I have been in a relationship with my son for eight years.

The mother-child relationship is handled as follows:

0 1, the child is older, let go.

I only have one son, and naturally I have to spoil him. Since childhood, I have been strict with my study, and let him eat, drink and be merry. As for cooking and housework, I have never let him do it.

Later, the son's marriage list was passed. My heart began to be restless. Can the young couple eat well? Is there enough money? Will there be arguments and conflicts? My daughter-in-law is pregnant. I live in the past in the name of taking care of my daughter-in-law.

At first, I was in charge of housework and took care of food and drinks every day. They don't have to do anything except work, and they don't have to worry about anything. They live a very moist and happy life. But after a long time, the problem gradually appeared.

On one occasion, my son was going to an old classmate's party and discussed taking his daughter-in-law with him. This made me restless, so I scolded him regardless and resolutely opposed taking my daughter-in-law. He was very unhappy, saying that everyone had made an appointment to bring their families in advance, and his wife was willing to join in the fun.

Because of this, my mother and I quarreled endlessly, blushing and thick neck. Finally, my daughter-in-law saw that the situation was not good and offered not to go, but she was obviously dissatisfied with my blocking.

A few days later, when I was chatting with several neighbors and aunts, I talked about this matter and felt that I could judge for myself. Unexpectedly, they fell to the ground and called me meddling.

He also said that when children grow up, they should let go, let alone get married and start a family. I should pay more attention to my discretion when I speak or do things. Otherwise, it is a trivial matter for a son to be annoyed, but it is a big matter for a daughter-in-law to be really annoyed.

I calmed down and thought about it. I think what others say is very reasonable. Although my starting point is correct, it is annoying to ignore the children's ideas, stop them at will, and do bad things with good intentions.

Recognizing this, I told myself that I should not care too much and care too much. Children have their own living habits and ways, and they want to make their own decisions.

02, people are not old, to learn.

A few months later, my wife gave birth to a grandson. Being a grandmother makes me feel good, and I am more motivated to work every day. But over time, I have some opinions about my daughter-in-law.

She often says that since she gave birth to a child, she is out of shape and wants to exercise. I have a lot of spots on my face, so I need beauty treatment. Also, I used to be young and dressed casually, but I have to be "hard" on myself in the future, or I will be old and there will be no such store in this village in the past.

After listening to what she said, I felt uncomfortable. I am a mother in her thirties. If I don't date and get married, what's the point? If I am fat and thin, I am ugly and handsome. what can I do? Maybe I can eat and spend money when I am beautiful?

Once, my daughter-in-law was not at home at work. I received more than 10 express delivery for her that day. Looking at a pile of packages, cosmetics, clothes and high heels, I was so angry that I stopped playing.

In the evening, as soon as she entered the room, I said coldly, forget it. It's really beautiful this time. It needs to be cleaned and dressed, but what do you need these fashions for?

My daughter-in-law turned black at once after listening to my words. She replied directly, you can attract people only by dressing beautifully, in case you can hook up with rich people.

In this way, what she said and what I said fought with each other in a hidden way. Although there was no war, they had a big fight and were very unhappy.

The next day, my son said quietly, my concept is too outdated. What age is it now? Both the old and the young love beauty and fashion. The older they get, the more they pay attention to maintenance and the more beautiful and happy they live. I should also go out to see more, like those optimistic, cheerful, positive and not old aunts.

I was a little unconvinced at that time, but slowly I found that the children were right. People should have a little pursuit and a little preference in life. They should keep pace with the times and don't always look at new problems with old eyes.

03, don't rely on the old to sell the old, be easy-going.

Through years of communication with my son and daughter-in-law, my mood has changed greatly, and I look young and passionate. Personality is no longer so rigid and stubborn, but more and more easy-going and tolerant. And these are more reflected in the communication with grandchildren.

I used to be grumpy and picky, and I felt that I was an old man and worthy of respect from my children. I can criticize them when things happen, but they can't refute themselves. To put it bluntly, I had a psychology of leaning on the old and selling the old. However, after playing with my grandson for a while, I lost my temper.

That year was my birthday. My son ordered a big cake. The daughter-in-law bought a new suit. Before dinner, my grandson secretly cut the cake and deliberately put cream on my new clothes. The sons and daughters-in-law all blame their grandchildren for being too naughty and not sensible. Instead of being angry at all, I started fooling around with my grandson and making faces at each other, even to my son and daughter-in-law.

This "no big or small" state, relaxed and happy atmosphere, suddenly reminded me of my childhood, and suddenly felt a lot younger.

During my eight years in my son's home, I gradually became my son's "buddy", my daughter-in-law's "best friend" and my grandson's "little partner". I also understand the truth that when children are older, they should let go. People are not old yet, so they should learn, not rely on the old to sell their old, but be easy-going.

Many people say that with the development of society, people are becoming more and more realistic, and family relations are not easy to handle. In fact, as long as we feel, change and warm others with our hearts, happiness will accompany us.