Why do you help others, but others want to speak ill of you

If you help others, you must think that what you have done is good and others must be grateful to you? No, this is a very subjective idea, a very narrow idea.

In the past, we always felt that if you helped others, others should be grateful. I can't wait to buy you a banner certificate as a commendation. At worst, I have to thank you from my heart to be worthy of my hard work. However, I have to say that this idea is not feasible now. Now more often, we help others, and others sometimes speak ill of us. This not only makes us wonder, but also makes us think deeply.

Now when we do things, we are not as free as when we get along with our parents, relatives and friends. Everyone in this world is an independent individual and has their own distinct personality, so we must think in many ways and stand in each other's perspective and position.

Don't simply do what you want to do according to your own ideas, let alone impose your own ideas on others, because if you stick to your own views and always do it with the idea of "I think I am helping him", we are likely to be thankless and have no reward for our kindness.

In addition, let alone whether we will work hard and pay for nothing, even if we don't get each other's gratitude, we think whether helpful help can bring real promotion to each other is a question worthy of our deep thinking. If we are full of goodwill and want to help others, but find that our help is wishful thinking, we can't help each other, or the way we help them makes them feel unbearable, then our goodwill actually becomes a burden to others. Then it is not difficult to understand that others speak ill of us.

I remember in "Family with Children", Xiaoxue once thought that she was helping others and doing good deeds, so she actively mobilized her classmates to donate money to a poor student in her class. Later, the student was unmoved and asked Xiaoxue why she revealed her family situation and privacy. At that time, Xiaoxue didn't understand how his kindness could not be appreciated by the other party. Later, under her father's explanation, she realized that if she helped others in the wrong way, it would only make people feel resistant and disgusted. Instead of gratitude, it will lead to dissatisfaction.

Therefore, there is nothing wrong with helping others, and kindness should not be condemned, because "giving someone a rose and leaving a lingering fragrance in your hand" is a pleasant thing to help others, and it should also be advocated and passed down. However, if you help others in the wrong way, it is understandable that others scold you, so you don't have to wonder why your good deeds don't get the response they deserve.