How do men deal with women's coquetry

Men like women's superficial and disgusting coquetry instinct, such as hanging their arms around their necks and kissing them, feeling dizzy like Lin Chi-ling, and yelling "don't" and "hate" at every turn. However, sometimes, we men will misjudge women's strategic coquetry, which is a profound charm. Some alcoholics are not interested in wine, and men often don't understand its real motivation, so they don't appreciate it, such as pouting, hitting your ass under the bed, sneering in the mirror in the middle of the night, or simply being unreasonable. At this time, we big men should not be impatient. She is actually coquetry, and she still is. In this world, there are no women who can't be spoiled, only men who don't know the goods. Women like to embarrass men. Male friends always say that his wife is not a pain in his heart, but a headache! Because the dialogue between the two sides is a bit like a chicken talking with a duck, the implication of women is always to guess, which is basically wrong. I also think that women are naturally fond of guessing games, so the big ladies in a dream of red mansions always want to solve riddles on lanterns with relish when they have nothing to do. Generally, when I receive a phone call from a girl, the other person also likes to be spoiled: Guess who I am? I usually answer in surprise: Brigitte Lin? Or Maggie Cheung? When you get along with girls, you must have an emotional heart. You should not be stubborn. You should respond to her with understanding, Doby, not against her. If you really love her, you must understand her heart, even if you are looking for a needle in a haystack, you must advance wave after wave! There is such a joke: a man is wandering the streets. He just had a quarrel with his wife and didn't want to go home, but it was just a trivial matter. His wife asked him: Do Zhao Wei's eyes look good or mine? That man is writing a report to the leader. He said without looking up, I don't know. The wife suddenly became serious and grabbed his ear: I'll ask you again. This time, my husband learned his lesson and changed his mouth and said, of course you are beautiful! I thought the nightmare was over, but my wife was adamant: you are lying! Then turn your face like a book, and finally Mr. Wang said, you are so boring! Then, a civil war broke out quickly. Sorry, it's a rule in fairy tales. You are an adult, I can only give you one wish. Women coquetry to men, men had to coquetry to God, but God promised him. The genie is unhappy: your ambition is too great, and such a huge project is too unrealistic. Let's make a practical wish. Hearing this, the genie of the lamp sighed: Alas, I still promised to build a cross-sea bridge, otherwise it would be simpler! You see, even the genie is powerless, which shows how important and difficult it is to study women's speech! Spoiling is a psychological need of women. In public, women are often reasonable and gentle, which is the leading factor of social harmony. Why do you become unreasonable in front of the man you love? Psychologists believe that once a woman falls in love, she will become childish, like to talk to milk, like to suck (kiss), like to spoil (or run wild); In other words, love often makes women irrational, which can be traced back to various low-level needs in infancy. It seems natural for a woman to play tricks on the man she loves. Seeing this clearly, will men be more peaceful, generous and even have a little pity when they treat women strategically? When a woman comes home and tells her husband about her bad karma, most of them like to have a brain teaser or even be sarcastic, just like underwear in fashion. When one day, she calls you a fool, a bad guy or even a gangster or a murderer, please don't be in a hurry to explain and don't get angry. She won't say the curse to someone who has nothing to do with herself. If you think like this, you won't be sad or sad easily. The so-called beating is pain and scolding is love, which is the truth. Women like things that empathize with them, and they are most afraid that their men have two hearts. Accordingly, they are most concerned about whether her husband has digested her words, or whether her body language has been accepted and accepted by him, and then make a correct response. For example, my wife came home from work, kicked high heels and chairs, threw pillows and blew bangs (because she didn't have a beard), and then talked about how a colleague succeeded and how his boss was boring and eccentric. As a gentleman, of course, first of all, you can't argue. You should be enemies. Secondly, you don't have to give her serious advice. If you are in a hurry to give her a lesson in interpersonal relationship, it will be counterproductive, because she knows the world better than you. This is not good, and that is not good. Is there nothing you can do? In fact, the most labor-saving and effective response is: I know that you are really wronged! Come on, have a glass of water to calm down! At this time, what the wife wants is the support of public opinion and the empathy of her family. China financial mayor's annual meeting, for example, she said I was so cold, meaning to hug me; She said that going to bed early may suggest that having sex tonight can improve a man's emotional intelligence, provided you try to figure it out. For example, a woman's complaint is not an end, but an expression of truth, and nagging is a wife's lyric way. Most women know how to express their inner feelings, so they live longer than men. They are eager to find a loyal audience in order to share their inner secrets. A woman tells her own difficulties, and her husband doesn't need to help her solve practical problems. They often need to share, communicate and discuss to confirm their intimate relationship and strengthen their sense of security in love. Men think it is more important to solve problems, so they don't have to spend so much time talking about feelings and ideas. It's a bit like making love. Men pay attention to orgasm and women pay attention to process. A wife can stand a night without a light and wait for her husband to come back and change a light bulb. It's easy, but it's time for China financial experts to learn about women from coquetry. If the wife is busy in the kitchen, but the husband is reading the newspaper with his legs crossed on the sofa, she may be very concerned, complaining that the gas is too small and the range hood is too noisy, and accusing the children of running around. At this time, the husband should respond in time. Her purpose is not to complain, but to need you to stand up and fight her back. To tell the truth, women actually don't want much, just a feeling of being cared for and valued. In this sense, men don't have to work so hard to guess the motivation and logic of their wives' speech. There are always two effective ways: I understand, and a gesture of cuddling. Married women may not be as gentle and angry as before marriage, but they may be vicious, wheezing, cold and messy. At this time, a man's heart must be like a mirror. In short, he must be smart! Zi Cong consists of ears, eyes, mouth and brain. Specifically, it is to listen to your wife, which is the best affirmation. Listening without hearing is what women hate most. Eye-catching: Staring at your wife affectionately and learning to stay out of focus for three seconds with water in your eyes can create affectionate artistic effects. Mouth to mouth: just sweet mouth. Start with common nicknames, such as baby, I know or wife. Don't scare me. Heart is abstract, in short, don't be hypocritical, be sincere, be generous, be elegant, try to be a gentleman, beautify every expression and body language, and only when you are moved will you have natural movements. It is worth mentioning that although a woman's strategic coquetry may take the form of traditional weak demand such as being afraid of the dark and the cold, what she wants to achieve may not be her husband's simple sweet words of comfort, encouragement or physical comfort, but may have a greater purpose, such as emptying her husband's pockets, affecting his decision and even staying in his eyes. Some presidents and wives of corrupt officials often influence their husbands' decision-making and value orientation through this strategic coquetry; Many bad emperors in ancient times did not hesitate to wage war or set fire to kill people for Bomei's smile; At present, many cadres under investigation are often lost by the pillow breeze from the beginning. Therefore, while paying attention to and understanding women's strategic coquetry, men should also be alert: what is her higher goal of coquetry? What's the attempt? What else is she dissatisfied with? There is a line in Chinese divorce: instinctive coquetry is fine, and intelligent coquetry is terrible! It's not really terrible. As long as your ears, eyes, mouth and heart are in place together, and you are your wife's masseur and emotional doctor, then this doctor is a good husband and a smart husband, and all the extra efforts will be solved. In this way, marriage is a romantic game played by two close lovers, which can win both sides. To love with your heart is to be your wife's bosom friend, a worm in your stomach and a barometer in your heart. Yes, I know, so I understand! Man's story: My coping style Every time I encounter this situation, I always insist on putting on a smiling face and never bother to ask questions. Because if my answer or attitude makes my girlfriend dissatisfied, the consequences will definitely be serious. Instead of spending a lot of time apologizing to calm her down, it is better to end the question in one sentence now. Twice, I really couldn't stand being asked, so I had to run away, but before I slipped away, I didn't forget to leave a grandiose excuse! (Hui Hui Fish, 25) 2. Women will cry when they are spoiled. For example, many times, after I quarreled with my wife, she wanted to make up with me, but she couldn't save face, so she began to use this method to make me surrender voluntarily. At this time, all I can do is to persuade her to give up out of turn, or hug her directly in my arms, or gently kiss away the tears in her eyes. My considerate body language can always make her change her mood quickly, and then we get back together (Haifeng, 32 years old)