I don't pay attention to my words. When I meet a person (alumnus) on the Internet, I will play an excessive joke on him-for example, is he an idiot?

Seniors speak in moderation, and teachers and students speak in moderation, so why do many people lose their discretion when they come to men and women?

A reader left me a message before saying that when chatting with my sweetheart, I always fell silent and didn't know what to say. Sometimes he even jokes too much, so that the other party almost pulls himself black.

In Messi's view, the reason why these readers can't find the skills of chatting is because they don't have a good measure from the heart, and they always say what they think without thinking at all.

So, don't underestimate the skills of chatting. Chatting with the opposite sex, these "appropriate limits" minutes can stir each other's hearts.

Xiao Zhi is also one of my readers. He pursued the goddess the other day. At the beginning of the WeChat chat, the goddess was not bad to him.

But slowly, the goddess ignored him, and even when they met in real life, the goddess always skipped him in a hurry.

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But the change of the goddess is entirely caused by Xiao Zhi herself. He especially likes joking, but the goddess belongs to a serious woman. His joke embarrassed the goddess and she didn't know how to answer the words at all.

And Xiao Zhi is also a pair of don't look at the face, see the goddess have no objection, he thought that the goddess likes to play jokes on him, so often, several times is too much.

Not only that, Xiao Zhi also likes to say some dirty jokes in front of the goddess. He thinks he is good at flirting, but in the eyes of the goddess, he is no different from a local ruffian.

So slowly, the goddess' affection for him was completely defeated, and she didn't want to talk to him at all.

Another reader, Zhong Yi, is different. He has his own way of pursuing women. He and his girlfriend only got together last month. Originally, he took the initiative to pursue it. I didn't expect that the person who finally took the initiative to confess was actually a girlfriend.

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When Zhong Yi gets along with his girlfriend, he is not very enthusiastic, but he always treats his girlfriend silently. And as long as he finds his girlfriend alone, he will pretend to appear at her side casually to accompany her.

Zhong Yi's girlfriend said that she thinks Zhong Yi is a person who respects people very much. At that time, although he was pursuing himself, he never made an annoying intimate move. So, in the end, she felt that since she had a good impression, she offered to be together.

In this world, everyone wants to be a person with high emotional intelligence. After all, people with high emotional intelligence will not lose when they speak. Therefore, Messi hopes you can understand that men and women should know how to communicate appropriately. If you can keep these proper limits, it will bring convenience to your heart.

Be measured when joking.

There are always some people who like to tease each other's hearts with jokes when pursuing the opposite sex, and think that their practices are very attractive. But this kind of performance falls in the eyes of the other party, and there is nothing but cheap.

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In the process of pursuing the opposite sex, it shows that you are still in an unfamiliar state. Therefore, at this time, you must have an appropriate limit and don't make some excessive jokes.

You don't know where the bottom line is. Maybe you think it's dull, but the other person just can't accept it. Isn't it a shame to do so rashly?

Shut up when you're talking.

The charm of language is quite powerful. It can help you succeed, but it can also destroy you quickly. Remember, when pursuing the opposite sex, there are some things you should say and some things you shouldn't say. You must grasp a scale in your mind and remember what to say on what occasions.

Some people always like to explore other people's privacy as strangers. Do you consider yourself a friend? No, you made him hate you.

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Everyone has something in his heart that can't be touched. If you always like to expose other people's shortcomings, speak aggressively.

Then no matter how much you do to move the other person, he won't give you his heart and even get tired of you.

Be measured when expressing enthusiasm.

Yes, when you like someone, the enthusiasm in your heart seems to break out at any time and you can't control it at all. But I also hope you understand that if you don't know each other's thoughts for a while, then you'd better restrain your enthusiasm.

Because, if enthusiasm is used in the right place, everything will echo. If you use it in the wrong place, it will only make the other party feel that you are puzzling.

Therefore, don't show too much enthusiasm when you get along with the opposite sex. It is enough to bring him warmth silently at the right time.

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Speaking is an art. Some people can travel all over the world with their mouths open, while others want to stay away with their mouths open.

In the same way, the same is true when pursuing the opposite sex. If you don't know how to measure, you always want to close the distance with too explicit jokes, or you want to get to know each other through eager words, then his impression of you will be greatly reduced.

When you get along with others, you have a ruler in your heart to go further, whether you are making friends or falling in love. Proper limits, as a very important part of emotional intelligence, will benefit you a lot if you master them well.