If the interpersonal relationship is not good, it is because we know too little about human nature: the five iron laws of social communication, if we understand them thoroughly, we will suffer less ha

If the interpersonal relationship is not good, it is because we know too little about human nature: the five iron laws of social communication, if we understand them thoroughly, we will suffer less harm. [cp] If the interpersonal relationship is not good, you know too little about human nature: 5 social iron laws, you will be hurt less if you understand them thoroughly.

Don't be naive in the world of adults. You must improve your understanding of human nature. Only when your thinking level is improved, you will not be so fragile.

People often ask me how to do well in interpersonal communication, because you want to be a communication magnet, so you must first find out the truth of interpersonal communication.

I will share with you five truths about interpersonal communication to help you avoid detours and injuries.

1, the strongest intimate relationship must be money.

I often hear people around me say that I know someone. I have dinner with him and sang k, but is this a personal relationship? This is not, this can only be said to be friends.

When you really meet something, you ask them for help. They must run faster than anyone else, not as good as strangers.

What is a network?

The essence of communication is not mutual understanding, but mutual need and value to each other. How is this value reflected? The simplest measure is money.

Don't think what I said is too cruel and realistic. This is the truth of this world. The bigger the stakes, the stronger the relationship between two people. True friends are not welcome, but needed.

So don't tell me who you know, tell me what you are worth to others first.

Just like many people ask me how to attract the attention of fans, there is no need to attract them. What you share is valuable, can solve their problems or meet certain needs, and they will take the initiative!

Fools exist to please others blindly, and experts know how to make themselves profitable for others.

2. A high-quality circle of contacts must be a circle where interests are paramount.

Many people always say that talking about money hurts feelings, and talking about money is not kind. I want to say this is a joke! Even if you want to take advantage, you are making up excuses!

Money is not the root of all evil. Whether a person wants to do good or evil lies in his heart, not in how much money he has. Like a knife. It lay there quietly, without good or evil, but it was what his people did with it that led to the concept of good or evil.

Therefore, if you want to build high-quality contacts, you must first look at money with an objective heart. People live to survive, and to survive better. It's all about money, so what if my interests are paramount? This is human nature and an objective expression of human nature.

It is meaningless for a group of people to form a circle, if it is not for making money and maximizing benefits within a legal and reasonable range. Getting together to chat and gossip is something that people who don't pursue. Such a circle is worthless.

On the other hand, many people have misunderstandings about kindness. They think that if I want to be kind and be a gentleman, I have to give up my interests. In fact, this is completely wrong.

Does kindness mean giving up interests? Not really!

You will find that no matter who you associate with, interest binding is the smartest social means. As the old saying goes, it is clear to settle accounts between brothers in order not to get angry in the future.

If we have to give up our own interests in order to maintain a relationship, what is the commercial value of this relationship?

Therefore, making friends and maintaining feelings does not mean giving up interests and not caring about things related to money.

Learn to separate feelings from interests, don't be a bad person, only talk about human feelings and don't talk about interests, no matter how good the relationship is, it will be betrayed, because the good and evil of human nature are dominated by interests.

Don't overdraw your feelings if you encounter difficulties and can solve them with money.

Don't look for relatives when you are in trouble, and don't go to acquaintances' shops when doing business. When you are in trouble, you should habitually find strangers and solve them with money. Benign interpersonal relationships must be a cycle of constantly making friends with money and making money with UFIDA.

Many people always take advantage of human relationships for temporary gain, and finally they hurt themselves. Why? Because human feelings are immeasurable, and the return is always the hardest.

For example, if you want to move today, you can ask your relatives and friends to save you a few dollars. As a result, everyone will help you finish your work. Would you like to invite everyone to dinner? Just find a restaurant for dinner, which may cost three or four hundred yuan. As a result, you saved the money of the moving company, but spent it on eating.

Besides, the matter of inviting them to dinner is not over yet, and you still owe me one. What will you do if these relatives and friends have something to do in the future, such as borrowing money?

So you seem to have saved money for a while, but in fact, the cost behind it is even greater and may bring a lot of trouble.

We always say that the market is the most cruel, in fact, the market is also the most well-intentioned, because what you solve with money is often not so much trouble afterwards, and it is clear.

Therefore, if a thing can be solved with money, just spend a few dollars directly, and enjoy it the most, without sequelae and without involving human feelings.

Of course, this is contrary to the word "rely on" in traditional culture: rely on parents at home and friends when going out.

You can make up for it yourself.

4. Be tactful and sophisticated in interpersonal communication.

There are hundreds of people, all kinds, people floating in the rivers and lakes, everyone. You should learn to deal with different people and solve them by different means.

Many people always say how important it is to be honest and upright. In fact, this is to look at people from the perspective of human brilliance. The fact is that you are easily hurt by doing so.

People with good connections must be sophisticated people, not good people. Excellent people will only maximize the interests of others, and smooth people can maximize their own interests.

5, interpersonal communication, don't try to change others.

Why don't others want to associate with you? Because you always want to change others, but human nature makes everyone unwilling to be changed and lectured.

This has nothing to do with your intention. Maybe you want to change others, and it's really for the good of others, for his good, but it's useless. Being a man is measured, and everything is overdone, that is, doing bad things with good intentions, even with good intentions, but the result is still not good. People often pay attention to the results. [/cp]