In the era of "fast-food" marriage, it is better to stay single than to "get on the boat" casually.

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I don't know if you have met anyone you know very well. I haven't met many times. My brother is long and my brother is short. Chasing girls, too, added WeChat, chatted for a few days, and began to bite his wife.

Some handsome people will not be hated by girls, but if they are,

In fact, from a considerable point of view, whether you are handsome or meet some ugly people who like to chat everywhere, I am afraid it will make people feel sick.

If an ugly person can say something inappropriate to a girl in a short time, I personally think it is casual.

When girls are in love, remember to learn to distinguish between a serious man and a casual man.

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My friend Huang Can complained to me two days ago. She said that a client at home introduced her to an object a while ago. Huang Can knew that she didn't like him after seeing the photos of her friend circle.

But considering his age is not small, and there is no more suitable person around him, Huang Can thought of giving it a try first, and maybe he could cultivate feelings.

However, after seven days of contact, Huang Can couldn't stand it.

Huang Can is 34 years old, looks 7 points, has a car but no house, and earns about 8,000 yuan a month, which is an ordinary earning ability among his peers.

The man she is dating is Wan, and his name is Wan Qian. He is short and chubby himself, but this Wan Qian family is very rich. It is said that there are several houses in the city alone.

Girls don't talk about money when looking for a partner, but for older women who remain single for a long time, apart from money, they also pay attention to the emotional exchange between two people, whether their interests are the same and so on.

For money, Huang Can always told himself not to judge a book by its cover, but to learn a book.

So, two people added WeChat and chatted on WeChat for seven days.

Every morning, boys will chat with Huang Can, sometimes send her some jokes, and sometimes send some dishes made by themselves. In short, it is very lively to share.

Huang Can began to think that the boy seemed nice. After observing for a period of time, he planned to meet him. Suddenly one day, boys began to send her pictures of all kinds of beautiful women. Huang Can talked about her boyfriend, and of course she understood what the boy was implying.

On the seventh day, the boy suddenly called her "wife" without warning, and Huang Can was disgusted at that time.

"What do you think this is what kind of person? It's too frivolous to call someone's wife before we meet? " Huang Can complained to me, shivered, and just shouted nausea.

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How do you feel as a girl when a man who doesn't like you or doesn't like you enough calls you wife? I think for most girls, they will feel uncomfortable, or feel that boys feel very casual in doing so, and their goodwill will drop sharply.

When sorting out readers' contributions, we often encounter such problems, such as: "That boy just chased me for a few days and wanted me to be his girlfriend. Should I promise? " "My boyfriend and I just confirmed our relationship. He asked me to travel together and live in a room. What should I do? "

In fact, I don't think these girls know what to do when they ask these questions. They just don't know if the decision they made with their heart is right. In other words, they are not sure if they will lose this boy by doing so.

But girls, if a boy really loves you, I think he will respect you and be willing to wait for you. Only those men who treat you as a pastime will turn away because of your refusal.

Men with casual feelings like to make decisions when they are in love, and they don't want to waste time, and some even don't want to waste money. If a girl is not interested in him, he will change his goal quickly. On the contrary, a man with serious feelings may not be as enthusiastic as a casual man, but his words and deeds are decent and won't make people feel rude.

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I often hear some female friends around me say that boys are so impatient to chase girls nowadays. After meeting several times, they want to establish a relationship. Once they have established a relationship, they are eager for something to happen.

In fact, I think it is not necessarily bad for boys to be too anxious, but they should pay more attention to their words and methods. For example, they can directly ask each other how they feel about themselves and whether it is possible to continue to develop. I think it's possible.

But don't call the other person's wife as soon as you come up, say something ambiguous, or test whether the other person is interested in you. If that sentence is wrong, it will be self-defeating

In addition, I think girls should be decisive in their attitude towards love. They should show their attitude towards boys they don't like from the beginning, and don't let others spend time and money to tell him that it is inappropriate, which is no different from playing tricks.

Finally, let's talk about Huang Can's follow-up. After listening to the boy's address, Huang Can immediately felt that he should show his attitude, so he sent a message to the boy: "Sorry, I don't like you". A few minutes later, I received a reply from the man, "I don't like you anymore", and then it was gone.

From a girl's point of view, if a boy answers "nothing" or "I'll wait for you to like me", there will be extra points, which will make this man look generous.

But in fact, it can be shown from this incident that boys don't really like her. Sometimes we mistakenly think that the other person likes us, and many times it's just that we are self-righteous.

Know why feelings are so difficult. First, poor communication will lead to many misunderstandings. Second, love is short. If this one doesn't work, change to the next one quickly. Girls don't feel their own particularity, and boys don't feel valued. Men and women don't want to take it.

To put it bluntly, I am also afraid of failure.

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