How should young people eliminate anger in life?

No matter what kind of environment we live in, we will inevitably have negative emotions such as sadness, depression and anger. If these negative emotions are not treated and guided in time, they will have an impact on our normal life and the health of students and even people. Anger does not only appear in young people, but also in people of all ages. However, young people are at all stages of development, and being angry for a long time will have a serious adverse impact on themselves and even lead them astray. How to eliminate your anger?

1, consciously divert attention, whenever you encounter problems and can't reach an agreement with the group, it will lead to contradictions and anger, and diverting attention can avoid more serious contradictions or quarrels;

2. When you feel angry, change the environment to calm yourself down. Staying in an environment that makes you angry will only make your mood worse;

3, exercise venting, body shaking with big movements can excrete the backlog of emotions with sweat;

Don't quarrel loudly with others when you are angry. When you are excited, you can't hear the outside world.

5. Take a deep breath. Anger can lead to high blood pressure and rapid heartbeat. Deep breathing can help restore emotional rationality and reduce the heart rate.

When I was a child, my family often told me that since I entrusted a man, I should be bloody.

In high school, a boy often bullied me. At that time, I was not a grown-up person. He is a head taller than me, and he is covered with fat. That guy is the best among scum. Seeing that I was promoted from the middle school in the town, I thought about humiliating me. Pouring glue on the chair is the beginning, and throwing cold water on my quilt is the beginning. I still remember one time in physical education class, when everyone was wearing sweatpants, he suddenly pulled my pants behind me. The boys laughed, the girls shouted while covering their mouths, and the PE teacher growled, What are you doing?

He pretended to have a good relationship with me again: I'm kidding, but he didn't button his trouser pocket properly.

My face seems to have been burned by a soldering iron. I just remember grabbing my pants, and I have no memory of what happened the next day.

Every night when I sleep, I will scold my cowardice in my heart and swear again and again that I must resist next time. In order to make up my mind, I took a gel pen and stuck it in my arm until it was riddled with holes. Finally, I went to a night study. The teacher gave us the test paper to do by ourselves, and then I went back to the office. The friend began to think about the whole thing again. He sat in my back row and kicked my stool. The loud noise made everyone else turn their heads. I ignored him, and he kicked me even harder. My body fell forward, and so did my desk.

Our monitor is a girl, stand up and scold him: You are sick, why are you kicking someone else's chair?

He smiled and said, who kicked him? He went crazy there himself.

I lifted the table, the classroom lights were bright, and the wound on my arm shook brightly in front of my eyes. I picked up an ink bottle with my hand. At that time, I couldn't hear anything but my heartbeat, as if the world had only a bang. After I lifted the table, I turned around and hit the ink bottle on his head. The ink bottle is made of glass. It breaks after five strokes. His face was black and ghostly, but I couldn't stop.

It was at that moment that my personality changed, just like the phoenix nirvana.

A teacher passed by our classroom and rushed in to stop me and let others take the boy to the infirmary. Later, both parents went to school to make trouble. His parents urged the school to expel me. My parents said that I was bullied by him every day at school, and the class teacher knew more or less about the class. Finally, he asked me to write a review and apologize publicly.

This matter is not over yet. From what I know about that boy, he will definitely get back at me when he recovers, so I'll start first. He goes to the infirmary to change his dressing every afternoon before eating. I waited for a stormy night and followed him with a stick. It was just dark when he finished changing the medicine. Without saying anything, I rushed up and hit him on the head. In the words of Dove Chocolate, new gauze is more suitable for new wounds. Anyway, my idea at that time was simple, that is, to give him back what I had done before. He looked tall and I knocked him down.

Unexpectedly, after being beaten, he dared not go to school to report the case, but begged his parents to transfer him. He was very funny a few days before he transferred to another school, because he was still sitting in the back row of me. When I moved my chair, he quickly pulled the table back to make room, as if I were poisonous.

Since you have entrusted a man, you must resist the unfair things that happen to yourself, and the unfair things that happen to others will make a sound.

This is what I understand as bloody.

When we arrived at the university, there was a friend in a remote place in our dormitory. He speaks with a strong accent. If he speaks all dialects, no one can understand him If he is caught in the middle of Mandarin, he will always laugh. Therefore, he feels a little inferior. He is usually bored and doesn't like to talk. But he is very handsome, and although he is poorly dressed, he still stands out from the crowd. A senior has a crush on him. That senior is an authentic Wuhan girl with a hot personality, who dares to love and hate. She likes a person, and can't wait for him downstairs in the dormitory every day, either buying food or giving gifts, which makes our envious teeth itch.

That senior has an ex-boyfriend who is a cadre of the student union. In fact, after so many years of graduation, I still don't understand what a student union is. Why are people dragging around like a 2.58 million? I don't brainwash myself every day. I really consider myself a high official. The senior wanted to go back to the grass, but the senior simply ignored him. After eating all the dishes, he took it out on my dormitory buddies and recruited him to decorate the venue in the name of the student union, letting him move hundreds of stools by himself. That guy was honest, too, and he was sweating until he moved in. Who knows that the senior rushed in and shouted at him: Are you fucking stupid? Why did the next venue move all the stools here?

The roommate was scolded without saying a word, rolled up his sleeves and moved on. As soon as I heard that, I rushed over, kicked off a pile of plastic stools and took his hand back. The senior pointed to me and said, who are you? How dare you make trouble here after eating leopard gall?

I said: don't say that you are just a student union, you are a student union, and I don't care about you. What school rules stipulate that students have the right to ask us to do things.

The senior was shocked by me and said, this is what the vice principal told me. If you delay the party, you are responsible.

My roommate shivered and said, why don't I move these? Not much anyway.

He is a child from a small place. He doesn't know these routines, and it is inevitable that he will be a little panicked. I don't buy this set. I said, what a fucking vice principal, which vice principal, told him to come to us in person.

After that, I dragged my roommate out. Before going out, I turned my head to say goodbye to the student union page: Dong Qin (senior) is still waiting for us to have dinner together. Who the fuck likes to stay here as a free laborer?

The page was pale and trembling all over. If it is a TV series, it is estimated that the next scene is vomiting blood.

The experience of more than 20 years has made me indomitable. No matter what happens, as long as I can't stand it, I will rush out.

I have won and lost, but I have never been afraid. This is my motto in life.

Later, I graduated from college and went to Guangzhou. Because I have never read a book, I am kind and have suffered many setbacks in society. Fortunately, I had a gentle girlfriend. In fact, her conditions are better than mine. I'm lucky to be mixed with me. At that time, she had a stable job with a monthly salary of 4000 yuan. The company has a staff dormitory, but she is persistent and crowded with me in that flat rental house. There is no air conditioning network cable, and even she has to go to the public toilet downstairs to go to the toilet. I don't know how she survived.

If you have to find a reason, it should be that she really liked me at that time.

I jump ship from time to time and do many strange things. I have done it in offices and convenience stores, and I have also done the work of handing out leaflets and serving dishes. No matter what you do, you can't last for a few days, and often you can't even get your salary. But she takes care of my mood and never suppresses my self-esteem. Anything delicious is always waiting for me. At that time, we bought a six-dollar box lunch downstairs, and she would feed me a piece of meat with vegetables and carrots.

In fact, she is not fat at all. Before being with me, she was a little baby fat, but after being with me, she was slim and delicate. I'm determined to find a job with a good income. The work is actually very simple, and the office conditions are good, but a little poor. The boss is moody and very angry. Sometimes when your temper comes, you scold your mother in front of everyone. I endured it once, when he was incompetent and furious again.

When I came home, we had a quarrel. My girlfriend said I shouldn't be so impulsive. In another week, I will get my salary. Even if I am unhappy, I will at least take the money and leave. I said the money should be used as my boss's graveyard. I am still young and can find a good job. Girlfriend said with red eyes: You always say that.

I know in my heart that her money is running out and the day of paying the rent is coming. We are at the end of our tether, so she will be in a hurry.

The next day, I found the landlord and asked him if he could give us a few days. The landlord is from Guangzhou, a man in his early thirties with a moustache. He said: the contract stipulates that the rent will be paid in January, and we must act according to the contract.

I said: the contract is that the dead are alive. Brother Zhang, please give us another ten days, and I promise to settle the money for you.

The moustache smiled and waved to me: I have an idea. If you promise, I will waive your rent for half a year.

I quickly jumped to his side: you say you say.

The moustache said with a smile, your girlfriend is really beautiful. If you let her stay with me for one night, half a year's rent will be fine.

Two days later, the landlord with a dislocated arm kicked us out. My girlfriend and I were wandering in the street with big bags and small bags on our backs. What a beautiful city Guangzhou is. The light is so bright that the electronic screen on the high building is full of colorful lights. We looked at each other and felt that life was hopeless. We found a park. It's almost summer, and it's the time for mosquitoes to breed. Girlfriend was stared at a lot of bags on her leg. I told her to go back to your company dormitory, because you can't sleep here.

Girlfriend said: What about you?

I said: you don't have to worry about me, I always have a way.

Girlfriend said: What can you do? I will stay here with you.

That night was particularly long. I went to the street and asked for a fan for advertising in gynecological hospital. My girlfriend snuggled up on my shoulder and slept. I chased mosquitoes for her. When the temperature dropped in the middle of the night, I took out the coat in the box and covered it for her. I finally stayed up until dawn. I asked her to take her back to the company dormitory, called myself and found a friend to take a bath with him. My hair was not dry and I fell asleep on the sofa.

After half a month, I made a lot of groceries and saved almost 2000 yuan, thinking about when to rent a house and bring my girlfriend back. On Sunday, my girlfriend dressed up beautifully and said that she paid for my dinner. I was so tired at that time that I wolfed it down as soon as I came up. Eating is not like enjoyment, but more like instinct. My girlfriend watched me finish eating, took my hand and whispered, Liu Xi, it's been such a long time.

I nodded while drinking water: yes.

Girlfriend said: Will you listen to me once?

I said, okay.

Girlfriend smiled: Come back to Chengdu with me. My parents have connections there. They can arrange a good job for us. We can live comfortably. There are many delicious foods in Chengdu, as well as giant pandas. You are sure to like them. ...

My chopsticks clicked on the table. I never thought of such a thing. My girlfriend is still telling us about our bright future. I waited for her to finish and stood up to pay the bill. Then I took her hand and walked out the door: Do you want to reconsider? We are still so young now, so we will regret going back to your place to support the elderly. If you give me some more time, I will definitely find a good job and I will do it right.

Girlfriend said: You've said that a hundred times.

I said: this is the last time I said it, please believe me.

My girlfriend said with red eyes, I believe you too many times. It's the same every time. If a job is unsatisfactory, I quit and never want to settle down again. Last time you hit your boss, did you think we had no money? Do you think we will sleep in the park on the street? You don't think about anything. You always think about yourself. I bought two tickets, and I'm leaving whether you go or not.

After that, she gave me a ticket and turned away with tears on her face.

I was at the train station the day she left. I stood in a corner and saw her looking back, waiting at the gate of the station until the end, squatting on the ground and crying for a while, drying her tears and entering the station. There were a hundred times on the road, I wanted to rush up and walk with her, but there was always a voice in my heart, which said: You gave up when you left. You have suffered so much, so now you will give up all your efforts. Besides, you are a man, don't you want to eat soft rice with women? Since there is a man's figure, it should be a little bloody.

I drank a lot that night, and she called me as soon as she got to the station. She said she wouldn't contact me again and told me to take good care. After the phone hung up, I received a short message, and she transferred 4000 yuan to me. She said it was my venture capital. If you succeed one day, treat the next girl well.

Tears welled up in my eyes. This gentle girl who accompanied me through the trough of my life told me with her best efforts. Actually, I've been wrong all along. As a man, dare to be bold and bloodless, and his heart is higher than the sky. True blood is a sense of responsibility to your lover. When life beats us, I will try my best to fully protect her. This is the true blood of men.

True blood is not to be shown to others, but to inspire yourself in your heart. When you slack off, when you want to give up, you should force yourself to keep moving forward and protect the people behind you from the wind and rain.

It is too late for me to understand. After more than seven years, I finally grew into a mature and generous person. I no longer flew into a rage because of one sentence, nor did I fight because of a trivial matter. My endurance has become very good, and I can laugh off many things that I could never stand when I was a child.

I miss the gentle girl in Chengdu very much. She spent the most difficult days with me, telling jokes in the rented house, eating a six-dollar box lunch with me, sleeping with me in an abandoned park full of weeds and mosquitoes, comforting me with tenderness, pleasing me with sweetness and growing me with love.

Go to Chengdu once a year and travel all over the streets. Unfortunately, I never found her again.