How does it feel when your father dislikes you for being stingy?

Maybe I am really stingy and don’t feel anything else.

Some time ago, I was chatting with a friend who was traveling in Hokkaido with a younger brother. I asked him if he was having fun. He told me that he and his brother were not traveling together, so the journey was not very pleasant. He told me in detail that my younger brother was pestering his parents to go to Japan. His mother was worried, so she invited my friend to follow my younger brother there.

His younger brother is not from a wealthy family. He has just entered college and has no ability to make money on his own, but he has the ability to spend money like water. Let’s take a small thing as an example: Japan is very expensive, a piece of cantaloupe costs about 30 yuan.

My friend asked me: "Can you admit that you can't make money yet, and your family is not very rich, but you didn't blink just because you were thirsty, and you refused to buy water but you ate three slices of cantaloupe in one go. "A child?" This child reminds me of a very impressive saying: Your parents are still trying to be content, but you are showing off your poetry and your distance. There are quite a few people like this around me. Another friend of mine has very ordinary family conditions, but lives a very "high-end" life.

She found the lunch boxes at her workplace unpalatable, so she went out to eat out at noon every day, and would order a cup of milk tea for more than ten yuan for delivery in the afternoon. When I go shopping with her, she always drags me to eat at popular and expensive restaurants. When traveling with her, she always buys all kinds of overpriced food and souvenirs in scenic spots, spending money like water. The stinky tofu was not very tasty, so she tasted a piece, spit it out, frowned in disgust, and threw it away.

I don’t even dare to advise her not to be so lavish with money. Every time I tried to persuade her, she would squint unconvinced, quote two of her famous quotes, and speak confidently.

The first sentence is, "Girls, you must be rich", and the second sentence is, "When you go out to play, you must be happy and don't care too much about money." It seems that if I advise her to save appropriately, it will appear I'm too stingy and stingy. I thought she must have a well-off family, until I went to her home one time. She lived in a private house on the outskirts of the city. It was old and damp, narrow and small. To go from the first floor to the second floor, you had to climb a very steep staircase.

Her grandma was sitting at home picking vegetables, wearing her high school uniform jacket. She asked grandma why she didn't play cards. The old man said: I lost dozens of dollars in the past two days and I am not happy today. I borrowed their bathroom, and my grandma never forgot to tell me to use the water in the bucket that has been used to wash the mop. Don't press the button. The water will splash as soon as it is flushed, which is a waste of money.

It was such a frugal old man who gave all his savings piece by piece by selling vegetables to his granddaughter and allowed her to squander it. At noon, she had dinner with her parents. Her father stated that he did not expect her to make money to support the family. The little salary she earned could be used to feed herself and clothe herself.