How should I look at this matter?

I was kicked off the table once for a piece of pork! Although I keep this matter in mind, I have no intention of revenge. I just do business and follow my own principles, but my relatives don't understand me.

It happened in the summer of 2002, my aunt's birthday. /kloc-When I was 0/2 years old, I went to menstruation's house for dinner with my parents. At that time, the table was full of big fish and meat, and because the economic conditions at home were not very good, there were few opportunities to eat meat on holidays, so I was very excited to see a table full of big fish and meat.

So when I was eating, I wolfed down and ate large pieces of pork. Unexpectedly, when I was eating meat, my uncle actually clamped my chopsticks to stop me from eating meat, and said to me, haven't you seen meat? Eat so fast, you are in a hurry to be reborn, you have eaten a lot, don't eat any more.

He kicked me out of the table. I didn't have enough to eat at that time, so I ran to the bathroom and squatted in the bathroom crying for a long time before I came out. At that time, I didn't know how my parents would feel, but in retrospect, I was driven away from the dinner table by my uncle. My parents should be embarrassed but helpless.

When I got home, I told my parents about it. As a result, my parents spread it as a joke. Finally, Uncle menstruation learned about it and laughed at me every time we met. Because they laughed at me, I was shy and seldom went to menstruation's house.

In 2008, 18 years old, I was drafted into the army. I was lucky in the army and had the opportunity to learn driving skills. So after I left the army, I was recruited by the boss of a large local enterprise to be his driver. This enterprise has high salary, excellent treatment, insurance and pension.

So many locals want to squeeze into this enterprise, but the recruitment of enterprises is standardized, requiring high school education or above, integrity and no criminal record. But many people don't understand, thinking that I am with my boss every day, and I am the red man around my boss, so I want to invite them to work in the factory through my boss.

To this end, many villagers and my relatives sent gifts to my home and asked me to help. As a result, I refused and told my family not to accept other people's gifts. Who would have thought that my uncle would give gifts to my family and begged me to introduce my cousin to work in the enterprise?

My cousin fully met the recruitment qualification of the enterprise, so I greeted the personnel department of the company, and as a result, my cousin came to work in the company. And my aunt's son, because of his criminal record, did not meet the recruitment standards of the company. After he failed to apply for a job himself, he thought of asking me to intercede for him.

So when my cousin got married, my aunt and uncle asked me to introduce my cousin to work in the company. I replied that my cousin had a criminal record and did not meet the recruitment requirements of the company. Since you asked my cousin to apply, it doesn't meet the requirements of the company. I'm just a driver. There's nothing I can do.

I didn't expect my uncle to say to me: your cousins are all suitable for working in your company, but my son is not. I don't think you know how much meat you ate in my house, but now that you have the ability, your relatives don't want to help you when they ask you for help. You are an ungrateful person.

At that time, I didn't refute my uncle's words, just smiled and went home without eating. Later, my cousin told me that after I came out from my aunt's house that day, my uncle and other relatives were talking about me, saying that I didn't want to help because he didn't give me pork and drove me away from the table.

Since my uncle didn't understand me and publicly said I was ungrateful, I never dared to go to their house again. But every time they host a banquet, they call me and invite me to attend. I am too worried that I can't go, but he tells other relatives that I am stingy and reminds me of a piece of meat.

Later, my parents came to persuade me many times to let my cousin work in the company. I said to my parents: the company is not run by our family, so it is not my call. The company has company regulations. He didn't meet the requirements, so I interceded. If I am found out later, I will be criticized and fired.

My parents didn't understand me and thought that I refused to help because my uncle refused to eat pork and drove me away from the table. I admit that I have always kept this matter in mind, but business is business and I have no intention of revenge.

I just don't want to give up my principles. I also know that relatives are very important, but I am afraid that I will lose this good job. In order to protect myself, I can only abide by the company's regulations and principles. Now I not only don't go to menstruation's house, but also seldom go to other relatives' houses for the following three reasons.

My relatives don't understand me. They think I can do whatever I want around my boss every day. I admit that I have certain rights, and the company's personnel department will give me face, but after all, it violates the company's recruitment standards. I violated my own principles by helping unqualified people to enter the company. In order to avoid them begging me, I chose not to leave my relatives.

I used to be very happy to chat with my relatives, but now I can't, because my family's economic conditions are better now, and I drive with my boss, who has a wide network in the local area, so my relatives always think that they will ask me one day, so my elders and younger generations always follow my meaning, so I don't know if it's true or not. And every time I need to analyze whether what they say is true or not, I feel too tired to visit relatives.

They want money, because in the eyes of relatives, I wear clean clothes and drive a luxury car every day, and I am the red man around my boss. I am rich, so they will say something true and false to test me, borrow money from me and see my reaction. And my salary is only about 10 thousand, I'm afraid they borrow too much and I can't take it out, saying I'm stingy and don't help them If they borrow less, I can afford it, and after lending it to them, I will feel uncomfortable if they don't pay it back to me within the specified time, so I choose not to leave my relatives in order to continue to be relatives.

When I was rich and powerful, I found that everything around me was not as primitive as before, and people and things around me made me unpredictable. Instead of keeping in touch with relatives and maintaining affection, it is better to keep your distance and not visit relatives often to prevent emotional breakdown. In the end, even relatives can't do it.

Just like the menstruation family now, Uncle menstruation doesn't come to the banquet at home, so there are no such relatives anymore. My aunt is my father's sister, and my father misses this affection very much, so he blames me for doing something wrong and for not helping my cousin to enter the company, but who can really understand my difficulties!