When you were joking, did the fired person laugh?

Just kidding, this is actually a technical job, and not everyone can play it.

Some people understand joking as exposing shortcomings, which is also a common saying, poking others' pain and exposing scars.

There are also some people who interpret jokes as outspoken, full of bullshit and saying immoral and indecent things.

This understanding of "joking" is obviously very narrow, and improper operation will hurt people.

It is the last way of joking to amuse yourself by exposing other people's shortcomings.

Some people may be the target of jokes because of some physical defects. The fired person is very painful and uncomfortable, but the person who takes the initiative to joke thinks that he has a good sense of humor and cannot understand the pain of the fired person. If the fired person expresses unhappiness or resists a little, he will be labeled as "can't afford to play" and "blx".

When the atmosphere is awkward, a joke can instantly relax the depressed atmosphere. Sometimes, a joke can turn an enemy into a friend. A person who can make such a positive joke can be said to be a humorous person.

And some people's jokes are completely incompetent jokes. Sometimes they don't look like jokes, but more like satire and ridicule. We must understand that vitriol and sense of humor are two different things, so don't confuse them.

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I thought of writing this topic because I received a letter from a reader.

This is a female reader, studying in a university. According to her description, she looks darker and is nicknamed "Heiya" by a girl in the dormitory. This reader is very unhappy. Everyone else in the dormitory seems to realize her unhappiness and don't call her by her nickname. Only this girl calls her "Heiya" wherever she goes.

The reader said that their dormitory has a good relationship, and she has a good relationship with the girl who gave her a nickname. Her only unhappiness is that she doesn't like being called that. In fact, it's not just a nickname, but that girl often tells all kinds of jokes with a dark complexion.

At this point, some people may think that this reader is too blx. Say black skin is fine. There is no need to be awkward with classmates.

In fact, I also think that dark skin is not a scar, and it is not sarcasm to make fun of people with dark skin. However, the party involved in this incident was hurt. This is enough to show that the feelings of onlookers and parties are different. People always like to evaluate a thing from their own point of view, from the perspective of onlookers.

We are not this reader, and if we can't feel the same, we will think it is a trivial matter. Maybe girls with nicknames think so, too. She thinks it's a trivial matter, there's nothing to make a fuss about, it's just a joke between classmates.

However, the joke and the joke have different understandings of the same thing. It's hard for a joking person to feel the same way. The person who is "fired" may be angry, but the joking person is still very calm.

Let's go back and think about what happened to us We used to get angry when we were fired, but the people who made fun of us still thought it was no big deal. In the past, when we played jokes on others, the people we "opened" would be unhappy, and we didn't know what the problem was.

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In fact, no one in this world likes to be teased by others for their shortcomings and defects. Therefore, when joking, we must avoid using other people's shortcomings as a medium for joking.

When you are teased, if you don't show anger and pretend to be happy, your heart will be wronged. If you resist and express your dissatisfaction, others will say, it's just a joke, so why take it so seriously.

Once you care and take it seriously, you will appear to be a haggard and narrow-minded person. But if you don't care, you will be wronged, which is really a torment. People who are' exposed' often fall into a dilemma, as if they were caught in an infinite loop.

In real life, some people are very confused, and the jokes make people feel that they are not funny at all, but will offend people.

Sometimes, the same joke, told by different people, has different effects.

If it is a particularly close relationship, it doesn't matter if it is "hacked". If the relationship between two people is not particularly close, don't make excessive jokes. Such a joke would be considered rude. Therefore, when joking, you also need to know your weight in the heart of the person who is "opened". Sometimes, it's not that a person can't take a joke, but that you can't take a joke on him. Facing different people, people who are "opened" have different psychological endurance.

Sometimes, in different situations, a person's tolerance for jokes is different.

If you are a group of people who are particularly familiar with each other, it doesn't hurt to play a joke on each other and expose your shortcomings. After all, everyone is familiar with it. Such a situation can promote feelings.

If there are strangers present, think carefully when joking, because joking regardless may make good friends unhappy and hurt their feelings.

Joking is an interesting thing. If the person who is "opened" is unhappy, the joke is actually a kind of harm.

When joking, whether intentionally or unintentionally, once the person who is "fired" shows displeasure, you should stop immediately and apologize afterwards. Some words and things are really hard for us to feel the same way. For some people, it doesn't matter, while for others, it may be about personality and dignity.

Joking is to enliven the atmosphere and enhance feelings. When joking, you must think twice before you act. Don't damage your interpersonal relationship because of inappropriate words, which is not worth the loss.

In addition, if you are not good at playing jokes on others, then don't try, because this discretion is difficult to grasp. If you don't say it well, it will offend people, hurt people and be self-defeating. Share it and let more people see it!