The teacher hurt the child's self-esteem, Tian Yulan put up with it, and Xia Junshan did it. Li Meijin: I've been in this situation.

It is common for teachers to criticize children for not studying well, and parents can understand it. But no matter how criticized, it can't rise to personal attacks and can't humiliate the child's personality.

Even if things get stiff, Tian Yulan still chooses to endure this tone for two reasons: First, the children's grades have really improved, and the results are real; Second, don't offend the teacher, lest the teacher don't teach with heart, or give the child a hard time.

Speaking of it, Mr. Chen is much more polite than Mr. Zhong. However, Xia Junshan couldn't bear it any longer. Let's just say that the teacher's educational philosophy is not as good as feeding pigs, and the two men fought.

But our parents should have a basic educational concept: respect for children's personality. This concept was clearly defined in the "Quality Education" launched by China from 65438 to 0999.

But the mother didn't, and the child's heart was defeated at once. His idea is: I should be abused, but I am nothing.

Otherwise, it is the most terrible thing for children to remember that their mothers are young and don't know how to respect and love themselves.

But fighting is always bad. Huanhuan cried with fear.

Anyway, my father's maintenance won my daughter's heart this time, and Huanhuan said, "I like my father better!" " "

Although the child is young, when he is bullied and angry, he knows whether his parents are on his side or towards outsiders. Parental support can make children more confident and sunny.

Professor Li Meijin, a famous expert in criminal psychology, set a good example for us many years ago. Let's see how she does it.

Facing the teacher's blow, Professor Li Meijin once again firmly supported her daughter. She said to the teacher:

"As far as I know, Churchill failed in mathematics; Diana failed in math, but this did not affect their contribution to society. "

"My child failed in math, and I will find something to let her pass. Why do you hurt her self-esteem so much? "

After listening to her, the teacher was very angry. The grade director said, "Let's leave her children alone and let her mother take care of them."

Later, Professor Li taught the children by himself, making full use of their strengths and avoiding weaknesses. Finally, the children became the only students admitted to key universities in the school.

Our general principle cannot be changed. We should safeguard children's self-esteem and protect them from "language violence". However, the specific method is still a bit particular. You can refer to the following four steps:

It can be seen that our parents' opinions are well founded.

In Xiao Shede, Huanhuan was excluded by her classmates because of her poor math performance, and the children themselves could not stand it. Therefore, parents should pay attention to it and actively help their children find ways to make progress.

When children are laughed at by their classmates because of their shortcomings, it is usually impossible to solve them. It is a good way to help children find advantages and use their own advantages to deal with unfriendly voices.

It is this recognition of parents that makes children affirm themselves and agree that they are capable people. Even if some aspects are not satisfactory, you will still believe in your own strength.

Therefore, no matter what shortcomings children have, they should be encouraged.

Take Xia Huanhuan in Xiao Shede as an example. Although her grades are not very good, she is self-motivated, willing to work hard, optimistic and cheerful, and has strong organizational skills. As long as his parents help him find a support point, she can take it out to build up her confidence, and it will be much better to deal with classmates who laugh at her at school.