Write a conflict event that impressed you the most and its solution.

Yang Di is quiet and diligent, but her grades are always low. In my impression, the student's accomplishment is good, but there are problems with his learning ideas and methods. He needs help.

One day, he pushed open the door of my office and cried. The reason is that the diary he kept in his desk was peeked, and many students were talking about him and looking at him with strange eyes. Then, he began to laugh and laugh at those ridiculous people, thanking him for sparing no effort to attack them in his diary. I quietly listened to him cry, laugh, laugh and then talk, and then cry.

I asked several class cadres to investigate the matter. They looked at each other, then glared at each other and asked, "Is there such a thing?"

On the third day, when I was checking the discipline of self-study, he caught up with me and said, "Teacher, I want to tell you the truth." I smiled and said, "What's so important? Go ahead. "

"In my diary, I said I was going to study in Oxford, and I also expressed my love for a classmate. They all laughed at me. I have a sister who is studying in Cambridge. They don't believe me. I think a few students are very tacky, so I mocked them incisively and vividly in my diary ... "

"You wait in my office 10 minutes, and I'll investigate."

I found my classmate's deskmate, who adored him and asked about the phenomenon of getting too close to Yang Di. The classmate said, "This is doubting my deskmate's IQ and EQ."

I thought, what's wrong with this child? Back in the office, I advised him not to be suspicious and concentrate on his studies. Then I asked him with a tiger face, "Why are you moping these days?" He mumbled, "Teacher, as long as they stop talking about me, I can settle down and study."

Then five or six times in a row, every time he provided a long list, I asked the corresponding classmates sideways or directly. The basic answer is "diary? What diary? " Then came "Wrong, old class!"

The story told by Yang Di gradually reached the level of Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio. For example, when he saw two people talking, he glanced at him and felt that he must talk about him. With his criticism and the further development of my investigation, many students began to rebound.

Soon, I got a call from Yang Di's parents. I briefly outlined it and asked them to come to my office this afternoon to discuss it in detail.

His parents are very excited and just had a quarrel at home. Then, I was accused of being too tolerant of those "evil" students, letting them talk about their children behind their backs, thus tossing their children. His mother began to cry, and his father put forward three plans, one is to change classes, the other is to take the students who talk about his children behind their backs to court, and the third is to read newspapers. I quietly waiting for their statement, tell them:

"First, the first time you came to me from Yang Di to solve the problem, I will actively verify it. After investigation, diaries exist, but diary events are false.

Secondly, Yang Di thinks that others are talking about him, which is based on the fact that others' mouths are moving. I learned that the child had a high fever, improper treatment and hearing loss.

Third, Yang Di is detached. He thinks that before he is 25 years old, he can have 3 million assets, and no university in Shandong or even China can create his amazing talent. "

I said that, and then there was silence.

"So, our task now is not to blame others, but to psychologically guide children and even turn to experts in psychoanalysis."

Two parents, this is a rude awakening. The next work will be much easier to do. I said to my parents, "You can't be afraid of getting sick and avoid medical treatment. If something goes wrong, you solve the problem. " I asked Yang Di for advice: "What do you want me to say to those students who are thinking about you?" He listed nine items. The dust has settled and Yang Di is making progress.

After the incident, I reflected:

Students keep diaries. What should they remember that is good for their growth? If you remember all the troubles in life, you are actually implying that your life is a mess and a failure. Why not write down moments of joy, friendship, progress and poetry? Diary is private, why not put it at home, but on the desk in the classroom?

The reason for Yang Di's paranoia, besides being bad at communicating with others, is that he is addicted to fantasy and pride, which is actually not conducive to growth. In the era of the only child, parents have extremely high expectations for their children. Once the relationship between ideal and reality is not handled well, children can only magnify the ideal infinitely and confront the reality, but they are unable to confront it, so they take it out on their classmates around them and leave it in their diaries.

There is nothing trivial about students. If the knot in his heart is untied, it must be untied as soon as possible and as professionally as possible. Otherwise, solving a problem will lead to many problems. This requires us to be class teachers, caring, patient and professional teachers. Therefore, all this must have a responsible love.