Happy marriages are the same, but unhappy marriages are different.

First, you are responsible for earning money to support your family, and I am responsible for beauty.

Zhang Jia, my former good friend, suddenly called me and cried, My husband hit me and I want to come to Shenzhen.

Zhang Jia is a tall, fair-skinned and docile beautiful girl who used to be a clerk in the sales department. Her family helped her find a human resources manager who works in a hotel. They fell in love for a year and got married. After Zhang Jia became pregnant, she resigned and went home to be a full-time wife. We all envy her for living well and not having to work as hard as we do.

The Zhang family does housework diligently every day, takes care of all the housework, and keeps the family in good order and proper arrangement. Take good care of your husband and children, honor your in-laws, and strive to be a good wife and mother. Life is monotonous and busy.

Zhang Jia devoted herself wholeheartedly to her family, which was her whole world, so she gradually stopped contacting us. Half a year ago, when she knew that her husband was having an affair, she quarreled with him, and he actually hit her.

She immediately ran home to complain, but the family disapprovingly advised her: men are flawed, as long as you don't talk about divorce, you can live a good life. Did you find such a good man after your divorce? Besides, you can't support yourself now. Zhang Jia can't accept her husband's infidelity and family's incompetence and wants to flee her hometown.

We were all surprised when we saw Zhang Jia. We haven't seen him for years. He seems to be a different person. The Zhang family in front of us is wide and fat, with brown spots and depressions.

We all advised her to divorce, because the first domestic violence will lead to the second. Don't waste energy and time on a hopeless person. I suggest that she find a job first, make herself independent and start her life again.

If women are too capable in marriage, their families will get used to your ability, your ability will spoil them and they will become indifferent to you. All your efforts will be taken for granted, especially when you have no financial ability, and they will look down on you even more.

After marriage, women should not lose themselves for men and be free nannies. No matter at any time, women still have to work and have the ability to make money. No matter how much money there is, a woman who can make money has a position at home, and a woman who spends her own money is the most beautiful woman.

Don't believe that you are responsible for earning money to support your family. I am responsible for being beautiful. Women can only love themselves, enrich themselves, improve themselves and make themselves excellent and powerful. Only when you have the depressed spirit of leaving men and the ability to live a good life after leaving men will men care about you and your family will respect you.

Second, husband and wife are not enemies, and life is not a battlefield.

Listen to classmates: Xiaoqing, who is a manager, is divorced.

Xiaoqing is the pride of our classmates. She was our monitor when she was studying. After graduation, I worked as a personnel manager in a company. I am decisive and tough. I was so busy with my career that I didn't get married until I was 28. The family is eager to mobilize relatives to help her introduce her. Neighbors introduced her to a man who drives a bus in Shenzhen. Both of them are older young people and got married after getting along for half a year.

Although the two places are separated after marriage. However, there are contradictions and quarrels. Xiao Fei likes joking, but Xiaoqing must carefully analyze every word. Everything will be haggled over, and then we will argue about winning or losing. Even some couples have to tell their parents about their chat records and complain to their parents' families, which makes the two families filled with smoke.

In life, Xiaoqing is like a queen. Everything in the family is in her charge. Xiao Fei's salary should be paid every month. She never does housework. On one occasion, Xiao Fei was chatting with a group of neighbors, and Xiaoqing called Xiao Fei to go to work. Although Xiao Fei is obedient to Xiaoqing, Xiaoqing often exaggerates the shortcomings of Xiao Fei and fails to see the advantages of Xiao Fei. Leng Yan, who is always on top, never cares about Xiao Fei.

During the Spring Festival, Xiao Fei told a joke in the chat. Xiaoqing decided that Xiao Fei was wrong, asked Xiao Fei to apologize, and asked Xiao Fei to write a letter of guarantee and get all relatives to sign it. Although it was raining heavily at that time, Xiaoqing forced Xiao Fei to find relatives to sign.

Slowly, Xiao Fei felt exhausted, and sooner or later Xiaoqing would drive him crazy. The competitive Xiaoqing is also increasingly dissatisfied with the small leap. Her parents hated Xiaoqing more and more because they listened to her complaints, and forced Xiaoqing to divorce, so they agreed to divorce.

It's easier to be in love than to get along. Marriage is a matter of two people. If parents interfere in their marriage too much, it will become a matter for two families. Women in marriage should not be too sober, small things can be confused, big things can be serious, Xiaoqing's queen-like personality will not change, and no one dares to approach her. A person who does not know how to reflect will only get narrower and narrower.

In marriage, husband and wife are not enemies, and life is not a battlefield. Women, there is no need to win or lose everything, and there is no need for parents to worry about everything. The family is run by two people. Only by cherishing and respecting each other and seeking common ground while reserving differences can we be happy forever.

Third, love should continue to heat up, and marriage needs to be managed more.

Hua and Amin work in the same company and belong to free love. Hua has been married for 15 years, and has a husband who loves her and a clever and sensible son.

When they first got married, Amin never did housework, because most men in Guangdong were male chauvinist and didn't do housework. Hua and Amin discussed that we all have to go to work and do housework.

Amin said: Aren't all housework done by women? Hua said: Yes, but it is a new society now. You have to go to work, so do I. If you are tired at work, so am I. You can choose cooking and washing clothes.

Amin can't cook, so she has to choose to wash clothes. So, Iowa is responsible for cooking and Amin is responsible for washing clothes. When Hua cooks, he often asks Amin to help him learn to cook. At first, Amin's cooking was terrible, but Hua was not angry. He taught him patiently and praised Amin's cooking. Therefore, Amin likes cooking more and more. Now, Amin's cooking is more delicious than Iowa's.

They run and exercise together every morning, go home to cook and do housework after work, and take a walk with the whole family after dinner. Xiaohua cleans on weekends, Amin cooks and her son washes the dishes.

Although he is nearly forty years old, Iowa is still very attractive. His skin color and skin are better than before he got married, and their life is getting better and better. He often travels abroad with his family and buys two suites in Shenzhen.

Some women complain that men are lazy and don't do housework. Actually, it's all caused by women. If you want to be a good wife and mother, you can do all the housework and men will be happy at leisure. Habit becomes nature, and it is difficult to change it in the future. They should have made an appointment when they first got married. If you are destined to be a family, you should live well together, do everything in your career together, face problems together and solve problems together. A happy life requires both parties to pay, but it takes two people to run together to make the marriage stable.

In life, we must learn to change for love, understand each other and make progress together in order to grow together with each other. Only when * * * manages the family well can the career develop better.

Fourth, a good marriage is the same, but a bad marriage is different.

I once saw a blind date program, in which a woman in her forties was in high spirits and accompanied her daughter on a blind date. This woman is wearing a long white dress with beautiful black hair. She is slimmer than her daughter and full of fairy tales. Everyone asked her curiously how she maintained it, and she introduced it with a happy face. After she gets married, her husband should treat her as his own daughter and never let her do housework ... The woman who is spoiled by men is the happiest.

Whether a marriage is happy or not can be seen from a person's mental outlook. A happy marriage is like a woman's fresh-keeping economy, as if the years have left no trace on her. No matter what age, still elegant temperament, feminine posture.

Unhappy marriage is the greatest harm to women. Unfortunately, marriage will consume her enthusiasm, patience and beauty, and eventually force them to become "yellow-faced women" or "tigress" that men don't like.

In a happy marriage, everyone should respect each other's tastes and hobbies. It is the most absurd idea to think that two people can have the same thoughts, the same judgments and the same desires. -Morowafa

Happy marriages are the same, unhappy marriages are different, see how to operate.

Men are superior to women, queensism and male chauvinism are extremely wrong and harmful. No matter how high your social status is, everyone is equal in family. She is just your wife, and you are just her husband. Only by mutual respect, mutual help and mutual tolerance can we grow together.

Mature people in marriage will recognize themselves and get to know each other. The two understand each other and understand each other. Seek common ground while reserving differences, respect each other's lifestyles, maintain equality and independence, learn from each other's strengths, and strive to maintain family harmony.

Marriage is like a boat, and the men and women on board are the helmsman. Only when two people, Qi Xin, paddle in one direction can the ship move forward. And all kinds of accidents encountered in life, just like the waves of the sea have ups and downs, only the feelings of experiencing storms together can last longer.

Marriage is a book, the first chapter is a poem, and the rest are plain prose. -Bufali Knicks

Love can be romantic and vigorous. Marriage is the oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea in life. Can no longer be dull, can last forever. Maybe a plain marriage is boring, just like boiled water, but you can add seasoning to boiled water. What flavor do you want to drink depends on what you add? If you add sugar, this cup of water will become as sweet as sweet; If you add bitterness to it, this glass of water will become bitter and difficult to swallow.