In most marriages, why do the feelings between husband and wife drift away?

We all long for our marriage because of the combination of love. Why? Because a loving relationship seems to be more secure for yourself, but what is the most feared between intimate relationships? Cheating, cheating? Or never loved

Maybe there are thousands of answers, but in the end, what the real intimate relationship is afraid of is indifference and disrespect for each other's attitude.

this expected, but not too unexpected, answer has become an inescapable spell. Yes, in fact, the most feared thing in marriage and emotional relationship is not even quarreling and fighting, but the silent indifference and contempt for each other. Let people leave and feel that they are making a mountain out of a molehill, and continue to be somewhat wronged and humble.

How many lovers and couples once loved each other, but they inadvertently became hostile parties and even went to court. Of course, some of them maintained a superficial legal relationship, and people would not leave or love each other again. They entered the cohabitation-style pension completely early, and they were indifferent together, but their hearts were full of disdain and intolerance.

many people say beautiful things. Have a good reunion? But he really became the protagonist in the story. When his emotional life turned into a chicken rib, there were very few sincere people who could really afford to let go. Feelings and relationships have become an invisible shackle, so that they can't break free and suffer from the moment.

This is a kind of related emotion after the subconscious self sends out great fear, so that it causes a sense of fear and alienation for the coming unknown, so that it would rather endure suffering than make any change.

but why did such a beautiful feeling at first become what it is now? There is no betrayal and no extramarital affair. What took away our love and hope for the rest of our lives?

guessing and complaining have replaced communication, and hope has turned into despair.

it is not difficult to find that with the deepening of the relationship and the change of roles, there will be less and less things that husband and wife can communicate with each other, and what they want to talk about will never be at the same point. So gradually, people who feel the least disappointed will be more and more full of resistance. But if you don't say it, it doesn't mean you have no worries, you can't hear it, and it doesn't mean you don't want to communicate.

So gradually, everyone has their own dissatisfaction, whether it is because of fatigue or disgust. Not telling has become a tacit mode of existence. However, it is precisely because of this that guessing and complaining have replaced communication, and hope has become despair. Every missed phone call or message will be labeled intentionally, and any careless cold joke will be considered as an attack of humiliation and ridicule.

A good marriage is not to find someone who can let you vent your emotions, but to find someone who is willing to support and appreciate each other and travel together. Emotion is your own business. The other party is willing to accept that it is the depth of love and the degree of care, but no one has the qualification to ask anyone to be their own catharsis tool. In exchange for love chips, they will eventually pay a tragic price.

Behind every emotion, there are countless unfulfilled expectations.

In fact, it may not have anything to do with this incident at all, but it is the emotions and grievances accumulated long ago. There is no right or wrong emotion, it is the freedom that each of us feels, and there is no good or bad demand, only depending on whether the other party knows how to care and know how to respect.

Some people have said their desires countless times, painstakingly telling their countless taboos, but in the other person's heart, they only have themselves and never remember a word, which will be the reason for the final outbreak. It's just a pity that until the moment of anger, the other person felt wronged and thought that it was all the tragedy caused by others being too mean to themselves and not cherishing their feelings.

In fact, these behaviors that don't know how to reflect on themselves are the most naive ones. If you don't know how to reflect on yourself from other people's attitudes and behaviors, it is doomed that tragedies will continue to show up in your own life without stopping. The most regrettable thing is that we can often find other people's problems easily, but few people can notice our own problems and shortcomings.