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Tomb-Sweeping Day's mother didn't eat after a busy day. Dad said that my mother and I were outsiders and couldn't serve. What do you think?

"It rains in succession during the Qingming Festival", and the significance of Tomb-Sweeping Day may be even more important than the Chinese New Year. Tomb-Sweeping Day has a task, that is, to worship ancestors and sweep graves.

Even though many young people don't pay attention to it now, their parents still want their children to go back to participate, which is not only a nostalgia for their deceased relatives, but also an excellent opportunity for the younger generation to educate "don't forget their roots".

This is undoubtedly a good thing, but it is not a good thing for women. Many married women feel that they are "neither their parents' family nor their husband's family", which can often be seen from trivial matters. Tomb-Sweeping Day's grave-sweeping should have been a family activity, but in many places, women are forbidden to participate. Even unmarried girls will be discouraged by their elders at how old they are.

As a married woman, it's even worse. When a woman marries a man, she doesn't just look for a man to have children, but hopes to be respected and cherished by this man. Otherwise, what a woman gives is a joke. The parents' marriage will have a far-reaching impact on their children. The attitude of the father towards the mother will be seen by the children. Recently, a reader wrote to tell about her family.

"Tomb-Sweeping Day, my mother has been busy all day and didn't eat a bite of rice. My father's words ruined me and his fathers and daughters. At that time, I had just entered junior high school, and I knew a little about my parents' marital status. My father was a male chauvinist and my mother was a gentle and considerate woman. However, in my eyes, my mother was cowardly. Sometimes it was obvious that my father had done something wrong, but my mother did not dare to resist.

My father and mother met on a blind date. Probably, they have no emotional foundation. My father is not kind to my mother. However, my mother is a stubborn person. Even if her father treats her badly, she will just say: marry if you don't marry, just bear with it.

My father listened to my grandmother's words and had a bad temper. My mother's suffering probably began from the moment I was born. Because I was a girl, I heard from my elder sister-in-law that my grandmother and my father's faces changed at that time. My grandmother said that she had done evil and that she was unlucky. My father ran away from the hospital and left my mother alone in the hospital.

Later, my mother's life at home was sad. She was always rejected by my grandmother, and my father didn't help me. It was not until my brother was born that the situation improved, but my mother was very tired every holiday.

Because she will always be the woman who is busy in the kitchen, she won't have time to eat two bites until the whole family has finished eating, and all of them are leftovers. When I was a child, I felt sorry for my mother and secretly left the dishes for her. After my father found out, she scolded me for protecting my mother.

In our hometown, Tomb-Sweeping Day is more lively than the Chinese New Year. The whole family in Tomb-Sweeping Day has to come back to pay homage to their ancestors and sweep the graves. No one said that they didn't come back when they were busy during the Chinese New Year. Before I went to junior high school, my dad told me not to follow, and asked me to prepare lunch for everyone at home with my mother. I didn't want to, because I thought climbing the mountain was fun and there were many children. My dad resolutely refused to let me go and took me.

when my mother saw that I was unhappy, she coaxed me into saying that if it rained, I would still get wet, and if I didn't go, I wouldn't go. I asked my mother why she didn't go every time, but she simply said that she didn't want to go and felt bored. When I was young, my mother said so, and I believed it.

That year, it was my turn to prepare lunch for the whole family. There were 2 people. My mother and I were busy from 7: in the morning. My uncles and aunts didn't come until noon. Before the meal was ready, my father and others came back. When they saw that the meal was not ready, my uncles and uncles became impatient. My father probably felt ashamed and shouted at my mother, "I can't cook well!" I seem to see tears in my mother's eyes, but I have been holding back.

I finally cooked the meal, and my mother had to invite a room full of men to eat. When my mother set out, she asked me to eat at once. When my father saw it, he pointed at me and scolded me. I didn't see you working so hard. These are all for grave-sweepers. You can eat them later!

I admit that I didn't help, so I didn't say anything, but what about my mother? My mother has been busy all day, so why can't she eat? I looked at my mother. She seemed to be used to it, but I couldn't bear it. I yelled at my father, "My mother has been busy all day and didn't eat a bite." My father's face changed, and he said, "It's our own business to sweep the grave and worship our ancestors. Your mother is an outsider, so of course she can't come to the table to eat with us." The first time I heard this statement, it was hard to accept. My dad went on to say, "When you grow up, you will marry. The water spilled by your married daughter has nothing to do with our family's ancestor worship." Now, my father's words completely angered me. I was very angry. I was not qualified to be his family with my mother in his eyes. At that moment, I suddenly understood why he was not good to my mother, why he was better to my brother than me, and why he didn't let me go to the grave.

these questions that have been lingering in my mind have been answered at once. I followed my mother to eat in the kitchen that day, and I asked my mother why she had to endure it. My mother said that women are all the same after marriage. Her family is not home, and her husband's family is not home. At that time, I felt sorry for my mother and felt that marriage was unfair to women.

From then on, my father and I were like enemies. I never called him again. Tomb-Sweeping Day either went out to play or went out to study and work. Since then, Tomb-Sweeping Day has never returned home. My father's attitude towards my mother and me has made me afraid to fall in love. Later, I talked about love, but I never dared to get married.

Finally, this reader asked me a question: "Do you think that once a woman gets married, her family is not home, and her husband's family is not home?"

Many parents like to say this to their children: No matter who they marry, it's the same, and it's right and wrong. The right thing is whether the marriage is happy or not, which has a lot to do with themselves. If they can't learn to run a marriage, it's the same to marry anyone; It's wrong because the person we choose really loves herself. If not, no matter how well a woman does, it won't help.

A good marriage must respect each other. Only by respecting each other can we cherish each other and grow old together. If not, even if you give more, you will suffer only yourself.

This female reader's father didn't do his duty as a husband at all, and he was not a qualified father. In his mind, his wife was probably married to take care of his daily life, and he gave birth to her son. A woman risked her life to give birth to a man, but when she learned that it was a girl, she walked away coldly. What a great harm it was to a woman.

Women have worked hard for this family for most of their lives, and what they get is not gratitude, but contempt. In a man's mind, no matter what his wife has paid, his wife will always be an outsider. Such a man has never fulfilled his husband's responsibility.

As a father, saying such things to his daughter will only make her feel bad with her relatives, make her feel unloved, and thus have fear of marriage, which will directly affect her view on marriage.

Unfortunately, most marriages are formed by the interaction of both parties. If it weren't for the endless forbearance of the mother, the reader's father wouldn't despise his wife so much. Once there is no respect between husband and wife, such a marriage is undoubtedly painful. And an unhappy marriage will also have a bad influence on the future happiness of children.

Only by respecting your partner, cherishing her company and thanking her for her efforts can you have a happy family.