Full-time treasure mom has no income, and quarrels are rejected by her husband. How can she be proud to return to him?

For most families, this situation still exists.

At that time, my husband told me this: Isn't it just bringing a baby? What's so tired?

Ok, I'll stroke this male chauvinist husband, and it will work in two or three years.

How can I put it?

It was noisy at first, because of his parents' words, I often complained to him and almost wanted a divorce.

If you can't reflect on the quarrel, then you should be serious:

It's not tiring to take care of the baby. You can take care of it.

The baby was born, and it was very difficult to take care of her in the first half of the year. She cries for an hour or two every morning. From the first night of discharge, she asked me to breastfeed. She is weak, weak, so let me breast-feed. They said that milk powder was so expensive that I secretly cried when I fed it.

He walked with me for more than ten days, and he collapsed himself. He went out for two months and came back. Alas, he forgot the pain of bringing a baby, so there is no way to give me such a sentence.

Wait, I'll take care of you sooner or later.

When the child is half a year old, I will give him a hug and bring it home to him. The child seems to know someone, but he just doesn't want to bring it.

Because sometimes I cry so badly, I endure, I endure. That's what I am. Don't just talk to me. I can do anything as soon as I get up, but I won't say that I have gone too far. My baby knows what happened.

Just let him know on purpose. It's easy to take care of the baby. Come on, big brother, you can do it. See if you can. If I don't give you a chance to perform, I'm afraid I'll miss my talent.

For two days in a row, I changed my left hand to my right hand, and then I held the child behind me: My wife's hand hurts ... Hehehe, I know it hurts, but I know it's not easy. ...

Well, it will keep him quiet for a long time, but after a long time, he will commit crimes again.

Continue to tell him: Did you bring up the child? Have you ever changed a baby's diaper? Stay up all night. So many nights? Is this child mine alone? Did you buy her anything? Clothes and shoes? Your little niece is very diligent. Would you like to buy her this and that? Did you buy it for your daughter yourself? You gave me a penny? When I ask you to take money, your ancestors have to ask clearly for eighteen generations, and I will ask you to get a license to take money and report it to you. You are my leader, big brother!

I am idle at home. I don't make money. Come and take care of the children.

He said: Then go out to work.

All right, I'll go, you take care of the children, and you give me my money for taking care of the children, okay?

He said: No money.

I am speechless. No money is right? Dude, you're great.

I went on to say: before I gave birth, I ate at your house and drank from your parents for the first 20 years. I live a good life alone and save money every year.

What do I get from you? Disgust you and your family? I'm sick and full, and you wronged me?

Your family is going to have sons and grandchildren. Okay, you divorce me, and it doesn't matter to me that you have dozens, okay? Don't hurt each other.

I hate those who bully others as fools. If you are a daughter-in-law, you will sell your home. If you are used to being an uncle, you will put your uncle's spectrum in front of your daughter-in-law! !

The child is older. There he goes again:

Because he likes to curse people because of some chicken feathers, then I quarreled with him and told him not to curse and spit feces.

He said and scolded: See you sleep with your children until 90 a day and do nothing. what do you want to do? In fact, you have done everything you can, sometimes it's just a little late, but he will stay there and wait for me to do the work ...

In his own words: take your wife home as a nanny, what else can you do without washing and cooking for him!

This is what he told me directly.

Yes, his parents set a good example. Their own father is a big man and does little housework at home. The most important thing is to make a fire for his mother when cooking.

His mother does laundry and cooks, and it is the family's duty to do it together, whether at home or outside.

No one cooks until my mother-in-law comes back. Sometimes my father-in-law says directly to my mother-in-law: If you don't cook, how can you be hungry?

Moreover, the kind that slapped her in the face, of course, became more and more complaining, so the old couple often quarreled loudly. I feel like I'm crushing people with my voice every time.

There is no orthomorphism between father and son, and "eggs" are blurted out from time to time.

Whether it is between in-laws, between father-in-law and son, between mother-in-law and son, between father-in-law and granddaughter, between mother-in-law and granddaughter.

Not much to say.

But for me, please shut up. If you want to scold me, I will say it in front of your parents. If you dare to scold me, I can. If you dare not, please pay attention to your words.

I quarreled several times at home and scolded me in front of his parents. At first I took care of the old man and didn't quarrel with him. Later, his parents didn't take it seriously and didn't persuade him. Dude, I can't take it anymore.

I scold everything in front of his parents, and I will answer whatever he scolds me. His mother heard it, and then his mother talked about him, and he shut up.

People, that's it. Don't think that other people's daughters are not serious. No one is a vegetarian!

I am patient. Just giving you a chance doesn't mean I am afraid of you.

You respect me a foot, I respect you a foot, with a clear conscience.

Not good enough for him?

Like other women, I try my best to be nice to him in everything. But if I don't know what's good for me, I wake up. If such a man doesn't fix him, he will fix you, making it worse, suppressing you and bullying you with his whole family.

Women should always understand that I don't lie to others, but I won't let others lie to me.

The truth that the husband's family will always be the husband's family should be clarified. Once you get married and enter someone else's big family, you should have your own opinions on everything like an adult woman, and learn to see everything clearly and not interfere in their family.

You must sort out what is related to yourself. Big things are unambiguous, small things don't matter.

Have a clear conscience, do it yourself first, not afraid of others gossiping.

Marriage management tests women's wisdom too much. Many times we have to influence them ourselves, all for a warm home.

Do your best.

First of all, you should be modest. You can't think that taking care of children at home means not making money. It is invisible to bring children to do housework to earn money, but real money can't be withdrawn.

Taking children to do housework by yourself saves a lot of nanny fees, and it is more reassuring to take children by yourself than a nanny. If it's worse, tell him that the surrogacy fee is saved. Look at those who are looking for surrogates to have children, ranging from hundreds to millions. (Of course, a child is the crystallization of two people's love, and it is generally not said.)

When my child was one year old, I was a full-time mother. He earns his own money. At that time, he had to pay back the car loan and credit card, as well as the living expenses of me and my children. All the economic pressure is borne by him alone. I keep my house in order because I understand his hard work. My clothes and shoes were cleaned after being replaced. After a long time, he felt natural. Once in a quarrel, he said, What's so difficult about washing clothes? It's all automatic I bought a washing machine!

I didn't quarrel with him or answer him. After half a month, I packed my things and asked him to send me back to my parents' house for three months. As a result, after half a month, I was urged to go home every day. When I was at home, he washed his hands and ate. After eating, he can lie down and rest without tidying up. He asked me to find clothes for him when he was in the shower.

I was not at home, no one washed his clothes, no one cooked for him, and no one waited for him when I got home late. After calling for three months, I asked him: Will the clothes be washed and dried in the washing machine? Will you go home and cook by yourself? He didn't answer me, but later he would help me with the housework and cook for myself when I got home.

About taking care of children, don't many men think that just taking care of one child? What's so hard about it? It is not difficult! You will know in two days. He used to think so, too. It's simple. I found a part-time job and need to go out to set up a stall. When he is resting, at half past six in the morning, I pack my things and go out. I asked him to look after the child, so I drove with the child for a long time to come to me and said he couldn't bring it. Later, as long as he had a holiday, I threw the child to him. After several times, he also knew that it was not easy to take care of children. Never said it was just another baby.

Go to work if you want to be proud. The child is not yours alone, and it doesn't have your last name. Children depend on you when they are young, and when they are sensible, they will not appreciate a housewife who can't work but only reaches out to ask her husband for money. If you don't work, you will break your arm and make your child a treasure. Husband hates cheating, either compromise or sympathy. When I am old, I treat my son as a lover and compete with my daughter-in-law.

Change places, let him take care of it, calculate an account for him, and how much is it to hire a nanny outside? You are a full-time nanny who does more than a nanny. Don't you earn the money saved by the nanny?

I suggest you get a job. If possible, ask your mother-in-law to look after the children for you. When you come back at night, you can see the children and guide them to learn those things. Since you choose full-time, you will definitely lose your right to speak. If you have the ability, you can take care of your children while working part-time.

Let you try it yourself.

Your value is equal to a parenting sister-in-law (who doesn't do housework) and ten domestic nannies (who don't take the baby). According to the average market price in our small county, the mother-in-law spends 5,000 yuan a month and the domestic nanny 4,500 yuan, which does not include domestic procurement, parent-child activities, study, nutrition and health, and other chores such as serving your husband to eat and drink in Lazar. So settle accounts with your husband!

Let the other person take care of the baby full-time, and you are responsible for working to make money.

Nowadays, the pressure of job competition is great, and many women would rather be beaten by domestic violence than by society. Since you choose comfort, don't think about being proud in front of your husband, or you need to change your family for a living.