How to chat with boys to find a topic, four practical chat skills

Recently, I signed up a new classmate, Xinxin. I finally got a little brother who was satisfied with me, and all the conditions were compatible with me, but I was stuck in the chat session.

Although they added WeChat to each other, they all chatted one by one, not very enthusiastic. Occasionally chatting, the content is limited to the American TV series they like each other and a game they both play. Later, the two chatted less and less, and until recently, they even stopped talking at all.

I don't know if you have had such a similar experience. You are obviously interested in a boy, and you obviously added the other person's WeChat, but you don't know how to chat with the other person to promote this relationship and make the other person interested in you.

Yan Yan's problem is that she doesn't know how to expand the topic and upgrade the relationship, so as to find more similarities and closer emotional circuits, which leads to the final curiosity and goodwill being exhausted by a single topic.

Today, I will teach you a few chat tips to help you solve this embarrassing dilemma and let you have endless topics with him!

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Divergent chat

Chatting is the same as studying. Many times, we need to have a divergent way of thinking-more associations and inferences. In this way, when you chat with boys, you can talk more and there will be no ice.

So what is divergent chat? For example, you can understand quickly.

For example, there are many photos of travel in a boy's circle of friends. You can ask him, "Do you like traveling? Seeing the photos of your circle of friends, I feel the scenery is very good. "

If he says to you, "Well, yes, it was taken in xx."

Next, you can exchange some experiences and stories about this place with him. For example, if you have been there, you can talk about your experiences and stories.

If you haven't been there yet, you can ask him for some travel experience or ask him to recommend some places worth visiting. In addition, go directly to Baidu's famous local attractions and ask him how he feels. This will stimulate him to express his desire and make him more and more specific.

So in such a process, is the interaction between you much more visible to the naked eye?

If his answer is: "Hey, in xx, I don't think it's fun either. Now the scenic spots all over the country are similar. "

Then you can also answer like this: "Oh, then I suggest you go to Tengchong or Lugu Lake next time, which has not been fully developed. It's clean and quiet here, especially suitable for relaxation. The TV series Northern Ireland is being filmed there.

In this way, whether you continue to talk about travel, the TV series Northern Ireland or food, Tong Liya and others will have enough topics to start.

Note that when talking about travel, food, food and Tong Liya in Northern Ireland, it is an extension of the topic, but if you suddenly talk about Tong Liya from travel and Northern Ireland from food, it will be abrupt, making people feel that your thinking is too out of control and you will be very tired.

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Cold reading and chatting

What is a cold reading chat? It is to assume in advance that you already know something about the other person, or something that the other person is interested in, and then start chatting.

For example, you can say, "I guess you must like western food very much?"

Then this question may get two answers from the other side. One is: no, why do you think so?

Then you can explain this speculation at this time, for example: Oh, I see that every time you come to have a drink in the morning, you always order soy milk or milk and always order coffee. So I thought you would prefer western food.

Under normal circumstances, the other person will naturally explain the original intention of his behavior and talk to you about his eating habits and so on. So, don't you have a successful topic?

Just like that, if you want to know where he is from, you can say "I guess you are from Shanghai". If the other person is not, he will take the initiative to explain. This statement is better than the feeling of direct audit.

Second, it is possible that you guessed right.

The other person will ask: How do you know?

At this time, you can say, "Haha, because I have a sixth sense! I also like western food very much. Oh, I like it best. " .

In this case, you can not only successfully start a topic with each other, but also quickly narrow the distance between you and each other and increase psychological intimacy.

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* * * Sexual topics

If you really haven't had any contact with the other person before, you don't know what the other person is interested in and there is nothing to use in the other person's circle of friends. Then you can use the way of "* * * sex topic".

Although everyone is a unique individual, it is undeniable that many times, there are many * * * between individuals.

For most ordinary people, it is hard not to be interested in such topics as "travel", "food", "school time", "family" and "pets".

These things are almost indispensable experiences in most people's lives, and they are very attractive things. Therefore, most people will have a desire to talk about these things that they are interested in and good at.

So, if you really don't know what to talk about with boys, you might as well start with these topics. You can start with many things in any aspect.

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Stop before you go too far.

In chatting, you should not only learn how to start a topic, but also need skills to end it.

Although some girls have no problem opening the topic at the beginning, they can't hold back at the end. As long as you have a good chat with boys, you can't fight.

Even though the topic has been squeezed almost, I still don't know enough is enough. I continued to chat with the boys in bits and pieces, and barely talked for a while until the boys couldn't stand the initiative to end the chat. This is obviously not the end.

Another situation is that at the end of the chat, the conclusion is very blunt, giving people the feeling that the chat was abruptly cut off.

You can leave in time when the chat atmosphere is good, but you also need ways and means. If your way is too blunt, it will also bring bad feelings to the other party, such as:

"I'm busy", "It's getting late and it's time for bed", "I'm going to take a shower", "I'm going to eat" and so on.

These reasons will make people feel perfunctory, just like "I'm going to take a shower", one of the well-known three treasures of the goddess.

Because bathing doesn't interfere with chatting strictly, I really want to chat, and I can continue chatting after washing.

Such an excuse that you obviously don't want to talk to him will definitely make people feel uncomfortable.

So a comfortable chat ending is to let the boy know that although you still want to chat with her, there is really no way to chat again.

For example, "the boss has arranged a job for me, and I'm going to be busy." "If you want to drive, you can't play with your mobile phone." "It's getting late. I'm going to read and sleep. You should go to bed early, too." These are all hard-core reasons.

If your comfort is well established and a little ambiguous, you can say "Go to sleep, don't dream about me, my appearance fee is very expensive".