I feel that I am a joke in the eyes of others.

Not many people have the excellent quality of putting themselves in others' shoes. First of all, there is nothing wrong with educating you like this from your parents. When a woman grows up, she must be willing to spend money for herself, otherwise the money you boast will be spent by other women. And personally, I think it must be a married woman who is in charge of financial power, so that the family can be more stable and harmonious.