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"When people reach middle age, everything is clear": What kind of person they become after 30 years old depends on this ability.

After the age of 30, to what extent can "nothing" make an adult desperate?

In the program "Friends, Please Listen", He Jiong read a letter, which gave a heartfelt answer.

Listen to a letter from a friend:

Other people's 35-year-olds have a smooth career and a happy family, while I am 35 years old, but I am afraid of ups and downs.

First, I resigned, and then my business was on the verge of bankruptcy. I ran around paying my debts every day, ignoring my family, and my marriage also went wrong.

When people reach middle age, their families and careers will be broken into parts.

I feel that life is back to the starting point and I have accomplished nothing.

When I am anxious, I can't sleep all night and even cry in my dreams.

Before I was 30, my life was smooth sailing. I graduated from Nanjing University with a master's degree and work in a state-owned enterprise.

After the age of 30, he became a joke even less than his younger brother who went to college.

I often think:

Why can't I always do what I want?

Shouldn't people do things beyond their ability?

Where am I going to find the turning point in my life? ?

In fact, like this friend's three consecutive questions, we are all experiencing it.

I tried my best, but in the end I got nothing.

And this kind of adult sadness, everything can only be swallowed by biting your teeth.

Is success really that hard?

Actually, it is not.

Look at the excellent people around us. The same thing, where they are, becomes a bright future.

They can always make one thing look effortless and become the best.

Feng Tang is such a person.

Although he comes from a worker's family, he is excellent in everything from a doctor of Union Medical College to a partner of McKinsey to a writer of the times.

Although success cannot be duplicated, everyone can learn from it.

This is the way of life that he summed up for half his life.

Feng Tang's A-side life

He is a doctor of Xueba, a business elite and a literary god.

The Grus once commented on him like this:

What is really amazing about Feng Tang is that he can be both a domineering businessman and a free and easy writer.

Indeed, every time he enters the business, he can be outstanding from scratch.

Throughout the first half of my life, almost all the way is bright.

He has been a real schoolmaster since he was a child.

At parent-teacher conferences, Feng Tang's mother always looks proud.

17 years old, admitted to Peking Union Medical College. His major only recruited two people in Beijing that year.

In the eighth year of studying medicine, I got a doctor of medicine.

Later, he gave up medicine and went into business, but he was still outstanding.

After graduating from Ph.D. at the age of 27, he went to the United States to study for an MBA with a perfect score of TOEFL and a high score of GMAT 750 (graduate entrance examination for business administration), and entered the 20th business school in the United States. Tuition fees were free.

After graduating from MBA, I successfully passed five rounds of interviews and entered McKinsey, a global high-end consulting company.

Another 10 years later, 37-year-old Feng Tang became the global managing partner of McKinsey.

It took him two years less time to sit in this position than others.

From doctor of medicine to business leader, Feng Tang achieved the first perfect cross-border.

At the same time, he also began to emerge in the literary circle.

He has published more than 20 bestsellers, such as Everything Grows, Beijing and Beijing. It was well received and adapted into a popular movie.

Some people say that Feng Tang is a man with a treasure, and he can set off a wave of storms in both business and literary circles.

But there are also many people who refuse to accept it. Why is he always so lucky to do whatever he does?

To tell the truth, behind every open life, there is an unknown underlying ability.

For Feng Tang, this low-level ability is the practical way to achieve more and more.

The following is Feng Tang's self-report. After listening to it, you may understand that anyone who can achieve something will need this kind of wisdom in life.

Feng Tang's B-side life

He is a child of a worker's family and knows well with the nobles.

Feng Tang, one of my stage names, was named when I first published my book.

My real name is Zhang Haipeng, and most people have the same starting point. I grew up in an ordinary worker family.

The label posted on my body as seen by outsiders seems to be inlaid with a halo.

But I know that it is a precious return that has been accumulated for decades.

Encountered numerous obstacles.

When I first started my MBA class, I, a doctor of medicine, became a financial expert in a second.

Even the basic accounting balance has to be done for a long time, which has been greatly hit and troubled.

Later, I joined McKinsey, working 80- 100 hours a week on average, and my life and work were once out of balance.

Later, the new book was released, and only four people came to the huge signing ceremony. The scene was so embarrassing that I couldn't wait to find a crack in the ground.

Although everything is bumpy, fortunately, the final result is satisfactory.

I am also very lucky. I have been standing on the shoulders of giants until I step up the slope step by step.

At McKinsey, my boss personally took me to do projects and taught me to apply management methodology to practice.

If the work efficiency is low, follow the "three-step meeting method": do five W's before the meeting and grasp the pain point of solving the problem, so that you can save time and effort; ?

If you don't meet a noble person, study the "McKinsey trust formula": trust? =? Credibility x Reliability? x? Affinity? ÷? Selfishness, starting from the bottom logic, can meet a lifetime of noble people;

If you want to balance your life, you must do four things: fundamentally solve the conflict between life and work, so as to maintain a good attitude.

In McKinsey's 10 years, I have a thorough understanding of the underlying thinking of management from countless practical consulting cases.

I am also glad that I studied Zeng Guofan when I was young.

It is no exaggeration to say that I am Zeng Guofan's biggest fan. Every time I open his book, it's success, success, and success again.

Zeng Guofan's life, as a teacher, made meritorious deeds.

He summed up the "seven-step mind method" and led me all the way forward and continued to climb.

Follow Zeng Guofan to see through the "four skills of knowing people" and tell the truth. When you understand human nature, things will be much easier in the future.

From then on, everything I did became more and more smooth, and I had a later life.

This way of doing things.

You can also copy at zero threshold.

To be honest, I have always believed that success cannot be copied, but everyone can learn from it.

I often hear friends around me complain:

At work: I am busy late into the night every day, but actually I have done nothing; ?

Family: the left hand gives birth to children, the right hand does housework, there is no time to think, and adversity is helpless; ?

Life: I can't find the way forward, and I always face the attack of the villain's dimensionality reduction. Apart from anxiety, I am helpless;

……

In fact, they are all trapped in a misunderstanding and can't get out.

Every time I see them at a loss, I especially want to share with them the insights and ways of life I have learned through practice in the past 20 years.

Even if someone can apply these to real life and achieve something, it is also a very happy thing for me.