Sharing: These five words and deeds of parents set a bad example for children.

Parents' words and deeds, good or bad, can't escape the children's eyes. There are some seemingly innocuous details that affect children all the time.

1. Sloppy clothes, no attention to image

Neat parents affect every aspect of children's lives.

Read such a story:

Once a parent-teacher meeting was held in a girls' school, her mother was too lazy to change clothes and went directly in pajamas, which was very eye-catching among parents, causing the child to be laughed at by classmates: "Why is your mother wearing pajamas?" The child was so ashamed that he couldn't wait to find a crack in the ground and his face was red. At the next parent-teacher meeting, the children will not let their mother go to school anyway, and they will ask their father to go by name.

Dickens wrote in Great Expectations: The most distressing thing in the world is to look down on your home. Every child wants to see his parents dressed elegantly, which is not vanity, but human nature. After all, which child doesn't want his parents to be decent?

Dressing appropriately is a kind of respect and an attitude towards life. Sloppy parents can easily pass on inferiority and timidity to their children.

We don't need to overemphasize external beauty, and we don't need to buy expensive clothes and cosmetics to decorate ourselves, but it is necessary to keep our clothes clean and generous.

What is hidden behind dressing is the attitude of adults towards life, which brings you not only your self-confidence, but also the self-confidence of children.

2. Always lie to children

Many parents confidently lie to their children: "You have a good meal, and we will go to the supermarket to buy toys later." "I have no money today, so I won't buy toys!" Let children wait with expectation, and when they want to realize it, they will refuse it in every way. Children often cry under the lies of adults: "You lied to me again!" " Children are increasingly disappointed with their parents until they no longer trust them.

Chen Meiling, a doctor of education, once advised parents: "Don't cheat children, for example, promise them to take them to the park to play football tomorrow, no matter how tired." "Otherwise, the child will think that you are lying. If a child doesn't trust people, he will be lonely all his life. "

I'm impressed. Parents who keep their word often take what they say seriously. Parents who don't value commitment destroy their children's trust in themselves and their parents' example and prestige.

What is more frightening is that it is difficult to educate an honest child by lying in front of the child. There is a saying in Xiashan School: "If your child lies, he is either afraid of you or imitating you." If the child is full of lies, please reflect first: "Did I do the same?"

3. waste too much time on entertainment

I saw a speechless news the other day. A pair of parents are so addicted to playing mahjong that they don't even know how old their children are and sneak out of the house. Finally, it was discovered by the careful police and sent home in time.

In life, there are too many incidents in which parents are addicted to entertainment and neglect to look after their children. They waste too much time on entertainment, playing mahjong, watching TV, playing mobile phones and playing games. They either lie on the sofa watching their mobile phones and chatting on WeChat, or throw their mobile phones to their children and play whatever they want. For these children, the negative impact is endless. With such parents, children don't feel their importance, and it's easy to follow suit if they watch too much.

More importantly, it is difficult for such a family to have a learning atmosphere.

I know an old man who takes care of his grandson in his hometown. The old man has no other hobbies, but he likes watching TV. They ate and looked at their rice bowls. Children have been watching TV since childhood and are obsessed with TV.

Some time ago, my mother bought some picture books in the studio for the children to read, but the children just didn't read them, so they clamored for cartoons.

This result is actually expected.

4. Break the rules in front of the children

Rules are both constraints and protections.

There is a little girl in Yunnan who runs back and forth on the way from car to car when her mother is busy. When she ran to 10, she was knocked down by an SUV. Fortunately, the speed is slow, and the child's toe is broken, which is not life-threatening.

In this accident, the parents' disapproving attitude was the root cause of the child's injury. It is parents' dereliction of duty to see their children crossing the road 10 times without stopping.

In the rule education, many adults are very contradictory. While seriously telling children what to do is right, they always habitually make negative behaviors. Swaggering through a red light; Smoking in public places where smoking is prohibited; Make a loud noise in public places; Lead the children to jump the queue. ......

In the long run, children are confused and their values are confused: "The education of adults is completely contrary to their words and deeds. Should I listen?"

The end result is that children's awareness of rules is getting weaker and weaker.

5. Speak ill of others in front of children

Many adults like to turn the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the contradiction between husband and wife into complaints about children and incite children to hate each other:

"Your father is not a good thing!"

"Your mother is always talking!"

"Your grandmother is very bad, don't listen to her!"

The child is very sad and divided when he hears such words.

For example, a man may not be a good husband in marriage, but that doesn't mean he can't be a good father.

Children's views on their fathers are children's business, or it is better to leave them to judge for themselves, while the mother's "bad words" affect the parent-child relationship between children and fathers, which will gradually lead to contempt for fathers.

Over time, children lack trust in family relationships and become insecure.

Another disadvantage is that children learn languages by imitation, and these "vicious" languages will be learned and used word for word by children.

For example, some children will blame their grandparents from an early age, and they are not self-taught, but all learn from adults.

So should chatting in front of children.