Educate Xiong Haizi not to cook.

Xiong Haizi came and went. On July 3 1 Foshan, Guangdong, three children threw a lot of bricks at the second floor of the shop. Aunt sanitation went upstairs and told the adults about it. Then the adults beat the children angrily.

It looks really irritating. How could something happen to it? Life is a matter of life!

If the child makes a mistake, will the parents finish it with a beating? Have you "educated" your children?

I saw a report that a boy named Hao Hao, one month before the final exam, his classmates and parents jointly asked him to transfer or transfer classes, and more than 20 students protested by striking classes. My parents said, "I have put up with it for three years, and I really can't stand it!" "

It turned out that Hao Hao killed his classmates at school; Tearing classmates' books in class; Make noise, jump rope and dance at will; Lift up the skirt of a female classmate; Two teachers ran away in one semester, the real Xiong Haizi.

It is not true to say that Hao Hao's parents don't care. A parent said that his child had been beaten by Haohao before, and he had looked for Haohao's father. As a result, Haohao's father pinched Haohao's neck without saying anything, and Haohao's face turned purple and he was out of breath. The parent said that he was frightened and had to give up.

You see, it's obviously not a good idea to hit the child directly when he makes a mistake.

Children are like a mirror of their parents, reflecting their words and deeds.

If you hit a child, shout, "Who told you to hit someone? Don't hit people! "

If you scold a child, shout "Don't curse. Who told you to curse? "

If you lose your temper and shout, "Are you angry? Are your wings hard? "

This kind of education is not called education. Instead, you should take your child as a punching bag and vent your anger at being accused by others. Children who are "educated" can only become more and more bears until one day they become murderers.

Some time ago, a 5-year-old boy in Hunan carried a 2-year-old girl into the elevator alone, which led to the tragedy of the girl's death. I have been paying attention to the reaction of the boy's parents and finally found one. As a result, the boy family moved out of the community overnight. Some netizens said: That boy is a famous bear in the community.

I can probably think that the parents of this child usually treat their children in a "simple and rude" way, whether it is connivance or repression. A simple and rude bear parent can only give birth to Xiong Haizi.

We don't want our children to be Xiong Haizi. What can we do as parents?

Parents lead by example.

"The Analects of Confucius Luz": "Its body is upright, and its actions are not ordered; His body is not right, although he does not obey. " This is the importance of setting an example. Dr. rudolf steiner, the founder of Waldorf Education, believes that children should not learn what you say or even what you do, but what you are. These are all things that we, whether parents or teachers, need to reflect and be vigilant at all times when educating our children.

In fact, I am a lazy person. When I see garbage, I will make a detour. With Yan Yan, I will deliberately change myself, pick up the rubbish littered everywhere and throw it into the trash can.

Because I know that when a child is young, his parents are everything to him, and his good moral conduct is bound to be inseparable from his parents' words and deeds.

Teach children to distinguish right from wrong.

Aesop's Fables tells the story of a thief and his mother: a thief was caught, sentenced to death and executed three days later. He wanted to say goodbye to his mother before the execution and was allowed.

When his mother came to see him, he said, "I want to tell you something." He spoke softly, but she couldn't hear him; When she approached, the thief whispered again. When the mother put her ear close, the son suddenly bit her ear and almost tore it off, and everyone around her was shocked.

"This is her punishment," said the thief. "When I was a child, I stole things in the store and took the stolen things home. Instead of punishing me, she smiled and said, "Don't be seen." It's because of her that I ended up like this. "

Reasonable parents should teach their children "don't do it with small evils."

Don't label children casually.

There is a suggestion effect in psychology: under the condition of no confrontation, people's psychology and behavior are influenced by implicit and abstract induction, which makes people act or accept some opinions in a certain way and makes their thoughts and behaviors meet the expectations of the suggester.

If you label your child casually, then what you pass on to your child is a negative, negative hint, which makes your child think that he loves to hit people or is disobedient, then he will develop in that direction.

One day, I was in a bad mood and Yan Yan kept calling me. I called her "disgusting" with my mouth. Unexpectedly, after a day, she still chanted "I am a disgusting child" in a particularly lonely tone.

I was sad for a while and felt guilty. I quickly comforted her: "My mother said this because she was in a bad mood, and our baby is not a nasty child." She is very happy.

Teach children to take responsibility.

When children make mistakes, they must take responsibility. Children may not be sensible, but adults are sensible. The phrase "What do you care about with your child when he is young" makes the child realize that "youth is the gold medal to avoid death, because you can do anything wrong when you are young".

One child pushes another child to fall, and then the child's mother takes the child to the hospital, and the child follows every step of the process.

The child's grandmother felt that it was unnecessary to take care of the child, but the mother said: He must bear this responsibility, and later he will understand that he can't be willful.

Love this mom!

Teach children not to discriminate against others.

As parents, we should cultivate children's empathy and let them know how to respect others and all life.

201March13 At about 7: 20, three students, including Yang, a fifth-grade student from Dongshuanghe Town, Shihe District, Xinyang City, Henan Province, accompanied a vagrant and beggar to smash with stones and apples on their way back to school for evening self-study.

After the vagrants and beggars became angry, they chased Yang and other three primary school students. Yang was shot in the head and died of skull injury and intracranial hemorrhage.

This is a tragedy. The direct cause of the tragedy is children's discrimination against vagrants and beggars. I wonder if the children's parents have ever told them "Don't discriminate against others, every life deserves respect".

In this incident, if children knew how to respect others, it would not have caused this "fatal disaster"

Parents should control their emotions.

Parents must control their emotions when their children make mistakes. How can they talk about education when they are angry?

When criticizing children, we must focus on things, not people. Don't turn over old scores, just solve the current problems.

"At the beginning of life, human nature is good", no child is born a bear, and children's behavior is subtly influenced by the surrounding environment.

And parents are the most important part of this environment. Only by not being a bear's parents can we educate a sensible and good child.

"Lead by example, moisten things quietly" is the way of education.