What kind of people don't want to associate with their relatives?

The poem says, "Let's toast each other to Tu Su wine, and have a taste of Shengli tea after a banquet."

during the spring festival, relatives and friends get together to eat, drink and have a good time. After dinner, have a cup of tea, and talk about the future.

Usually, everyone is very busy, so we should get together after a long vacation. But contrary to expectations, it is more and more realistic for relatives to communicate.

Before you know it, the Spring Festival has passed, and people are going to work and leaving their hometown one after another. Suddenly looking back, I realized that the following people don't want to associate with their relatives.

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"rootless" people didn't go back to their hometown during the Chinese New Year and didn't walk around with their relatives.

Bai Juyi wrote in "In addition to the Night": "There are many thoughts at the end of the year, and the horizon is far away. Old people add new ones, and illness reduces old glory. "

someone stood at the door, looking forward to it, missing their distant relatives, but the distant relatives didn't come back, and the people at home were more sad.

such a picture is sad. Especially elderly parents, why don't they want their children to go home early? Perhaps, parents prepared a lot of delicious food for the Spring Festival. Years ago, I called countless times, calling for my children.

In fact, many people are used to wandering, and they have no "roots". Not only young people, but also some middle-aged people.

there are so many people, where is home? Seriously think about it-this peace of mind is my hometown; I regard a foreign land as my hometown.

People who haven't returned home for several years, whose roots are in a different place, or have been on the road, have become less and less aware of family ties. Working hard, making money and settling down in a different place are their real plans.

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People who "refuse to climb relatives" have no enthusiasm for visiting relatives.

During the Chinese New Year, you will find this phenomenon: when old people are together, they will say "uncle, grandpa, aunt" as soon as they open their mouths, while young people will say "classmates, friends, colleagues and leaders" as soon as they open their mouths.

Obviously, there is a generation gap between people. In a magnified sense, there is no way to have a good chat.

The older generation likes to comfort people by saying, "If you really can't get along, call your uncle. He is doing well somewhere."

when you go to see your uncle, you are often chilling. Uncle was not as enthusiastic as he thought, and even refused to help the younger generation. This affection immediately turned cold.

since generations can't talk and help each other, don't associate.

when a person has the idea of refusing to "climb relatives", he will naturally break off relations with relatives. During the Chinese New Year, he will choose to associate with some people with interests, rather than being limited to relatives. For example, someone visits his boss with a gift, but ignores his elders.

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People who are "down and out" don't want to meet their relatives and are afraid to talk about their income and work.

there are many forms of visiting relatives and friends. Some people drive to pay New Year's greetings, some people take a ride to pay New Year's greetings, and some people need a lift from relatives, and even ask relatives to pick them up specially.

Some people who drive luxury cars to pay New Year's greetings look dignified and talk loudly. Some very poor people, everywhere, are "timid", even depending on the faces of their elders.

In addition, people who are down and out will be stingy when giving gifts, and will also care when giving red envelopes.

as the saying goes, "people are more angry than others."

if relatives compare with each other, they will find that people who are down and out might as well stay at home and not meet outsiders. When he starts talking about money and work, he really has no confidence.

In my hometown, there is a phenomenon: "dodging debts." That is to say, at the end of the year and the beginning of the year, people who don't usually see each other will probably go home and meet each other during the New Year. Take this opportunity to settle the debt and ask for it back.

People who are in debt are really afraid that someone will come to collect debts, so they should hide and not meet their relatives and friends. Even when they return to their hometown, they will not reveal their whereabouts, and their parents will deliberately hide them.

Poverty also reflects "losing face and confidence", so it is not surprising to break off relations with relatives.

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People who live in a "fast-paced" life take visiting relatives as a burden and always come and go in a hurry.

the spring festival is more than ten days, but actually it is only a few days. Some people who work outside the home rushed to their hometown from other places, and then went to other places from their hometown, and the road was delayed for two or three days. The time at home is three or four days.

it seems difficult to visit all relatives' homes. When I went to visit my relatives, I was driving a car, pulling a bunch of gifts and rushing them to my elders. I left without saying a few words and went to the next one.

sometimes, you can go to five or six families in one morning, and everyone just meets each other, not emotional contact.

Many people hope to have a good rest during the Chinese New Year, instead of being busy around, so they choose not to associate with their relatives and live their own lives.

Some relatives are also accustomed to "not staying for dinner" and regard New Year greetings as a formality. Over time, everyone reached a * * * knowledge of less walking and less intersection.

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As the saying goes, "The first child, the second lang, the third day, the fourth day."

according to the order of new year's greetings, it is unrealistic to schedule the dates, go to relatives' homes for dinner or even sleep for one night. If a relative lives in a remote mountainous area, maybe you don't plan to visit at all, but send blessings and red envelopes through the internet.

once, in the countryside, more than half of the people in the village were relatives, so they went to visit when they had nothing to do, and they took a message when they had something to do, so relatives gathered around.

now, whether in rural areas or towns, everyone is busy and well-being. Whether in my hometown or in a foreign land, I still have to live on my own. The weakness of the concept of kinship is not only a change of ideas, but also forced by life.

as the saying goes, "blood ties are linked."

In any case, you still need to visit relatives during the Spring Festival. We must understand the truth-"You come and I go, only kiss; If you don't come, I won't go, and I won't kiss you. "

Although there are some relatives who have bad personalities and people who are unwilling to help, there are always a few people who will give you warmth at critical times.

with the development of the times, there are more and more forms of communication between people. In addition to meeting and chatting, you can also communicate with each other through the internet. As long as you have the heart, it is as lively as the New Year all the year round.

Remember the goodness of others, learn to be grateful, and society will have a human touch.