Random thoughts on a dream of red mansions: Qin Keqing

"Great grandma is a strong-willed and intelligent person; If you are too smart, you will often have unpleasant things; There are often unsatisfactory places, so I think too much. "

This is the judgment given to Qin Keqing by a knowledgeable doctor, Zhang Youshi. It is a great warning to outsiders in the book.

It's true. Those who scrimp and save in their daily life (excluding work and study), who are picky, perfectionist and hands-on, will live very tired. The key point is that despite great pressure and numerous twists and turns on the road, the result is extremely unsatisfactory.

If he is still a smart man, it will deepen the degree of dissatisfaction, because he will be more diligent in mental arithmetic and more laborious. This is the biggest difference between cleverness and wisdom.

There is not much ink about Qin Keqing in the book, and there are few events about her. There is also an important plot, which only exists in the fat criticism, and another exhortation proverb is in the form of a dream soul. The descriptions of her are all from others' mouths, and there is almost no first-hand information, but fortunately, the credibility of these others is enough.

Qin Keqing is Wang Xifeng's only confidant. From Feng's family perspective, it is enough to show that Qin is good, so we can get a general understanding of her from Feng.

Back to the tenth time, you Shi told grandma Huang that even if it was to protect her reputation, it was not all nonsense. There were:

"He acts like a man. The relative and the elders of that family don't like him?"

This is also supported by evidence. The eleventh time, "the old lady said,' but good boy, if there are some reasons, it won't kill anyone.' Said a burst of sadness. "

Thirteen times: "The older generation thinks of his filial piety, the younger generation thinks of his harmony and intimacy, the next generation thinks of his kindness, and the servants at home think of his kindness, caring for the poor and caring for the young."

From Jia Mu down, people at all levels can be affirmed and recognized. God, this is perfect! There is no place to look for lanterns.

What does this mean? It shows that she is a person who wants everything and takes care of everything. This is easy to say, but if you have experienced it in interpersonal relationships, you must know how difficult it is to be perfect. You know, in such a rich mansion, there is never a shortage of people who have malicious intentions and are never afraid to think of others with the greatest malice.

Originally, she was labeled as a flattering personality, but I suddenly felt that flattering people were far from enough to do this.

It is not too much to say that she is careful. Or Mr. You's words, "Although he can talk and laugh and act, he is cautious and heavy-hearted. No matter what he hears, he has to test it for three days and five nights. "

Here it is. She is a smart person and sensitive to people's hearts and things. Because of her wisdom in life, even if someone really teaches her, she may not be able to teach her. That couplet: "Everything is learned when the world is clear, and people's understanding is an article" is really well posted. It is more accurate to describe Qin Keqing with this sentence.

You can't just learn from books. You have to polish it a little bit in your life to reach this mellow state.

I have this habit myself, but it's not as good as her. Speaking is a kungfu learning. Tone, expression and words are extremely important. Every change may bring a great difference to the listener (for example, every point, any point, a little feeling is different; Possibility, should and necessity are probably different; Big, huge and big are also different, and different words are very different. )。

This process needs to be completed, one is the normal dialogue between you and me, and the other is the feeling and acceptance of the listener. I find it easier to accept. For example, everyone has a different understanding of the Grand View Garden. Grandma Liu, Baoyu and Jia Zheng are the same, and everyone is different. This is the author's skill. The speech is similar to this. There is a saying that "everyone talks nonsense", except for the derogatory taste in the sentence, everything else is the same.

The listener's feelings are both important and difficult. I can't say one or two words clearly here, but there is a purpose, that is, "people-oriented." I misinterpreted the original meaning of these four words, and then I often use them to warn myself. People are people. I define others and each other. The meaning presented is based on the position of the interviewee. It sounds like flattery, but it's not. The other party may need respect, decency, intimacy, obedience, affirmation, etc. And then present it to each other from my point of view.

To do this, you need to know each other in advance, or collect some information from the conversation, but appropriateness and affirmation are the same for everyone, and then express them with appropriate tone, expression and words to achieve the goal. What I'm saying here is very general, and that's about it. So she is a smart person, with a heavy heart, and it is easy to understand if she has something to ponder for three or two days.

Qin Keqing's intention can't be explained by the general attitude of joining WTO. I think her purpose is to establish and maintain the "reputation" of herself and her family.

A person who comes from a small family and marries a rich family generally has a low profile. She took great pains to create that kind of invisible and beautiful reputation when she was already inferior. At that time, we should pay attention to the right family, but the status of the two in-laws was unequal. The Jia family naturally values her, so in Ningguo House, everything in the family depends on her alone.

When I wrote about granny Liu entering the Rong mansion, I said that anyone who wants to get a face that lives like a human being and has a low status may pay more attention to gaining respect from others than others.

In addition, there is a famous phenomenon called pygmalion effect, which is also called expectation effect. On the basis of Jia Jia's affection for her, she may do everything well to live up to Jia Jia's expectations, and everything is based on Jia Jia's three views, which is essentially for fame.

I think Qin Keqing is out of such a state of mind, whether she knows that she is not Qin Ye's own is unknown, so whether the source of this character is related to her loneliness in her early years is unknown.

I think so, and there is an example. It's still the sentence of You Shi, "It's those people who are annoyed by those fucking friends who are moving and confused;" What makes him angry is that his brother doesn't study well and doesn't pay attention to his study, which makes him so noisy at school. Hearing this, she simply didn't even eat breakfast today. "

This reaction is a reputation problem from head to toe, right? What happened at school, although it was a child's prank, to be honest, had a bad reputation. Now that things have come to this, Xifeng said, "Flies don't bite seamless eggs." After all, it can't be all shadows, but there are probably some tracks. With her mind and the eyes of an outsider, it is no problem to look at things like this, and it is indeed the case. Qin Zhong is really unreasonable.

He didn't know how to cherish the excellent resources obtained by his sister, wasted them in vain and humiliated his family. Who can feel better? From her point of view, I have worked hard to build a good reputation for such a long time. You little bastard came here for a few days and it was all ruined. Let outsiders say that our family is unhealthy and uneducated. Even if we can't hear, we can't hear outsiders' words. What should Jia people think of us?

This passage is enough to show that Qin Keqing is a very reasonable person. Although she didn't see the objective truth of what happened with her own eyes, she could see at a glance where the problem was and who it was. This is also the foreshadowing of telling advice in the form of dreams for the following articles, that is, she has the ability to dissect and judge clearly.

Speaking of which, I have to mention the stubble of Parthenocissus tricuspidata ash.

Qin Keqing's obsession with fame is abnormal. "He changed his clothes four or five times a day", and he was so ill that he was stubborn and extravagant. Although "this disease is based on this nature", her illness is very strange.

Even if the mind is so, there is not much dissatisfaction on weekdays. How did it come to this?

The reason is that in the information of Pangtuan, Qin Keqing is mourning for Xianglou, and the fault is on it. This story was played in the 87th edition of A Dream of Red Mansions, and it was Jia Zhenqiang who made her strong. If it is true, it is not surprising that Qin Keqing's illness will come like a mountain.

A man who is critical of everything and reputation made a big mistake in the most important honor of women at that time. Even if he can fool others, he can't fool his own heart.

If it is really strong, from the present point of view, it is of course Jia Zhen's "initial trouble", but in those days, although her honor was destroyed, she still had to bear a lot of responsibility, and maybe she would be as sycophantic as "the queen in history" and "trapped my king", taking the main or even full responsibility.

From this point of view, the word "obscenity" in the original reply is also reasonable, which is a social injustice and a sin of the people.

This ugly family lintel, Qin Keqing even in the face of heart-to-heart chicken son, also can't say it. She can only bear it silently, but she is sensitive and heavy-hearted. No wonder she smiled and said, "No matter the gods, it is impossible to cure the disease." Aunt, I know my illness is just passable. "

I don't know if there is more sadness or relief in her smile.

It took more than two months from menopause to illness, but I don't know how long it took to have physical symptoms. I don't know how much suffering I have experienced in the days of staying up for a few days. One thing is for sure, after her illness, she must have suffered more than before.

Once the situation gets out of control, the storm will be unstoppable and can only be allowed to wreak havoc. She suffered too much physical and mental harm and loneliness.

As for the dream of Xifeng, although it is very clear and reasonable, I personally insist that she is not her at this time. The soul with dreams is very different from Qin Keqing's life, although I think she has the ability to see things in detail.

With this sentence: "the way of Qin dynasty:' the secret must not be revealed.' After the third spring, the fragrance is exhausted, and each has its own door. "This involves my own different views on reincarnation and soul, not to mention. But since she has a completely different vision, she can't be equated with Qin's soul before his death.

Therefore, because of these words, I have different views on deleting the life of Western Qin, which is difficult to see, so I will keep some of my own ideas.

My attitude towards her depends entirely on her status as subject and object in the event. As I don't know the facts, I can't make an assertion. Although I think if it is true, it is more likely that she will be in a passive position, but it cannot completely rule out the active situation.

I bought a book earlier called Xiao Lin Guang Ji, which contains many paragraphs, all of which describe the special relationship that corrupts human relations in the family. This is ridiculous, and I never liked it, but I do admit in my heart that this kind of thing really existed and existed. The deeds of Yang Yuhuan and Wu Zetian in history can prove it.

But beyond that, Qin Keqing's personality is still extraordinary, which is very touching. She really suffered too much, did too many things and behaved too well.