Pay attention to small details and have a trick to capture your parents-in-law.

1. Pay attention to appearance and attire. Some people may say that this is a reminder. Which of the young people today is willing to look sloppy and shy; especially at this critical moment, who doesn’t want to give each other’s family Leave a good impression, shy;! But it turns out that many people get stuck when the instrument is turned off. Personal experience: Li Feifei's boyfriend is 1 year younger than her, and her mother was very unhappy when she heard about it. It is said that "a freshman girl is not a wife." When looking for a husband, you should find someone older than yourself who also knows how to love others. The daughter refused to listen to her and insisted on leading her boyfriend through the door. As soon as I entered the door, my parents were not pleased at first. Who kind of person did my daughter bring in? They were just street gangsters. Her hair was dyed yellow and she even wore earrings! Look at his outfit, which is baggy, and he doesn't stand or sit in the same position. Although his uncles and aunts are shouting frequently, they just don't sound good to his ears. After the meal, it was basically sentenced to "death penalty". This boyfriend couldn't ask for anything! Tip: No matter how trendy you are, when you visit your prospective father-in-law or mother-in-law, you must be as rigorous as a job interview. Put away your usual fancy clothes. It’s best to pass on those colorful makeups. Although gentlemen and ladies are not pretending, at least they must make sure not to lose the first impression. 2. Diligence with hands, diligence with eyes, and diligence with words. Most of the young sons-in-law and soon-to-be daughters-in-law who come to the house for the first time are shy and dare not say more or do more. Of course, there are also cases where the child is spoiled at home and is not very discerning when it comes to the mother-in-law's family. You must know that your husband's family is no better than your mother's family, and your parents-in-law are not your biological parents. They are holding a magnifying glass to carefully find faults with you, an outsider! Speaking from her own experience, Xiao Yu’s relationship with her future mother-in-law is currently awkward. Well, the reason is that her mother-in-law took issue with her the first time she came to visit her. Because she was pampered at home since she was a child, Xiaoyu never did any housework. After falling in love with Xiaowu, she even more confidently declared that she couldn't cook and rarely cleaned the house. Even when she got up in the morning, her mother prepared warm water for brushing her teeth. . The implication is: Don’t expect to treat me like a mother-in-law! Xiao Wu, who was in love, didn't care about this. He just listened to whatever Xiao Yu said. However, getting along with your girlfriend is one thing, and bringing her in is another. Xiaowu took Xiaoyu home and introduced him to his parents. Unexpectedly, Xiaoyu only met Xiaoyu once and then hid in Xiaowu's room to play on the computer. He didn't come out until the meal was ready. After eating, he wiped his mouth, pushed the bowl and chopsticks away and went back Back to the room. Xiao Wu's mother was not happy about it. She was not looking for a girlfriend; she was simply looking for a grandma! Tip: When you visit for the first time, be smart! Regardless of whether it’s the other person’s parents, grandparents, or third aunt, the honorific title must always be on your lips. This is called diligence. In addition, there should be work in your eyes, and your hands should not be idle. If you can’t do the cooking, you can just wash the dishes. Even if you just peel onions and garlic in the kitchen, it is better than waiting in the living room! 3. Don’t be surprised if you give gifts to many people. When you come to visit your partner’s parents, gifts are of course a must. Ask them in advance what their hobbies are, and you can often get twice the result with half the effort by following their hobbies. Gifts don’t have to be too extravagant, but they must not be stingy either. If it’s the Chinese New Year, or if the other person has younger siblings or children at home, prepare more red envelopes or small gifts. You know, if you win over everyone well, you are not far from success. Speaking from his own experience, Yang Zi followed his girlfriend back to his hometown during the Spring Festival last year. Before leaving, his girlfriend told him: "There are many relatives at home, and there are many people to visit, so prepare more red envelopes and gifts." Yang Zi said no problem, promise to let your family Happy. Unexpectedly, my girlfriend’s family has an unusually large number of relatives. Yang Zi's red envelopes were all distributed before the first day of the new year, and the gifts he brought were almost distributed. He had the intention to give less, but his girlfriend thought it was not good-looking and would not agree to anything, so Yang Zi had no choice but to support him. It was easy to make it to the fourth day of the Lunar New Year, and there was only one day left before he could return home. Yang Zi felt that there was hope now. Who would have known that it was already the fourth day of the Lunar New Year, and a distant cousin of my girlfriend would come to visit with her two children. Yang Zi thought to himself that his cousin's sister-in-law was a distant relative, so her children would naturally be further away, so she could save the red envelope if she could. Under his girlfriend's repeated hints, he pretended to be stupid and didn't react. After the cousin-in-law left, my girlfriend was very angry: "Do you know what my cousin-in-law would say in front of relatives? Do you want me to have the nerve to go back to my hometown in the future?" Sure enough, this cousin-in-law is not an ordinary person. Zi's ??"stinginess" spread throughout the country. Tip: Don’t ignore those inconspicuous marginal figures. Sometimes they also play a role in controlling the world. A small oversight may lead to irreparable consequences. It is necessary to treat everyone politely and thoughtfully.

Of course, there can also be a little trick here that saves face without causing too much bleeding. The red envelopes can be divided into three, six or nine levels. As long as everyone is happy, everything will be fine. Pay attention to small details and use the trick to capture your parents-in-law 2 7 things to do when getting along with your parents-in-law! Don’t worry about whether you can hear it or not, just listen. As for what your parents-in-law say, whether you can hear it or not, try your best to listen. Insist on listening to their jokes and stories, so that the parents-in-law can have a stage to show off. Don't show your boredom, no matter what, it's just a few days off. You know, when you get older, your daughter-in-law may not be interested in the things you talk about either. Make a work plan in advance. Before you arrive at your parents-in-law's house, it's best to find out what they have to do at home, such as supermarket shopping, washing vegetables and rice, scooping poop for cats, or repairing windows, etc. Then Developing a good work plan can firstly show that you are diligent, and secondly, it can make them feel that you understand their family's affairs well, giving people a caring and friendly feeling. Bring a good gift every time. You can give your father-in-law a golf hat every time. This can become his collection, not necessarily a practical item. Or give a beautiful wine glass every time. After all, tableware can be used and used as decoration, and can also be given as a gift. Gifts that serve multiple purposes and are economical can be given frequently. Do tasks that are inconvenient for them, such as weeding the lawn in the courtyard, cleaning the screens, asking someone to repair the air conditioner, etc. Take the initiative and diligently take over the tasks that are inconvenient for the elderly to do, so that they can enjoy life more easily, and at the same time, you can become Something of a hero in them. If you are bored, find a book to read. This behavior looks very self-controlled and will allow everyone to spend the day in peace. Here's a little trick, every adult will love someone who is interested in their favorite book, grab a book from their bookshelf. And reading their favorite books also means that you want to understand what they are thinking and want to get closer to them. Reading Elder “My father-in-law loved to bake cookies and smoke all day long on holidays, every time. I would spend all summer afternoons watching him blow smoke rings from his recliner while listening to the tree frogs "I am like a young sailor always observing the ebb and flow of the tide, observing the complex emotional changes of the elderly. "In fact, the elderly have many things in their hearts that most of the time will not express, but we can use the holidays to communicate with them. Spend time together and quietly read their hearts. Don’t preach. Keep the “knowledge” to yourself and don’t preach in front of your elders. Your parents-in-law are older than you. Even if you do have more insights than them on some things, don't say it or "educate" them. It will make their self-esteem very uncomfortable. Don't complain, always be grateful. You must always feel like you are at your own home when you are at your parents-in-law's house. Even if you don't like their green carpet, messy kitchen, or crowded balcony, learn not to complain. This is not difficult. All the difficulties in getting along with your parents-in-law will become a thing of the past. Their nagging, their catchphrases, their prejudices against you, etc. When you think back, all the trivial things you have experienced in life will become Memories of life. Always remind yourself that these two people created the person you love, so always be grateful.