As the old saying goes: raising children to prevent old age, what is it to prevent?

In the evening, I received a phone call from my mother, complaining with indignation that my daughter-in-law didn't respect her. After minor operation, she could have gone home to recuperate, but she had to go back to the hospital because of bad worries at home.

Many of the details listed on my mother's phone are the helplessness of my daughter-in-law's son who quarreled for three days and two days.

On the other end of the phone, I can't make any comments except listening. After all, I don't have much contact with my mother's sister-in-law, but I still know my brother's behavior very well.

My mother shirked the importance and put all the blame on her daughter-in-law's rudeness. It seems that the dominant son in the family is marginalized.

Daughter-in-law has committed such a big crime. What is the son doing?

As soon as the topic turned to my brother, my mother's attitude was obviously different. Why does she work very hard every day? Should she be considerate as a daughter-in-law? He just started a business and has no money. As a daughter-in-law, shouldn't he be considerate? Children's problems, as a daughter-in-law who doesn't go to work, should I do more?

Listening to this, I can only say "hehe". A son is a piece of meat that fell from his mother. Even if he is no longer sensible and filial, as a mother, he can find something to excuse him.

Invisibly made a default action for his son's corrupt behavior. Take my mother for example, on the first day of hospitalization for surgery, no one was around to pour tea and water. Where is my brother? Mother said that she took care of her daughter at home. She arrived at the hospital on 1 1 in the afternoon, despite repeated urging by the hospital doctor. The old lady must be disappointed in her son when she talks about this detail, but the ultimate goal will still come down to her daughter-in-law.

Because she has developed the habit of letting her husband bathe her children at night, her son is more inclined to her daughter in the choice of the importance of things. If his daughter-in-law can understand the premise of her mother-in-law's hospitalization and is willing to share the comprehensive care for her daughter for a few days, then as her son's younger brother, she will have time to go to the hospital for care.

I think when my mother called me, she just wanted to complain. The two daughters she can rely on are married to other parties, and there is no one around to comfort and complain. It is chilling to think about the loneliness of a person in the hospital.

It is said that raising children to prevent old age, my mother has always been adhering to the traditional concept and unswervingly implementing it. My brother's daughter-in-law was selected by my mother with critical eyes, and my brother's laziness and inaction were also cultivated by my mother day by day. She arranged the marriage herself and took great pains to take care of the children. All she wants is a feeling of old age.

But can her present situation really be said to be old-age dependence?

I don't think mom has a bottom. The only thing she can be sure of is that her son can bury her when she is buried. The premise is that my mother can help with the children, do housework and support the family life, just like an old lady.

This kind of life is undoubtedly painful for the widowed mother in her early years. There is no one to support her in the future life, let alone prevent her from getting old.

What is the real anti-aging?

It is nothing more than the prevention of customs and habits, the eyes of the world, the eyes of people around, and people who have lost their cards.

I'm afraid I am a baiwenhang. How can I be happy in my later years? In that small place with closed economy and backward culture, old-fashioned customs are always practiced and ignorant.

Take the uncle of the next-door neighbor as an example. He tried his best to save money for his son, carrying100000 yuan in cash for his wife, running from south to north, ostentatiously putting on airs for his son. Daughter-in-law married back, and grandson. I wanted to earn a few more years to help my son buy a house, but I didn't expect to find out the advanced stage of lung cancer.

I didn't know what is the most important thing in life until I was ill. The so-called son is just someone else's. Don't say that paying for father's treatment costs, the time for care is limited. Because to earn money to support the family, even the wife has to choose between life and death. You can imagine how miserable the neighbor's uncle was in his last days.

Isn't it a joke to raise children to prevent old age when all hope of living is deprived?

I want to tell my mother that you shouldn't be too involved in your son's life. When you still have the right to choose your own life, please don't wronged yourself. Living well by yourself is the greatest defense against old age.

As a daughter, I am more willing to take the responsibility of providing for the aged. So, mom, please put down your decadent thoughts and love yourself first, then love others.

Wu Jie school