My mother-in-law kicked me out of the house because I couldn't have children. See you in five years. I am very grateful. Why?

What is the meaning of marriage? For many women, getting married means starting a happy life with the man you love. Men are more involved in their own families, and subconsciously think that marrying a wife means giving an explanation to their parents, so it is necessary for a wife to listen to her parents. Because of this, many marriages are influenced by their mother-in-law.

The concept of the older generation is different from that of young people, but they are often used to making young people listen to themselves as experienced people, especially when giving birth to children. Parents always attach great importance to having children, which will inevitably cause great pressure on young people and even lead to the breakdown of marriage.

Although now is the era of freedom of marriage, there are still many men in marriage whose thoughts are always influenced by their parents. They often confuse filial piety with marriage, so that their wives are miserable and regard giving birth as a woman's task. This is a mistake that many men make in marriage. If they encounter problems, they just shirk and don't reflect on themselves. A man with an uncertain marriage cannot control his happiness.

Excessive interference by mother-in-law will often accelerate the breakdown of marriage. One of my female readers, Chen Fei (a pseudonym), shared her story with me.

Chinese New Year is a very happy thing for many people, but for Chen Fei, it has a deeper memory. Once she thought it was a pain that she would never forget, but a recent incident made her feel grateful for what happened on New Year's Eve five years ago. If her former mother-in-law was not cruel, she wouldn't have a happy life now.

Not long ago, Chen Fei took her son and daughter out shopping. She met a man in the street. This man once pushed her to the abyss of despair. She hates this man. She ruined her former beauty. Although she is happy now, she still can't help but hate seeing each other. She tried to pretend not to see it, but she was stopped by the other party. She thinks it's nothing. She has nothing to hide.

The first sentence of the former mother-in-law was to look at her child and ask, "Is this your child?" Chen Fei knew the reason why she was asked, and that's why she was thrown out. She sneered, "Of course!" , the former mother-in-law listened to, mumbling, mouth kept saying impossible, how is it possible ... She cried as she spoke, and Chen Fei was too lazy to pester each other and left with the children.

This is the first time that Chen Fei saw her ex-mother-in-law crying. She used to be so overbearing and arrogant. Chen Fei still remembers the scene of being kicked out of the house on New Year's Eve, how cruel her ex-mother-in-law was, how her ex-husband treated her coldly, and how she became a joke to others.

Chen Fei and Sheng Jun met in free love. Chen Fei's parents don't agree with them because they have different family and educational backgrounds. They don't think they are suitable to be together, and parents don't want their daughter to suffer. However, Chen Fei seems to be possessed. If she doesn't get married, her parents must agree. In order to reduce the pressure on the son-in-law to buy a house, Chen Fei's parents agreed not to give the bride price, and they also prepared a dowry of 500,000 yuan for their daughter in case of emergency.

After the marriage, Chen Fei lived in her husband's family, and the 500,000 bride price was contributed by Sheng Jun. Sheng Jun promised Chen Fei that he could earn money to buy a house early, but Chen Fei believed it. Unexpectedly, the money finally lost, not a penny left. Chen Fei didn't want to worry his parents, and he didn't dare to tell them. In this way, Chen Fei lived with her in-laws. At first, my mother-in-law had a good attitude towards Chen Fei, but since the 500,000 dowry was gone, her mother-in-law's attitude has changed. Chen Fei was scolded for shopping for a long time.

Chen Fei didn't want to argue with her mother-in-law, so she had to tell Sheng Jun. Sheng Jun would only say, "My mother did it for our own good. Don't you understand? " Chen Fei has a stubborn temper and doesn't want her parents to know that she is not doing well. She can only bear it. Gradually, she ignored it, but there was one thing she couldn't do as if nothing had happened.

Every woman wants to be a mother, and Chen Fei is no exception. She has been married for almost a year and is ready to be a mother. But there has been no news. Her heart is more anxious than anyone else, and her mother-in-law has been urging her. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, giving birth to a child seems to be just a daughter-in-law's business, but she doesn't know that her son drinks and smokes, and life is chaotic. These are not conducive to pregnancy. Chen Fei had a hard time, and her husband didn't listen to her advice. whole

Pregnancy left Chen Fei at a loss. I didn't expect her ex-husband to have another woman outside, saying that Chen Fei forced her, just because Chen Fei quarreled with her mother-in-law every day, and said that women outside marriage were gentle and considerate, more like wives. Of course, Chen Fei can't accept it. She threatened Sheng Jun with divorce and broke up with another woman outside. Unexpectedly, she was just heard by her mother-in-law, who pointed at Chen Fei and scolded, "I can't live any longer."

At that moment, Chen Fei was so helpless. She hoped that Sheng Jun could speak for herself, but Sheng Jun didn't say a word. In a rage, Chen Fei said divorce. Unexpectedly, her mother-in-law said, "Leave! Get out now! " When her mother-in-law finished, she began to tidy up Chen Fei's things, while Sheng Jun kept on looking on coldly, so Chen Fei was kicked out of the house.

It was New Year's Eve, and at night, she was outside alone. She is afraid to go home, and neither is she. She had to spend the New Year alone in the hotel. It was the saddest time for her since she grew up. She hated herself for not listening to her parents. The next day, her parents called and learned that her daughter had an accident.

Later, after the divorce, Chen Fei decided to cheer up for her parents. Chen Fei hasn't heard from her ex-husband since she separated from him. She devoted herself to her work, constantly improving herself and making herself better. She met her present husband at work. After a year of running-in, Chen Fei agreed to each other's proposal. Before marriage, Chen Fei confessed to each other the reasons for the divorce. Fortunately, the other party doesn't mind, and he is a very independent person, which also makes Chen Fei determined to marry the other party.

Surprisingly, half a year after marriage, Chen Fei got pregnant and was twins, which surprised her very much and made her feel much better. It's not her problem. As for the rest, she doesn't want to pursue it. If she hadn't met her former mother-in-law, she probably wouldn't have thought about the past.

I thought the past was over, but I didn't expect there to be a follow-up Chen Fei had dinner with lin li, a friend of her ex-husband, and talked about the recent situation in Chen Fei, saying that Chen Fei's divorce was a good thing and laughing that Chen Fei should be grateful to her ex-mother-in-law. After listening to his friend's words, Chen Fei was deeply moved and felt that she really should thank her former mother-in-law.

It turned out that after the divorce, her ex-husband, a woman outside marriage, said that she was pregnant, and her mother-in-law was overjoyed. She couldn't wait for her son to marry each other, and even gave her a bride price of 200 thousand without saying anything. Daughter-in-law was pregnant and ordered her mother-in-law, who told her that she was pregnant with her grandson, and finally waited until the child was born, thinking that she could reverse her position. Unexpectedly, to make matters worse.

Because the child is premature and in poor health, it is easy to get sick. When I went to the hospital, my ex-husband accidentally saw the child's blood type and learned that the child was not his own at all. Her mother-in-law was so angry that she almost fainted on the spot. Naturally, they divorced. After the divorce, the mother-in-law grew up, got the other person pregnant, saw if it was her son's, and then decided to get married. Unexpectedly, the original problem appeared on her son.

My ex-husband has been with a girl for more than half a year, and the other party is not pregnant. The ex-husband suspected that it was his own problem. He went to lin li to check and found that he had a problem. Mother-in-law cried sadly when she learned that.

After listening to a friend's words, Chen Fei's resentment towards her former mother-in-law was completely put down. In fact, what she hates most is not her former mother-in-law, but herself. Because of her blindness, she trusted an unreliable man, and she met such a former mother-in-law. Fortunately, she left that family and regained happiness!

The subject of marriage is always husband and wife, and the mother-in-law should not interfere too much in her son's marriage anyway. As a husband, a man should shoulder the responsibility of being a husband, instead of blaming all the problems on his wife. What a woman needs most in marriage is a responsible husband.