, to learn to speak skillfully, to shoulder heavy responsibilities, to find ways to get what you want, to bear all kinds of pressures, and to endure unreasonable humiliation ... In this way, the standard of being a "good person" should be higher! When I was a child, adults thought that obedient children were good children; As a student, the teacher thinks that a good student is a good student; As girls, boys think that good girls are gentle and clever; As a wife, the husband thinks that diligence and virtue are good companions; After becoming a mother, the child feels considerate and takes good care of his mother; As an old man, children feel that tolerance and understanding are good elders. To put it bluntly, we often live for others and be "good people" in the eyes of others, in order to have a clear conscience. It seems to be very burdened, as if there is no personality and I have lost myself. Come to think of it, who isn't? However, human nature is selfish, so I feel very tired. I think, if the object you give and endure is the person you love or the person who loves you, then the happiness you give them is actually your happiness; If you give your efforts and patience to others, you can think about "taking a step back and broadening the horizon" and "good people are rewarded", and the knot in your heart will be much easier to solve. As long as you have a clear conscience, make your own supplement: 1, kindness is not cowardice, and kindness is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Being kind to others is the basic condition for dealing with interpersonal relationships. It doesn't matter if your ability is low. As long as you have a kind heart, you will get help from others. It doesn't matter if the situation is poor at all. As long as you have charitable feelings, you can get others' understanding. This should be understood from the following two aspects: (1) Correctly treat the friction between people. People are emotional social animals, and everyone has their own personality. In the process of getting along, there will inevitably be various frictions and collisions between individuals and groups. This kind of friction and collision will sometimes promote the friendship between two people and two groups, but sometimes it will escalate into conflict. Since the friction between people is inevitable, there is no need to make a fuss about having different opinions with others and other groups, but to blame them. During the Warring States Period, a hundred schools of thought contended. Confucianism, Mohism, Taoism, law, punishment, name, yin and yang all have different views on world, society and state governance, but none of them have fought because of their different views. (2) Refuse to argue when necessary. Sometimes, the friction and collision between people can be divided into right and wrong, true and false, good and evil, justice and injustice; At other times, there is no question of right and wrong in those frictions and collisions, but the two sides of the collision have different observation angles, different values and different codes of conduct. For the first kind of friction and collision, we "don't give in" and must "discuss", which is correct. For example, Japanese militarism's refusal to admit its invasion of China involves the issue of right and wrong. Everyone in China must defend it. Thousands of souls who died in the war are accusing the atrocities of militarism. For the second kind of friction and collision, even if we fight to the end, we can't really fight for an ugly son. Think about it carefully, most of the frictions in people's daily life belong to this type. For example, one person said that "Lao Zhang is Xiao Zhang's father" and the other said that "Xiao Zhang is Lao Zhang's son", so they argued with their supporters that it was really unnecessary. Supplement: 2. Tolerant but principled, "All rivers run into the sea, and tolerance is great", and tolerating others is a kind of mind. The so-called "the prime minister can punt in his stomach and the general can race horses on his forehead" praises the beauty of tolerance. Only by tolerating others can we win their respect and support. Grasping other people's mistakes and mistakes will only increase mutual resentment. Although tolerance is a virtue, we cannot be tolerant of people and things. We must stress principles, especially leadership, and we must distinguish between rewards and punishments. To be tolerant but adhere to principles, we must do the following three things. (1) tolerance should also distinguish objects. Everyone has heard the story of "Mr. Dong Guo and the Wolf". Mr. Dong Guo is an unprincipled and warm-hearted man, who has given tolerance to the evil deeds of wolves. The wolf finally wants to eat him. If the clever farmer didn't save him, I'm afraid he would die. Tolerance must distinguish the object, because tolerance for the enemy is more reckless, and tolerance for friends and relatives is more friendship and warmth. The object of tolerance should be friends, relatives, teachers and other people they know well, not enemies. Friends, relatives or teachers generally don't do anything sorry for themselves because of interests, even if they do, they can forgive them, because the biggest difference between them and the enemy is that they have warmth in addition to interests. Have no tolerance for the enemy. During World War II, the Nazis slaughtered millions of Jews. Today, no matter where those war criminals are hiding, even if the executioners in the past are white-haired, as long as they are on the list of Israel, they will be brought back to Israel for trial until they are hanged. (2) tolerate the shortcomings of others. Everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages, and it is wrong to demand perfection from others. Zhang Dai of the Ming Dynasty once said: People have no addiction, so they can't make friends, because there is no affection. People are flawless, so they can't communicate, so they have no true qi. "If the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if people look at it, there will be no disciples." This is also a fact. Tolerating others' shortcomings will often bring unexpected results. Hilton, the king of the international hotel industry, always habitually says to his subordinates who make mistakes: "If there are mistakes, it means that you are working hard, and only those who do nothing can completely avoid them." (3) Tolerance does not mean connivance. Many times, for the sake of harmony among family members, colleagues or friends, at a certain moment, we choose to admit grievances or silence to tolerate some people's shortcomings, but we must never turn such tolerance into a habit without principles and bottom lines and into connivance of inappropriate behavior. Tolerance is a virtue, and connivance is a sin. The result of tolerance is to gain a good impression, and the result of connivance is often to eat the consequences. At the beginning of World War II, British Prime Minister Chamberlain stubbornly pursued the "appeasement policy" and connived at Nazi military actions such as annexing Austria and attacking the Czech Republic for many times, and finally suffered the consequences and had to declare war on Germany. A brave but not reckless good man is brave, but he won't do what he can't do without methods and strategies (ChristianRandPhillips's Note: At present, some people are afraid of being a good man, afraid of being considered as a good man, and think that a good man is an honest man and an honest man is useless. Hehe, that's ridiculous! )。 Good people are extremely indignant at the evil deeds of evil people. They will come forward to save people in trouble and choose the right way to help those in need when they are unable to do so. Courage means giving, sometimes money, sometimes status, sometimes fame, and sometimes even life. Courage is based on courage, foresight, and unique views on people, things, the future and fate, so "courage" is produced. Too timid is cowardly, too bold is reckless, and courage is appropriate. Courage is not despair, just like a pine tree that never withers in winter and is evergreen all the year round. It doesn't matter whether courage is big or small. Any pursuit of progress, truth and justice is brave. Soldiers who are desperate on the battlefield are brave, those who struggle tirelessly with difficulties in their careers are brave, and those who struggle resolutely with their own ideas and desires that hinder progress in their growth are brave. Filial piety is the most important thing for China people. "Filial piety is the first of all virtues". No matter how kind you are to others, you are not filial to your parents. On the other hand, a person who is not filial to his parents will not become a good person. Crows have filial piety to feed back, and sheep have the grace to kneel and nurse. What is filial piety? In ancient times, there was a saying that "the father said that the son died and the son had to die". During the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a man named Yiya in the State of Qi who steamed his children and gave them to Duke Huan. These children are only his parents' personal belongings. Filial piety is not a concept now, but it is an essential character to be a good person. But it must be emphasized that filial piety should be timely. When parents are alive, do your best to keep them alive safely, and no matter how grand the funeral is, it can't offset the unfilial parents when they are alive. There is an ancient saying: Love the sun like life, don't wait for Ding Lan to carve wood; It is better to sacrifice a cow to the grave than to catch a chicken and a dolphin to save it. Who's Ding Lan? A famous dutiful son in Han Dynasty, his parents died when he was young. He wanted to honor and serve the elderly, so he carved wood into images and served them as if their parents were alive every day. Parents are dead, so it is better to kill the biggest cow to pay homage to their graves. In addition, it is necessary to strengthen communication with parents, because different times and experiences will inevitably lead to a generation gap. Don't just blow your beard and stare at your parents when communication is difficult. You can leave it alone for a while, or find a more open relative to do their work. Supplement: 5. What is honesty that is honest and trustworthy but not stubborn? It is loyalty and integrity, consistent with words and deeds, and consistent with appearance. What is trustworthiness? Is to keep your promise and not cheat. The ancients said, "A word spoken is a promise, but it's hard to recall." "A word spoken is a promise, but it's hard to recall.". These ancient sayings, which have been passed down for thousands of years, fully demonstrate that honesty and trustworthiness are the virtues of the Chinese nation. This virtue should be carried forward in today's society, and it should be law-abiding and loyal to the country and the collective; In work and study, we should concentrate, be earnest and practical, and seek truth from facts; When dealing with people, be honest with others and trust each other. Everyone may have heard of the idiom "A promise is worth a thousand dollars". At the end of Qin Dynasty, there was a man named Lu Bu. He always kept his promise and kept his word. People say that "a promise is better than a promise" because he is a general in Xiang Yu's army. When Liu Bang became emperor, he was rewarded with 1000 ounces of gold to arrest him. Because he is honest and often shows bravery, he gets help from many friends. Later, Liu Bang not only pardoned him, but also sealed his official position. Commitment is beautiful, easy to move and intoxicating. Everyone who has a promise feels hopeful and has the whole world. But once you break your word, I'm afraid few people have thought about how much harm it will do to those who own it. If you can't keep your promise, don't make it easily. If you make a promise, you should try your best to realize it. If you really can't keep it for some reason, you should also explain it clearly to the person who owns it, and you can't let it go. Some of our leaders also like to agree to some demands put forward by the masses and swear that they will be solved before one day. However, when the promise was completed, they forgot the back of their necks. When people come to the door, they push them away for various reasons. Over time, they not only lost their prestige among the masses, but even the whole government department lost the trust of the people. Therefore, people who break their promises are hateful, and those who can keep their promises are respected by all. If you are not sure whether something can be solved successfully, don't make a promise easily. Once the promise cannot be realized, it will hurt the person who has the promise and damage his image.