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What should I do if my husband doesn't want to share?

Netizen confided: I am 32 years old. I got married six months ago. My husband is two years older than me. We are all undergraduates. I got married so late mainly because I have always been biased against men and think they are dishonest. Maybe my friends and classmates were cheated too much, my marriage was unfortunate, and my love was frustrated, which bound my hands and feet. Although I had boyfriends, none of them satisfied me, so it has been delayed until now. My husband and I have known each other for a year. From the moment we realized that we were married, he held my hand, which was the most honest except crossing the bridge and taking the black road. No matter what a man wants to do, he always behaves himself and never makes a move. Everyone has to let him kiss me at the wedding ceremony. Out of despair, he kissed me for the first time, and I felt his lips trembling. During the honeymoon, he always said that he was too tired to sleep with me, and then refused to cover me with a quilt, saying that he was uncomfortable. As I have no experience in men and women, I don't object to his doing so out of love for him. Half a year later, he still refused to be with me for various reasons. To this end, I once talked with my friends. My friend said that this situation is not right. What's wrong with him? So I told my husband about it. Unexpectedly, he flew into a rage and said that my good friend was "a dog bites a mouse and meddles". He firmly denied that he was ill and naturally refused to go to the hospital. Later, I told my mother about it, and my mother said that you marry a chicken and follow it, and you are what you catch up with. If you have no children, you will have one in the future. Don't tell anyone. Awkward. I really don't know what to do. What happened to my husband? What should I do? Interpretation of private words: I'll explain to you the specific solution to this problem, but I think besides letting your husband see a doctor, you should also use this example to talk about a misunderstanding of older girls' mate selection. According to my clinical consultation, older girls often make mistakes in choosing a spouse, that is, they only care about "honesty" and ignore the innate masculinity of the other party. What is "honesty"? The instructions and understanding from parents, relatives and friends are that this person has a good character and has no small moves when interacting with the woman. I'm afraid this violates the laws of human nature. Why do people want to find someone? Why are you getting married? It goes without saying. But this simple truth has been misunderstood by some people. It is a traditional social tradition that men should be married, women should be married, and they should not marry, which will be laughed at. As your mother said, whether husband and wife share the same room is a private matter in bed. There are many people without children, but who knows that you live in different rooms! Nowadays, some people with physiological functional defects often win the favor of girls with an honest attitude. This situation mostly occurs in older groups, and most of the losers are women. In fact, there is a traditional intellectual woman who, in order to save face, would rather stick to this "husband" all her life and live a widow's life. Are you ready to do the same thing? I don't think it's necessary. You should explicitly ask him to check and treat the disease. If he doesn't accept it, or reluctantly accepts it, it's invalid and sincere. Ask for a divorce directly, don't hesitate or be vague. Couples like you, even if they have feelings, are moral or, to put it mildly, spiritual. But don't forget, the important foundation of marriage lies in sex. How can a marriage be harmonious without sex? As for why he is like this, whether it is physical or psychological, it will only be left to the doctor to judge. In a word, your story can be used as a reference for older women. When talking about the object, we should not take "honesty" as the principle, let alone ignore the evaluation of the man's masculinity before marriage, so as not to make mistakes. What is masculinity? If nothing else, the object of casual chat should at least have initiative (chasing), dominance (that is, guiding and driving the progress of two people's relationship), intimacy (referring to the intimacy of two people's language and behavior) and male-specific possessiveness. If you don't have these points, then leave early so as not to delay your youth. However, the above points cannot be arbitrarily classified as "dishonesty". Honesty mainly depends on whether the other party can put themselves in the woman's shoes and whether they are responsible for their personal actions to the end. "Honesty" should be measured by moral principles, not by some behavior.