Why don't you want to go when you are used to living in a place, because you haven't lived in an account.

I understand LZ's mood very well. In fact, the topic between foreigners and Shanghainese has always been controversial, mostly because they don't know each other.

Many foreigners always laugh at Shanghainese for being smart, stingy and calculating. Men are afraid that their wives are unmanly, while women like to marry foreigners. In fact, I want to say to people who don't understand Shanghai dialect, have you ever been to Shanghai? Have you ever been in contact with Shanghainese? In fact, you don't understand Shanghai dialect at all.

From college to work, I was in Shanghai 10, and I was in contact with Shanghainese at all levels. To be fair, a small number of Shanghainese do have prejudice against outsiders. Most of these people have a low standard of living and have never been outside Shanghai and Jiangsu and Zhejiang. Most of them are between the ages of 45 and 55, and some of them are old educated youths. Their impressions of other places basically stayed 30 years ago, but these people do not represent all Shanghainese. Most of my brothers are from Shanghai. In fact, Shanghainese are not stingy, but you may not know how to deal with them. Every place has its own local customs and ways to treat people, and so does Shanghai.

It is absolutely a misunderstanding to laugh at the saying that Shanghai men are afraid of their wives. I remember a saying in the movie Ye Wen: There are no men who are afraid of their wives, only men who respect their wives. I totally agree! It is commendable that men do not hit women and are not laughed at. If measured by force, women can never beat men, but men should know how to love women. The man who hits his woman is not a man at all.

It is also said that Shanghai women like to marry foreigners, which is also a misunderstanding. It's actually just a small part. Most Shanghai girls still like to find successful and promising Shanghai men and foreign men. There are also some foreign girls who have married foreigners in Shanghai.

In addition, friends from other places who come to Shanghai should not always dislike Shanghainese, a Shanghainese and a Shanghainese. You know, this is Shanghai. Since you come here to live and work, you should respect local customs and don't always try to change or exclude Shanghai's culture. There is an old saying in China that "when in Rome, do as the Romans do".

= = = The above are friends from other places in Shanghai, and the following are friends born and raised in Shanghai = = = = =

I want to tell those Shanghainese who are biased against outsiders that there are good people and bad people everywhere. In fact, it is very hard for foreigners in Shanghai. A native Shanghainese can rely on his parents and family ties, but foreigners need to work hard on their own in Shanghai, so they have to pay more efforts and sweat than the native Shanghai population. They should be respectable.

In addition, the registered population in Shanghai can enjoy various welfare benefits, while foreigners also pay taxes for Shanghai ZF and contribute to Shanghai's development, but they can't enjoy such welfare benefits, such as housing, unemployment and pension. This in itself is unfair. Not only that, they also have to bear some misunderstandings and accusations from the Shanghai registered population who don't know the situation.

When it comes to Shanghai's achievements, native Shanghainese are always proud, including Zhou Libo's "Laughing about Great Shanghai". But have you ever thought that Shanghai's high achievements and high GDP are not entirely created by Shanghai's registered population of about10.3 million, but also by nearly 8 million migrants without Shanghai's registered population? However, when many Shanghainese mention Shanghai's achievements, they often ignore the contributions made by foreigners to Shanghai.

There are good people everywhere and bad people everywhere. Who can guarantee that130,000 registered population are all good people and there are no bad people? Who can say that the 8 million migrants are all bad people and there are no good people?

Others always complain that there are too many foreigners, and the traffic and parks in Shanghai are overcrowded, which affects them. This is a joke. Although their household registration is in other places, they live and work in Shanghai, pay taxes to Shanghai ZF and contribute to the development of Shanghai. They should enjoy the public resources provided by ZF. Who can guarantee that he won't get sick? Why can't you live and work in Shanghai and see a doctor in Shanghai? What would you think if it were you? And those foreigners who come to Shanghai for tourism and consumption have contributed to Shanghai's GDP. Why can't people enjoy the parks and traffic in Shanghai?

Why are all the good people from Shanghai? When it comes to the bad, they are all "hard disk people". Is this fair?

I didn't like unprovoked abuse at first, because you come and go endlessly and have no practical significance, but I want to say that those who complain about restricting foreigners from entering Shanghai and clamoring for foreigners to get out of Shanghai are simply frogs in the well. They have never seen the world and think that living in Shanghai is in line with international standards. I don't know how ignorant and selfish my thoughts are.

I just want to say to this person, please respect those foreigners and everyone will care about each other. When you scold foreigners for getting out of Shanghai, have you ever thought about why your grandparents came to Shanghai and why they didn't leave Shanghai in the first place (there is no need to use dirty words here)? If your grandparents didn't work hard in Shanghai and make contributions to the development of Shanghai, where would you have the opportunity to enjoy the life in Shanghai today?

You may say: Sorry, I am a local, and my native place is Shanghai. Then, I don't think you have anything to show off, because the prosperity and development of Shanghai is the result of the unremitting efforts of several generations of outsiders, and most of the locals used to be simple farmers near Pudong, Fengxian, Jiading, Nanhui and Songjiang counties. Most of the locals really got rich because of the land demolition by ZF after the 1990s. Compared with those who have worked hard in Shanghai for generations, there is really nothing to show off.

The topic of Shanghainese and foreigners needs to continue, because there are too many misunderstandings between them. I don't want to abuse each other endlessly. I just want everyone to put themselves in others' shoes.