A well-told historical story.

Zhu Yuanzhang, the founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty, was born in poverty. After he became emperor by leaps and bounds, friends and relatives who once had friendship with him came to take refuge in succession, hoping to gain some power and find an official position. On one occasion, two young people of Zhu Yuanzhang went to ask him for an official position, but the result was completely different. One was beheaded, and the other was an official.

When the first person went to find Zhu Yuanzhang, Zhu Yuanzhang was very happy, because he could finally get together with his old friends, but who knew that the little opening was "Zhu Chongba, you are an emperor now, luxurious and luxurious, sitting on the golden palace is just like the original bald monk!"

Zhu Yuanzhang was a little unhappy when he heard the man calling his name, and then the man became more and more proud.

"Do you remember the scene when we were hungry and ate potatoes when we were young? At that time, were you half hungry, eating too fast and almost choking to death, or did I save your life in an emergency? " I heard Zhu Yuanzhang finally couldn't help it. This man not only disrespected me, but also exposed my background, so he found a charge and killed him casually.

Later, another friend came. As soon as he saw Zhu Yuanzhang, he immediately knelt down and kowtowed. Two days later, he echoed what Zhu Yuanzhang said.

I also talked about eating potatoes, but this man said, "After you ate potatoes that time, I found that you will definitely achieve something in the future. I think you have been talented since you were a child, and I'm afraid Emperor Taizong can't compare with you. " These words were exactly what Zhu Yuanzhang wanted, so I gave this man an official title and a knight.

One was killed and the other was reused. On a small scale, this is the art of speaking, on a large scale, this is the gap of emotional intelligence.

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Dong Fangshuo-cutting meat and leaving his wife.

When Dong Fangshuo was an assistant minister, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty once gave meat to his attendants in dog days. However, Tai Guancheng, who is in charge of meat distribution, has delayed his future. Dong Fangshuo drew his sword, cut the meat by himself, and said to his colleagues, "In dog days, I should go home early. Please allow me to accept the reward of the son of heaven. " Then wrap the meat, hug him and leave. Later, TaiGuanCheng broadcast the story of Emperor Wu of Han Dynasty.

Emperor Wu asked, "Yesterday you gave meat, and you left with a sword before the imperial edict was issued. Why? " So Dong Fangshuo took off his hat and knelt down to thank him for his confession. Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty said, "Sir, stand up and blame yourself!"

Dong Fangshuo bowed again and said, "Dong Fangshuo! Dong Fangshuo! How rude it is to accept a reward without waiting for the imperial edict! How heroic it is to draw the sword and cut the meat! How clean it is to cut small meat! How nice it is to go home and send meat to my wife! "

Hearing this, Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty smiled and said, "Let your husband blame himself. I didn't expect you to praise yourself in turn! " So he gave him a stone of wine and a hundred Jin of meat and told him to go home and give it to his wife.

References:

Baidu Encyclopedia-Dong Fangshuo