What is the use of what Yu Wenyue said to Chu Qiao to us?

I watched "Like You" yesterday, and I was deeply impressed by a plot in it. The chef played by Dongyu Zhou asked the overbearing CEO played by Takeshi Kaneshiro: How much money can you make?

Takeshi Kaneshiro said: Three hundred and five billion.

Then another one was added: US dollars.

It doesn’t matter whether you add US dollars or not. Most people have no idea about this money anyway, and they don’t know how many lifetimes this money can last.

Takeshi Kaneshiro asked Zhou Dongyu: What do you want to do when you get rich?

Zhou Dongyu said: Flowers. If you have money, you won’t work.

I guess I feel like Takeshi Kaneshiro is an idiot. How can he still do what he does if he has money without spending it? Is it stupid to still work so hard even though you have money?

Takeshi Kaneshiro said: When you have US$35 billion, it means you will have tens of thousands of employees, and your goal will be to earn the next US$35 billion.

So, as a domineering president, Takeshi Kaneshiro’s daily life is not about shopping and shopping, but flying from Shanghai to New York, New York to London, and discussing cooperation everywhere. It looks glamorous, but in fact it’s not any easier than being a little chef, and it’s even more stressful.

His father told him: You have to get used to loneliness, because loneliness can keep you awake and think seriously without wasting time.

Think about this kind of life, it is so harsh and abnormal.

This reminds me of a particularly familiar scene.

In our hometown, everyone’s living standards are not high, and an income of 100,000 yuan a year is considered very rich. A classmate stayed in Shanghai to work after college. It is said that his annual salary is 500,000 yuan, and his wife's salary is also high. The two of them should have an income of millions a year.

Many people mentioned him, and the most common comment was: How could he spend so much money?

His family also felt that he was so rich that he could not spend it all, so they asked him for money to build a house and asked him for money when their other son got married. No matter what he does at home, he always asks for money.

Everyone takes it for granted, because he has money. He earns so much in a year. How can he spend it all without helping him spend it?

Later one time, my parents went to Shanghai to see their son and witnessed his luxurious life. They talked about it for a long time after returning home.

They spent 100 yuan on breakfast, drove when they went out, and swiped their credit cards when they went to the supermarket... The parents felt that their sons were too rich and spent money in every possible way.

The classmate told his parents that the living standard in Shanghai is like this. These are basic expenses and are far from luxury. Moreover, he had to pay off his mortgage and car loan, his children also had high education expenses, and he was worried that he would not be able to develop better in his career. In fact, he was very tired and anxious.

But the parents simply couldn’t understand it and felt that their son was complaining on purpose. They think that with so much money, they can retire after just two years of work, so there is nothing to worry about.

Maybe when we saw this, we felt that his parents were very unreasonable and very short-sighted. However, we often make such mistakes.

For example, people often say that the second generation of rich people only want to eat, drink and have fun, and they will not be able to spend all their money in a lifetime without working hard.

But they don’t know that the second generation of rich people have their own pressure and motivation. Maybe they don’t worry about houses and cars, but they have more things to worry about.

For example, some people say: Big names are so successful that they can rest on their laurels and sleep. Why do they work so hard?

But they don’t know that big names have higher goals and more responsibilities.

In "The Biography of Chu Qiao", Yu Wenyue said something very stupid to Chu Qiao. He said: Your ability determines what you can see. Chu Qiao initially had limited abilities and believed in everything she saw with her eyes. But what she saw was just what others wanted her to see, such as Yu Wenyue killing Fifth Brother. She believes that seeing is believing, and Yu Wenyue is her enemy.

It was later discovered that there was someone behind the scenes and the murderer was someone else.

I think this sentence is very appropriate now. There are many things we cannot see clearly, and a large part of the reason is because of our lack of ability.

A friend didn’t believe in any financial management method before. He felt that it was just a way to defraud ordinary people out of money. The only way to save money is to deposit it in a bank. When she sees those people around her who are managing money, she will always give them a few words of advice, or secretly laugh at them for being so stupid.

What she didn’t know was that after others learned about her financial management methods, they also laughed at her for being stupid.

This year she suddenly wanted to learn financial management, so she signed up for some courses and spent a small amount of money to practice. Now she is more familiar with many financial management methods and knows how to reasonably allocate family financial management.

Different from last year, this year she talks about yield, leverage, safety first, insurance, funds, and a lot more.

In addition, she occasionally laments: Why did you think I was so stupid before? He doesn't know how to manage money at all, and he laughs at other people who manage money as stupid.

It’s just because she didn’t have the ability to manage money before, so she couldn’t understand the behavior of managing money. Now that her abilities have been improved through study, she understands many things and can see the benefits.

There is another friend who has always said before: What is so difficult about writing? All you need to do is hit the keyboard. Many writers have said that you can write well just by writing. You actually provide writing training? It's simply a money scam.

No matter how I explained, she didn’t believe what I said.

It brings tears to my eyes.

I am too lazy to argue with her, so I just let her say whatever she wants.

Last year, she suddenly had the urge to write. As a result, she realized how ignorant she was as soon as she started writing. Although it is said that you can write an article by typing on the keyboard, it takes a long time to type a word and you have no idea what to write. I can't bear to look at what I write, let alone make readers like it.

Later she tentatively asked: Can I learn from you?

I said: OK, pay first.

She said: We have such a good relationship, do we still need to pay?

Only when you pay money can there be a sense of ritual and you can study hard. Besides, you said I was a liar, no matter what, I have to defraud you of your money.

She decisively paid money to study in a group, and now she can write decently. Not only did I never say I was a liar, I often lamented: It turns out there are so many ways to write. I used to be ignorant of the vastness of the world, and I didn’t know that there was so much knowledge about such a small thing.

Many of us lack ability in some aspects, and therefore cannot understand some things. At this time, it is best not to veto those things that do not understand, and not to laugh at those who do not understand. Because it's very possible that it's just that your ability is limited and you can't understand it.

When faced with people and things that you don’t understand, don’t veto them easily. This will save you a lot of jokes. If you want to understand, the best way is of course to improve your abilities.

For example, if you can’t understand other people’s calligraphy and paintings, don’t easily criticize other people’s writing. Instead, learn about relevant knowledge and improve your own level of appreciation.

For example, if you don’t understand why others work so hard when they are so rich, don’t call others stupid easily, but find ways to make more money and improve your horizons.

Only in this way can you truly understand things that you couldn't understand before.

The less capable a person is, the less knowledge he has, and the cloudier his eyes will be.

Text/Tang Xiaoxiao