Should everything be clearly distinguished between husband and wife?

Since we are husband and wife, everything is the property of both parties. Married people and those in a relationship are two different things. When they are not married and are just lovers, of course they must be clearly distinguished. You are yours and I am mine. When you get married, there is no need to be like this. You are mine and I am yours. This is the way couples should think.

Too clearly differentiated makes it seem even stranger. Husband and wife are one and the same. When we are husband and wife, we should not share blessings and share hardships. They belong to everyone. Is it the same?

I have seen some couples who take care of whoever earns the money after they get married. If you don’t spend his money, he won’t give it to you. The two of you will share the living expenses equally. You can buy whatever you want, no one cares about you.

The concept of couples today is different from those in the past. In the past, couples became a real family after getting married. The husband believed in his wife, and the money he earned was managed by his wife. She was the housekeeper and bought everything she needed in life. She buys everything and saves the remaining money for when their children grow up and marry their wives. They never thought about divorce.

But today’s couples are just afraid that whoever cheats one day, the money earned by whoever will belong to the other person, you spend yours, I spend mine, as if they don’t owe each other, and they have to draw boundaries and divide the family property. Similar.

We are still husband and wife, not divorced, so why should we separate everything so clearly? We are still a family. Isn’t it true that a family has the same heart? Why bother to do more.

I don’t think we should clearly distinguish what a couple is, and is it still interesting to live like this? People in this era have really special ideas, so special that people can’t understand them.

I have a junior high school classmate. She is married, but she lives a very unhappy life. Since she married her husband and gave birth to a child, she has been taking care of the child and doing housework at home. One day, she asked her My husband asked for money to pay for maintenance. His husband said, maintenance is so expensive, don’t go there, and you can’t make any money. It’s all my money, so save it.

I sympathize with her. She has worked hard for this family and she is also making money, but her husband cannot see it. He only knows that the money he earns only belongs to him. It is up to him to spend it on his wife or not. Decide.

I advocate that couples all over the world should love each other's wives and husbands. Everything in a family belongs to one family. As for other things, there is no need to divide them at all. You are him and he is you.