Is it really good to raise a daughter in poverty?

I think it is necessary for girls to have enough to eat, I mean materially. As for spiritual enrichment, it is undoubtedly more necessary.

I mainly say material wealth.

The so-called "rich material support for girls" means that parents should provide girls with more exquisite, higher-end and more frequent material supplies than boys. To put it bluntly, it means spending more money.

This may be contrary to many people's cognition. Many people probably think that it is more important for both men and women to convey a correct mentality to their children, a world outlook that looks down on material things and is rich in spirit.

I admit that this is very important, but it is not "more" important than pure material satisfaction.

Because for many substances, only when you have them can you look down on them.

Ma Yun despises Mercedes-Benz because he can afford it. I also look down on Mercedes-Benz, because I can afford Mercedes-Benz.

However, if Ma Yun despises Bugatti Veyron and I follow suit, I am hypocritical or pretentious. Because I can't even afford a tire of Bugatti Veyron. I have no right to look down on Bugatti Veyron.

I can only say "I can't afford Bugatti Veyron, I accept my fate". But accepting fate is not to look down on it.

Resignation is forced, but after determining that you can't have it, you reluctantly admit defeat. Pessimism is having, or having the ability to have and choosing to give up.

Like Nazi officers on Schindler's list. "I forgive you" because he has the ability to kill people and chose not to kill them. On the other hand, if Jewish refugees say "I forgive you" to Nazi officers in concentration camps, it is a joke.

Because at that time, he didn't have that qualification.

So are the children.

I'm not saying that parents should meet their children's material needs unconditionally. Instead, after balancing the ability of parents and the reasonable level of children's needs, we should try our best to meet children's material needs, instead of deliberately suppressing TA's desire for materials in order to cultivate children's "poverty, happiness and simplicity".

So why do girls' material satisfaction need to be more exquisite, high-end and frequent?

Because, although we all understand that equality between men and women is a lofty ideal of human beings, we have to admit that we still live in a patriarchal society.

One of the characteristics of a patriarchal society is that women are materialized.

When a woman's material needs are not met, if she turns to her boyfriend, this behavior is allowed by mainstream morality in a patriarchal society.

On the other hand. That's called handsome boy.

So to put it bluntly, a girl's material wealth is to prevent her from being influenced by a man's mobile phone, a set of jewelry, a car and a house in the future.

The parents' material satisfaction for the girl is precisely to let her control her feelings more independently and purely in the future.

I don't like those substances because my father gave them to me a long time ago. All I have to consider is pure feelings.

Material satisfaction is precisely to prevent material from affecting the purity of feelings.

Boys have fewer questions. Because in the emotional relationship between men and women in a patriarchal society, men are mostly in an active position.

When girls are not affected by material feelings, they have a greater chance to get the truest feelings.

I have always believed that matter can affect a person's pattern and vision.

A rich girl who has no shortage of toys, luxury goods and luxury villas since childhood is bound to be older than the average girl in the pattern of emotional choice. Because she won't entrust herself to a man she may not love because of her hukou, real estate license, work, school district, educational opportunities, etc.

She only needs to consider one question: does she love this man?

In fact, I have said so much, which is not as incisive as my mother's sentence: of course, girls should be raised well, or they will be cheated by a man's candy when they grow up.

This is the wisdom of working people.