4 stories to tell you: Face is for others to see, but you live your own life!

We often lose better opportunities and lives because we care about face.

If these people know how to let go of "face"

Maybe they can have a better life...

1. Because of face Ruined fate

A nice girl,

fell in love with a nice boy,

had a nice relationship.

However,

This relationship was strongly opposed by the girl's parents.

Because the boy had a car accident when he was a teenager,

his left leg was not very good,

and he walked with a slight limp.

"I have a good daughter.

Why should I marry a cripple?" they said.

The girl said:

"He can run, jump, drive and play ball.

He is smart, sensible, optimistic and capable.

He is very interested in You have all seen how good I am.

Apart from being unsightly, what else can I accept?

What do you still care about?"

Her parents said:

"To be honest, we can accept it,

But what will others think?

Let everyone know that my son-in-law is a cripple,

Where will our face go? ”

The two sides kept arguing, and the girl wanted to run away from home.

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My mother wants to cut her wrists with a knife, and my father wants to sever the relationship between father and daughter.

Finally, the girl breaks up with the boy.

I didn’t fall in love again for four years.

At the age of thirty,

The girl finally got a boyfriend again.

When it came time to talk about marriage,

The girl His parents asked for a bride price of 120,000 yuan.

The man’s family is of average status and he is only willing to give 30,000 yuan.

The girl’s mother said:

“Give me 120,000, and I will refund you 100,000 immediately.

If you say this, both families will have face. ,

If you come forward, I will give you 30,000 yuan.

When relatives and friends ask, what should I say?

My daughter can’t get married. Is there a big sale? ”

Then the marriage was ruined.

The girl is now thirty-five and still single.

When her parents go out, acquaintances always ask

"Is your daughter married?"

This makes them very angry,

She had no choice but to scold her daughter when she got home:

"You have disgraced us all."

One can imagine the girl's mood.

There is an even sadder story.

2. In order to save face,

raised children alone and lived a difficult life

A girl who went to work abroad,

married She was given a job by an American boss, and

immigrated to New York in great glory.

The whole family felt that she was very proud.

But what kind of life did she live in the United States? ?

Her husband is on a business trip for a long time,

She is alone, has no friends, no job,

no one to talk to, no sense of belonging.

She said:

"I am like a lonely stray dog."

Later, I finally had a child,

Love was not there No more. Her husband fell in love with an Italian woman and wanted to divorce her.

She refused to die.

Because she could not survive in the United States after leaving her husband, she had no choice but to return to China.

However,

I got married in the eyes of everyone with envy,

Now I have to go back with my children without achieving anything,

The contrast was too great for her to accept.

So I struggled to hold on. Her husband rarely comes home.

She is busy taking care of the children and washing dishes at the same time.

She also knew that if she could put down her face and return to China,

her situation would be much better, but after much thought,

she just felt that she had no shame in coming back.

3. Would rather give up substantial happiness

but also save face

It has to be said that modern people’s pursuit of face has

To the point of outrageousness.

From treating guests to dinner to marriage and career,

"Face" is an important factor to measure.

If it is for the sake of face,

bragging, telling a little lie, and getting into a fight

buying some luxury goods is not harmful and is understandable.

But when it comes to life's major events,

It is foolish to give up substantial happiness to save face.

This is really too stupid.

For the sake of face, I cut off my kidney to buy a high-end mobile phone.

To save face, drink and vomit blood.

For the sake of face,

gave up true love and married someone who was not suitable at all.

For the sake of face,

stick to the dilapidated marriage and would rather die than divorce.

For the sake of face,

I don’t dare to start a business no matter how good the opportunity is.

For the sake of face,

Knowing you have made a mistake but refusing to repent,

turning a minor mistake into a big one.

Live for the sake of face,

Die for the sake of face, ruin your life for the sake of face.

It’s really scary to think about.

4. We want face, sometimes because of fear.

Afraid of being laughed at, afraid of being looked down upon, afraid of being criticized.

Sometimes it’s because of desire.

Eager to be envied by others, eager to be respected,

Eager to have others know how great I am.

It’s normal for people to want face.

But this matter should be stopped in moderation.

If you feel that your face is too great,

I am afraid your life will be tragic.

Because face is for others to see,

and life is for oneself to feel.

If you always sacrifice face for the sake of face,

In the end, you will most likely end up in a desperate situation and suffer the consequences.

For the sake of unnecessary vanity,

I will suffer for a lifetime.

Isn’t this the most stupid and ridiculous behavior?

Moreover, the face you hold on to achieve,

often makes you lose face in the end.

Face,

is a big burden in people’s hearts.

The more you care about it, the heavier it will be.

The more you will be controlled. to it.

And when you let go of unnecessary face,

your life will definitely be much smoother.

So,

If you are already distressed by the issue of face,

and feel that you cannot hold on any longer,

why not say silently: "It doesn't matter." ”,

Then put it down happily.

Or,

If you want to do something good for yourself,

but hesitate and struggle because you are worried about the eyes of others,

Then, please stand up and say to yourself:

"Never mind it, your own life,

is for you to see."

Someone once said: "The most shameless thing is to insist on making mistakes for the sake of face." After reading these stories, I understand the truth of this sentence even more! Share it so more people can see it! Original source: coco01