Reprinted by Yan Wusheng "The lower the cognitive level, the more people love to show off!" 》

It is not difficult to find in life that people who love to show off can be seen everywhere:

Show off that their father is an important government official; show off their children’s outstanding achievements; show off the expensive watches that their husbands bought for themselves, Bags; showing off the delicious food you eat...

Showing off is everywhere, only you can’t think of it, and there is no one who can’t show off.

There is another person who wears a pair of branded shoes, which are so loud that every time he meets someone, he takes off his shoes and shows them off in front of them.

I saw a video on the Internet: a poor boy bought a new car and went back to the village. He deliberately blocked the middle of the road to show off, but he failed.

Because when he entered the village, he found that some of the people he grew up with were cleaning their BMWs, some were cleaning their Audis, and there were also Mercedes-Benz parked aside. Each car was of a higher grade than his. . And they usually ride tricycles and electric scooters and never show off. The sense of superiority that the young man had tried so hard to show off before was gone.

Someone put it bluntly: They are still too young. They grew up in the same village. There is no need to show off in front of the big guys.

The so-called youth means immature mind.

As the saying goes: A bucket of water makes no sound, but a half bucket of water sloshes.

The more immature a person is, the lower his cognitive level is. The more he likes to show off in front of others for fear that others will not know.

The less knowledgeable people are, the more they love to show off

The fable "Show Off" tells such a thing.

Italian jewelry merchant Melechi went to London to attend a gem auction. He saw an old man sitting next to him who was wearing ordinary clothes and a watch set with several gems.

Meleki asked: "Is your gemstone watch valuable?"

The old man smiled and told him that it was just an ordinary watch.

After hearing this, Melecky eloquently showed off how many gems he owned, and ignored the cold looks of others, talking about the method of identifying gems.

Near the end of the auction, Melecki bought a peacock sapphire for ￡50,000.

When Melecki got the gem, the old man walked up to him and said: "Just now you showed off that you are an expert in identifying gems, I didn't remind you, but I didn't want you to buy it. You spent at least 20,000 pounds more on gems."

Only then did Melecki realize that the ordinary old man in front of him was Graf, the jewelry tycoon with a fortune of 20 billion pounds and the top ranking in the world's jewelry industry.

Many of us will fall into the same problem as Melecki, like a frog in a well. The less we know, we think we have seen the best and know the most, and the more we love to show off and feel complacent about it.

Franklin said: "A lack of humility is a lack of knowledge."

The more knowledgeable people are, the more they know how to show off their money, and there are many more people than they are rich; show off. If you are powerful, there are many people who are more powerful than you; if you are showing off your connections, the real big shots may not know you, they will only get to know people who are better than themselves.

No one can claim to be the best in the world. They know that there are mountains beyond the mountains and there are people beyond the mountains.

The more people have experienced, the higher their level of cognition, and the more they know that there is a broader unknown world besides themselves, the more humble they will be, and they will not show off or be arrogant.

The more self-righteous a person is, the more he likes to show off

There is a kind of person who likes to show off because he thinks others are fools.

His show-off is based on the pleasure of fooling others in order to gain an inner sense of superiority and satisfaction.

I once read a story about Ji Xiaolan and He Shen.

Once Ji Xiaolan and He Shen were drinking in the garden, suddenly a dog ran over from the side. He Shen deliberately asked in surprise: "Is it a wolf (the minister)? Is it a dog?"

At that time, Ji Xiaolan was the minister and He Shen was the minister. Ji Xiaolan laughed casually and said: "The vertical tail is a wolf, and the vertical tail (Shang Shu) is a dog."

In order to insult Ji Xiaolan, He Shen deliberately pretended not to know whether he was a wolf or a dog, and showed off himself, but the result was the opposite. Ji Xiaolan took advantage of the difference between a wolf and a dog to humiliate him. He was really clever but was mistaken for his cleverness.

In the TV series "Mr. Love", there is a plot that left a deep impression on me.

When Luo Yue was the head of the hotel administrative team, a colleague accidentally spilled a glass of orange juice on a female guest's skirt, and Luo Yue came to mediate.

The female guest took the opportunity to show off her dress, which is worth more than 30,000 yuan. If you can't wash it clean, you can't afford to pay.

Luo Yue could tell at a glance that this skirt was Cavalli's latest style, but it was a high-quality imitation that was already 90% replica.

Luo Yue said: "The genuine water-washed label has two marks on the iron, and there is only one underline on the inner label. Your skirt does not comply."

Female The customer was arrogant at first. When Luo Yue said that there was a boutique street near the hotel and she could ask professionals to identify it, the female customer no longer dared to show off and said that the dress was only worth three thousand yuan.

It is not uncommon for people to treat others as fools to show off the jokes they have made:

People who have been abroad show off that foreign water dragon fruits are delicious because foreign water dragon fruits are red and Chinese water dragon fruits are white. ;

A young man spent 10,000 yuan to buy a "Ferrari" black horse and show it off everywhere, but people discovered that it was a second-hand Geely China Dragon, with the Ferrari Prancing Horse logo taped on the back.

Schopenhauer said: "Showing off one's talents and showing off one's shrewdness is just an insinuating way of mocking others for their stupidity and incompetence."

The lower the cognitive level of a person, the more Those who are self-righteous, do tricks and treat others as fools are the real ones

The more a person shows off

It means the more he lacks in his heart

There is a saying Well said: "The more a person shows off, the less he lacks in his heart."

The more a person cares about, the more he feels inferior.

The more inferior you are, the more you want to hide yourself by showing off. Because you don’t want others to know about your lack, you will show off to cover it up.

Lu Zhiwen wrote in "My Mortal Proverbs":

Why show off, because you value it;

Why value it, because you desire;

Why desire, because of lack.

If you want to know what a person lacks in his heart, just look at what he shows off; if you want to know what a person is inferior to, look at what he hides.

According to "Historical Records", when Yan Ying, the short prime minister of Qi State, went out, his coachman sat under the hood of the cart, whipped four horses, and shouted loudly, attracting the masses of people to watch. He was very angry. proud.

It happened that the coachman’s wife witnessed this scene and wanted to break up with him. The coachman was confused.

The wife said: "Yan Ying was less than six feet tall (one foot during the Warring States Period was equivalent to 22.5 centimeters today, and Yan Ying was less than 1.35 meters tall). As the prime minister of Qi, he had a distinguished reputation but a deep demeanor. Don’t you feel embarrassed that you are eight feet tall and work as a coachman for others and still show off yourself?”

The more a person shows off, the more he expects to get.

The wealthy man shows off his wealth to show how much he once wanted money;

The mother frequently shows off her children because she lacks spiritual sustenance and longs for attention and praise from friends around her;

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A girl’s crazy posting of beautiful photos shows that she lacks someone who understands her, lacks a sense of security, and wants to seek comfort.

The lower the cognitive level, the more hope that people will rely on showing off to gain recognition from others and satisfy their own vanity. Because they don't believe in relying on their own strength to gain true confidence.

Ryunosuke Akutagawa said in "Kappa": "What we most want to show off is exactly what we don't have."

People with low cognitive levels use showing off to gain a sense of superiority. As everyone knows, another name for superiority is: inferiority complex.

People with higher cognitive levels have richer hearts. They live in their own spiritual world and never show off or show off.

"Farewell My Concubine", the pinnacle of Chinese-language films, won the highest award at the 46th Cannes Film Festival: the Palme d'Or. It was later selected as one of the 100 best films in the world by Time Magazine. It was posted on Douban The rating is as high as 9.5 points.

The birth of a good movie is inseparable from a good script and a good story.

This movie is adapted from the novel "Farewell My Concubine" by Hong Kong writer Li Bihua.

Li Bihua's novels "Green Snake" and "Rouge Button" were both made into enduring movies, and she herself won the Hong Kong Film Awards for Best Screenplay. It stands to reason that such a talented and well-off writer, who enjoys the reputation of "the best romantic person in the world", has the capital and confidence to show off, but Li Bihua is very low-key.

Few people know what she looks like and what her family background is because she insists on not showing her true face, never accepts interviews from any media, and does not participate in any publicity activities.

She said:

Don’t be so curious about my appearance. I am the kind of person who is not easily recognized in a crowd. There is nothing to describe. It is good for me to keep an appropriate distance from outsiders. Only then can I stop worrying about my own influence, stop thinking about how many people are reading the words you write, and not constantly regard myself as a beacon in the sea of ??suffering. Write in a cool and unrestrained way.

Ji Xianlin has been awarded three times as an author: Master of Chinese Studies, Academic Leader, and National Treasure. He is highly respected and well-known in the academy. There are numerous academics and an endless stream of visitors.

In order to be quiet, he would put a notice on the door refusing to receive guests. When people called him a "master of Chinese studies," he said that he was not even a "little master of Chinese studies", let alone a "master"!

People with higher cognitive levels will be less concerned about other people’s approval or disapproval, because they know that life is like drinking water, and they know whether they are hot or cold. They don’t need to live in the eyes and mouths of others. They have a With a normal heart, watch the flowers bloom and fall, the tide rise and fall.

People who are rich at heart don’t need to show off at all. They don’t take joy in things or feel sad about themselves, and live calmly, transparently and at ease.

There are four levels of human cognition:

The first level is not knowing what you don’t know;

The second level is knowing you don’t know;

The third level is knowing that you know;

The fourth level is not knowing that you know.

The vast majority of people who love to show off are at the first level of cognitive level, that is, they don’t know what they don’t know.

For example, the young man showing off his car, he just doesn’t know that he doesn’t know that others have better cars than him; another example is the female guest who shows off her dress worth 30,000 yuan, she doesn’t know that she doesn’t know Luo Yue Understand that brand.

If he knew that a fellow villager had a better car than him, would he still show off? Similarly, if the female customer knew that Luo Yue knew the goods, she would not show off.

Therefore, if you want to avoid showing off, you must improve your cognitive level. Here are three suggestions.

1. Read more

Reading is the cheapest way to understand yourself and the world.

Some people say: If you don’t study for a day, no one will notice; if you don’t study for a week, you will start to get angry; if you don’t study for a month, your IQ will lose to that of a pig.

For people who don’t read, their cognitive level will stay on themselves and the people around them. Of course, their knowledge will be limited.

Learned people are more humble.

2. Experience more

Experience more people and things, and as you become more knowledgeable, your cognition will also improve. Go into the crowd and don't shy away from real life.

Once you have seen the entire forest, you will not be limited to one tree. The more you experience, the more mature you will be.

3. Get to know more people who are worse than yourself

Have you ever noticed that people who love to show off show off in front of people they think are inferior to them?

For example, if he has 1 million, he will only show it off in front of people who don’t have 1 million, but not in front of people who have 10 million or even 100 million.

Get to know more people who are better than yourself, and you will realize your own insignificance and shortcomings, and your cognitive level will also rise with the tide.

Bacon said:

Those who show off are despised by wise men, envied by foolish people, and flattered by sycophants. At the same time, they are also what they boast about. A slave to words.

People with higher cognitive levels are less likely to show off. Because their hearts are full and full, and they live the way they want.

May we all become people who don’t show off, be strong yet humble, rich yet magnanimous