How to test EQ

There are the following items to test EQ:

1. Spontaneous?

A child with a high EO knows how to do things automatically, read books automatically, and do homework automatically ... Therefore, even if their IQ (intelligence quota) is not higher than others, their grades can be better than others. At work, it is also important to improve yourself spontaneously.

2. Control your emotions?

do you lose your temper? do you know when to lose your temper and when not to lose it? If you are walking, you will be surprised when someone drives past you, will you swear? Many people will lose their temper and even be unhappy for a day. On the contrary, is it necessarily good to hold back your temper? For example, when your child is studying, the stereo next door is loud, so you just have to be patient and don't defend your rights, which is tantamount to conniving at others to do things they shouldn't do. The contrast between the two situations shows that another feature of EQ is to know how to get angry with the right person at the right time. ?

3. Take a long view?

Gorman, the proponent of p>EQ, cited a very interesting example in the book: the researcher invited a group of children, brought them into the room one by one, and told them, "Here are marshmallows, you can eat them right away, but if you wait until I go out to finish my work and come back, you can get double marshmallows." He said and left. Some children can't wait to see him leave, so they pick up marshmallows and stuff them in their mouths. Other children/waited for a few minutes, then stopped waiting and ate the marshmallows. The rest of the children are determined to wait for the researchers to come back. The result of this experiment is that those children who have patience and so on are more adaptable and pleasing when they grow up. More adventurous, more confident and more reliable; Those children who want to satisfy their immediate desires can't restrain themselves. Their EQ is relatively low. When they grow up, their achievements in all aspects are lower than those of children who can restrain themselves. ?

4. Self-awareness?

Many times, we find that friends and relatives around us are not good at expressing their feelings. Facts have proved that people who have difficulties in expressing their feelings are also cold-hearted about others. The reason is that he has no ability to understand his own feelings, and how can he understand the feelings of others? This example tells us that improving our EQ also includes learning but showing our emotions.

5. interpersonal skills?

improve EQ, including improving interpersonal relationships. To improve interpersonal relationships, we should cultivate so-called empathy-feeling the feelings of others. Many strict and unkind parents lack empathy. They care about whether their children eat, take a shower or study, and they will supervise their children, but they will not feel the care of their parents, but only feel the pressure of their families. On the other hand, strict and kind parents usually participate in their children's activities, not only asking whether their children have studied or not, but also spending time communicating and talking with their children.

Besides, talking to people and quarreling are all interpersonal communication. When communicating with others, there is no way to control how others think and feel, and there is no way to predict others' behavior. However, you can control your own behaviors and emotions, and use this self-control to influence and infect others' behaviors and emotions.

Extended data:

EQ is the abbreviation of emotional quotation. Chinese means "emotional intelligence" or "emotional intelligence", which is abbreviated as emotional intelligence. It represents a person's ability of Emotional Intelligence. Simply put, EQ is an index of one's ability to manage one's own emotions and others' emotions, which is related to IQ. Usually, EQ is tested in the interviews of large enterprises.

Resources:

Baidu Encyclopedia: EQ.