"Wife, we don't have enough money to buy a house dowry. Take out your bride price." Should I take it out?

"Night Walk" said: "The most difficult thing in the world is the sun, followed by the human heart."

I'm impressed.

I remember reading it before. It is reported that a female college student in Wuhan fell in love with a hairdresser and was coaxed away by the hairdresser for 2.55 million yuan.

Here's the thing. This college student is majoring in finance. Just like her major, she is good at financial management and finance, and may have a good relationship with her aunt, so all the money at home is given by her aunt who is doing business.

However, the boyfriend of the female college student, the barber, knew about it and had evil thoughts about Qian Qi.

My boyfriend began to slowly transfer money to his bank card bit by bit. At first, the girl didn't find it. When the money reached 600 thousand, things were exposed.

At this time, my boyfriend was still quibbling, and finally said, "I was going to make a fortune in gambling sites, and then I bought a house to let you live a happy life, but I didn't expect to lose." My boyfriend has been explaining to the girl and begging her to help him again.

The girl who is deeply in love is simple-minded, so she thinks so much. Plus, my boyfriend's sweet words have been coaxed, and my heart softened and I forgave him. Later, she transferred money to her boyfriend one after another, amounting to more than 1.9 million.

Lan Feng was very angry when she saw this, and she was very distressed by this girl.

As I said at the beginning, the most difficult thing in the world is the sun, and the second is the human heart. We always underestimate a person's humanity.

Especially for love, love in previous books was like that. You plant flowers and I water them, but now all we see is naked desire, selfishness and calculation.

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Shakespeare said: "If love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with itself, it is not true love."

For example, the girl above regarded him as a love and a companion, while her boyfriend regarded her as a tool for profit, and lured away more than 2 million yuan for his own selfish desires. I believe that for girls, not only money is lost, but also spiritually, a loving heart may be destroyed and fragmented.

For this man, I remember a netizen saying, "He always thinks he is very powerful, smart and talkative, and then because he thinks he has nothing to lose, he calculates others and hurts others." Yes, on the surface, there is nothing to lose, but what he really loses is that he will have another chance to see this girl in his life. "

Yes, sometimes we always think we are smart, but if we are extremely smart and act with this mentality, we are stupid. At this time, you will find that once you take a wrong step, you may never be able to erase the lesson.

Whether smart or stupid, in love, we can't be emotional, because people who are too emotional are bound to lose the bottom line, which is why so many girls on the Internet say that I am so kind to him, so love him and pay so much for him, but why did he betray me?

Speaking of which, I thought of Pinruo, who is one of my readers. Speaking of her emotional experience, it's really bloody. She has also grown a lot during this experience. For the convenience of narration, I have made some modifications to the following contents.

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If the product is two years older than Tian Wei, although it is younger than Wei Tian, it actually looks less mature and stable than Wei Tian.

Pinruo, a graduate of an ordinary university, met Wei Tian just over a year after graduation, while Wei Tian was a junior college student, so he came out to work when he was younger than Pinruo. They met at an outdoor activity in the same city.

From the beginning of adding WeChat friends, the two slowly talked about their feelings, played together for a while, and finally began to formally communicate and fall in love.

But their family situation is very different. Pin is the only child in the family, but he has three children, he is the eldest, and there is also a younger brother and sister in the family.

Here, I also admire Wei Tian's parents. It was not easy for a family to raise three children in those days.

Wei Tian is the head of the family, so he is more sensible since he was a child. After all, there are younger brothers and sisters to take care of, which is why he can't understand.

On the other hand, if the product is an only child, the family conditions are not bad. Her parents are technicians and clerks in a big factory. After giving birth to Pinruo, they have no plans to have any more children. Many elders in the family also advised Pinruo that if her parents want another child, they can keep Pinruo company. But her parents are always happy to say that one product is enough to worry about, and there is no need for another one.

Just because there is only one child in the family, even if it is a girl, the elders in the family are particularly fond of it, especially when Pinruo is still a sweet-mouthed child.

However, due to the overindulgence of the elders, Pinruo's mind is extremely simple, a little immature and lacks the experience of social reality. If placed in society, her simple mentality will inevitably suffer.

Just this emotional experience of Tian Wei has become a mark in her life.

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If Pinpin yearns for love, she thinks that love means that you plant flowers and I water them, but because there is no chance, she is too timid to take the initiative to communicate, so there is no shadow of the other half for a long time.

I happened to meet Wei Tian this time. Although he is not as good as a child, his childhood experience is different from that of a child, so his personality is different from that of his peers.

Because of this, Pinruo thinks that Wei Tian is very reliable and is a very worthy object. Wei Tian didn't let Pinruo down and was very kind to her, but at a certain point, a leopard cannot change his spots.

However, Pinruo doesn't care at all. She thinks she doesn't need anything to spend money, such as people in the Qixi plot, flowers sent by other boyfriends, and her boyfriend takes her to climb the mountain.

Because if Pinpin is a very flexible person, that's why Wei Tian gave her a gift.

At first, Pinruo was not satisfied with Wei Tian's practice, but she said that her boyfriend did more exercise for her, and Wei Tian was really steady at ordinary times, so Pinruo was persuaded.

It is said that girls in love have low IQ. I'm not derogatory here, just quoting, that's all.

Her own mind is very simple, she is a little headstrong at ordinary times and feels a little heartless. She forgot all about her boyfriend taking her to climb the mountain two days later.

In this way, they fell in love for more than two years, and had seen Pinruo's parents, but Pinruo's father was not very satisfied with Wei Tian, so there was no way to beat his baby daughter, just to make her like it.

Pinruo's parents think that Wei Tian is quite good in all aspects, especially in personality and life. Because of this, he is too steady. If parents think it's a disguise.

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In the end, Pinruo and Tian Wei got married. Because before they got married, the bride price was negotiated at home.

Pinruo's parents said this at the time: "In-laws, let's do something about our family's Pinruo wedding bride price!" Your family paid a bride price of 250,000 yuan, and we returned the dowry of 6.5438+0.5 million yuan, and then you bought a suite for the Pinruo couple to live in. However, considering the house price, you pay the down payment, our family pays part of the house decoration fee, and then the young couple pays back the mortgage after marriage. The house will write down their names. "

After hearing this, the man's family changed color and replied, "My mother, this house is easy to talk about, but the bride price is a bit high. It is not easy for our family of five to come all the way. Today, I have the cheek to say, can this bride price be less? "

Pinruo's parents were a little unhappy.

As for why the bride price is 250,000, it is because Pinruo's parents secretly inquired about the amount of local bride price in Wei Tian and how much bride price they usually give here, and only after comprehensive consideration did they propose a bride price of 250,000;

Moreover, Pinruo's parents also found that Wei Tian's father made some money in business in recent years, not only paid off all the debts, but also saved some, so this bride price is really not much for them, and it's not that his side doesn't pay back the gift money.

In this way, the two sides argued and dispersed in a hubbub.

Later, the man's family planned to start with Pinruo, so the man's family asked Wei Tian to discuss with Pinruo whether the bride price could be reduced. At this time, it is not easy for Tian Wei to find Pinruo and describe their family. If the goods are simple-minded, go to your parents and ask for a bride price reduction.

After Pinruo's parents found out, they were also very angry that their daughter's arm had been turned outwards, but they had no choice but to agree to Pinruo's request. Who told them they were only children? Say your daughter likes it?

After the man complained about his health, he agreed. If Pinruo and Tian Wei get married, that's it.

Because Wei Tian has a house at home, he bought it when he was a freshman. At that time, Wei Tian's parents borrowed money to buy it. At that time, because there were many children, I bought a duplex. At that time, the house price in that community was not high.

Moreover, buying a house also spent all the savings in the family, and then Wei Tian's parents went to the bank to borrow money. At that time, it was also the most bitter day in Wei Tian.

Therefore, Tian Wei's family did not buy a house again. When they got married, the wedding room was Wei Tian's own, and they didn't dislike it.

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Married life is always calm at first, until one day the marriage with Pinruo is not quite the same.

Wei Tian's salary was not given to Pinruo because Wei Tian persuaded Pinruo.

Ironically, Wei Tian said at that time, "Wife, I want to manage my own money. Isn't the purpose of husband and wife financial management just to save money? " You don't want to believe that you can save money. You still don't believe that I can save money after such a long love? "

But two months later, Wei Tian found Pinruo and said that he had spent all his salary and asked Pinruo to give him some.

Pin didn't think much, thought he had something, so he gave it to him. But in the next few months, Tian Wei will ask her for money from time to time. At this time, if Ping thinks something is wrong, he will argue with Tian Wei.

Pinruo said, "Why do you always ask me for money? I don't care about your salary Is it a bit too much for you to ask me for money frequently now? "

Wei Tian smiled and said, "Wife, how can it be too much to ask you for money?" Aren't we married? What is yours is mine, and what is mine is yours. It's not like I'm broke. I don't want to talk to you, my Lord! "

Anyway, Wei Tian was coaxed and comforted Pinruo. I have to say, if the product is really fooled! If a really good man meets a wife like Pinruo, it is not "What can a husband ask for if he has such a wife?"

Until one day, if Pinpin knows why Tian Wei spent all his money, he will ask.

Later, the man's parents bought a house, and the money collected by the man's family was a little distressed by the money for buying a house, and even borrowed some money.

Because in their minds, there is still the concept of poverty in the past, that is, scrimping and saving. Wei Tian's deduction can be regarded as a relay between reality and parents.

Wei Tian's parents and Tian Wei discussed buying a house, but what he never expected was that Wei Tian offered to borrow money from Pinruo as a bride price, so that he wouldn't have to borrow money from others.

I have to say here that Wei Tian, who has always been calm, actually calculated his wife for deduction.

As the saying goes: "Sometimes, you really can't just look at the surface."

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This time, Wei Tian went to persuade Pinruo, euphemistically called borrowing:

"Wife, if we buy a house, we will use your dowry money, but it is not enough. Can you take out the bride price again!

Because my parents don't have enough money and have to borrow it from outsiders, your bride price is still there. Why don't you lend it to us? Our parents also agreed. They still have several outstanding transactions outside, and they will pay you back as soon as they get the money. what do you think? "

If you listen to the product, it seems to be the same thing. She borrowed money herself and knew it tasted bad. Besides, according to Wei Tian, the borrowing time will not be too long, so it is logical to "lend" it to Wei Tian. After the first action, I lent the money to Wei Tian before telling my mother.

If mother knows, she is a little confused. Your daughter says she is pure and kind, but should she be scolded for being so kind?

Then Pinruo's mother educates Pinruo, and Pinruo is a little panicked. She regrets that she shouldn't make a decision so quickly, respects her mother's teaching, chats around the topic of bride price from time to time, and takes the opportunity to ask when the borrowed bride price money will be returned.

But after a few months, the response was quick and quick. Finally, when Wei Tian heard this topic, he was a little tired of her, and gradually their relationship was not as "good" as before.

Until this day, it was also the day when their marriage broke up.

On this day, Pinpin went home early because she was unwell, and she didn't tell Wei Tian. In the past, she might have said something about her illness, but now they are both cold-faced. There is no emotion about this kind of thing.

Just when Pinruo thought there was no one at home, Wei Tian's voice came from the bedroom, which seemed to be a vague question about money. If Pinpin thought it was to return her bride price, she quietly approached the bedroom to eavesdrop, but there was a voice that made her so.

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Wei Tian said in the bedroom, "Mom, have you received the money I transferred?" You have to keep it for me. When the time comes, money will support your grandson? "

Wei Tian's mother's voice came from the phone: "Son, give me the money. Are you enough?" You'd better keep more for yourself! "

Wei Tian added, "Mom, I have enough money. If not, just like the previous times. If you want to find something, you can do it. "

Hearing this, Wei Tian's mother seems a little embarrassed to say, "Last time we borrowed her bride price money to buy a house, we haven't paid it back yet?" She seems a little angry. If you ask her for money this time, can't she divorce you? "

Hearing this, Wei Tian suddenly laughed: "Mom, don't worry! No, do you still know Pi Nuo? She was very angry. I will coax her twice. "

"Well, you should pay attention to your own discretion, and don't be too formal then." Wei Tian's mother hung up.

At this time, if the product outside the bedroom suddenly sat on the ground. I have been circling the sentence in my mind, "If you have no money, you will find a product ... I am angry. Do you still know the product? I will coax you twice ... "

The noise outside the bedroom disturbed Wei Tian. He came out and saw Pino sitting on the ground. She bent slightly, holding her clothes with her hands, and her eyes were bloodshot. Wei Tian was surprised, but she immediately reacted and said, "Pinruo, listen to me. Those words just now are not what you think. "

If Pinpin didn't listen to these words at this moment, she immediately got up, picked up her bag and ran out. She ran to her parents' house and told her all this, but she looked as if it had nothing to do with her. After listening, her mother looked at her and sighed, "Well, you can get a divorce. Mom supports you."

"Good", if a simple word comes out of Pinpin's mouth, he no longer wants to talk.

After that, Pinruo and Tian Wei's divorce procedure was just like going out for an inspection trip. He didn't want to leave anything behind.

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I believe many people will ask, if you divorce, aren't you afraid that you won't return the bride price at home?

I also asked Pinruo this question.

Pinruo said to me, "I must have thought about it, but I can't help it." I still want a divorce. I thought at that time, if he didn't pay back the money, he would either go through legal procedures or I would make trouble, just like the car oil spill that was very popular a while ago, and I would turn him upside down.

Fortunately, Wei Tian's ex-husband didn't let me despair. After a quarrel, his mother returned the money to me. "

After listening to Pinruo's words, I still feel sorry for her.

I like a sentence in The Longest Day In Chang'an very much: "Stand on a high mountain and look at the abyss, and only when you roll in the abyss will you know how to climb. People don't live a point, people live ups and downs. "

I want to give this sentence to Pinruo, hoping that she can see the essence of life and live more clearly in the future.

I also hope all the girls understand that it doesn't matter if love is naive, but you must know people. As I said before, sometimes, you really can't just look at the surface. I also hope that girls can understand that when it comes to money or their privacy, don't make an impulsive decision. They must consult their friends and relatives and adopt their suggestions.